CBT session yesterday and ultrasound appointment.

woodbon

Hello,
My appointment with CBT went well yesterday. I talked a lot, and we went over things that I want to do and reasons I want to do CBT. I did learn that I've got to come to terms with what I can do and what I want to do, ha, so whats new? Excepting it, I think is the 'knew' thing for me. Anyway, it was a good start and I like the girl who's the councellor, which helps.

The bad thing about yesterday is that when I got home, the postman had brought me an appointment i wasn't expecting, for another pelvic scan. I don't know if you remember, but the MRI I had for my hips found a gynea cyst. So its back to the hospital for an ultra sound, but, not until the first week in Dec.

Hope everyone is as well as can be expected!
Love Sue xxx

cloud9

Glad you had a positive CBT session. It's great when you can find something/one that'll help.
Good luck for the scan. I'm free for pocket duties if you need?

suzygirl

Hi Sue, glad to hear that your CBT session went well. I had some sessions and found them very useful. I also have trouble 'accepting'. To have an outside neutral perspective is calming and enlightening.

I wish you well for your scan.

cacyhi

Its nice to know Im not alone. I had an assessment for counselling/pshycotherapy today on the telephone as this operation has brought up so much stuff about being in denial about the damage theRA and all the drugs have done over the years and the effects the illness has had on my life as a whole. At the moment, im gonna take allthe help I can get to get back on my feet, not just physically but mentally too.

So i wish you all the best with your therapy Sue and hope that it will be a great help to you.

CJHunter

Its so easy to ignore the mental side of this condition and what it brings, not just for you but for you family and friends.
A time for learning and re educating is in order and that can take some time to accept. We all deal with things and are effected differently but some how when it comes to the denial, grief etc we are all so similar.
Its great that you both are grabbing the theraapy woth both hands and i realy hope it helps.

Although I understand i have a condition, not knowing the full picture (in my case), and starting again, is bringing up the emotions of denial, intolerance,doubt,anger, oh the questions and it is driving me crazy. If I didnt have you guys i dont know what i would do.

Keep talking and use all the support given

julie47

Hi Sue

I am glad that the cbt session went well and I hope it helps you.
I also wish you luck for your scan in december.
Take care
Juliepf x

traluvie

Glad it went well yesterday..
Makes a difference to meet some-one who is nice and understands..
Hope all goes well with your scan, let us know how you get on..x

woodbon

Its really great, all the support you lot are giving me. I think that I was putting a lot of the symptoms down to 'nerves' when, in fact they are symptoms or symptoms made worse by physcological factors.
I think our lives are so full of stress and we push ourselves to achieve that theres no time to sit back and just 'be' or do something we want. I'm always pushing myself to the full with housework chores and worrying about things that may never happen that my life is filled with tiredness from that and now fatuge from the FM (if that is what it is!). I even feel guilty sitting reading the paper or going for a short walk. I am so slow now.
So its good to have someone say 'you do need to give in sometimes'. Mind you, my husband is always getting cross at me for doing things, he says although he won't do things the way I do and may leave the chores a lot longer than me, he WILL do them, and I'm causing him more worry by doing too much. I know I'm lucky to have hime be so understanding, and we are really very close, apart from the times I loose my temper and say horrible things and pack a case! I hope he'll beg me to stay, but he never has! I'm still here! :oops:
Sorry to go on, but I just wanted you to know how things are, if you are interested and have problems, we shut ourselves off too much and deny the problems until its too late sometimes, I was in danger of doing that.
Talking about mental problems is never easy, but if we can it might help. I hope this will help me and anyone feeling bad. I also know I've got a long way to go and sometimes I'll feel like poo, it an't easy! :shock:
Love Sue xxx

bubbadog

Glad everything went well with the CBT session and that you feel happy with it. Whenever you have sorted one problem out another rears it's ugly head! Well at least you have some time before the scan to chill alittle. Call if you want us for pocket duties.

suzygirl

Sue, you are not 'going on'. I totally understand, my poor hubby gets my frustration at times and I have to try hard to remember to ask for help, rather than doing it myself and getting all tired, crotchety and in pain. I find that arfur has affected me mentally, and I do struggle with it. I get anxious over jobs I can't do and things I should be doing but can't. I worry over lots of things and get frustrated by how limited my life is now and how isolated I am, as I am unable to work.


I think being honest about how we feel can help others. When I had CBT the therapist told me anyone would feel that way in my shoes, and told me not be ashamed I felt that way. She likened it to grieving, and her insight was really useful.

Your hubby obviously loves you and I am glad you have good support.

barbara12

Hi Sue
Im so glad your session went well for you, it will make next time much easier, and I really do wish you well with that appointment.

woodbon

Hi, Yes I can see the grieving part of arthr loosing to some degree indepenance and just being able to do what you fancy doing or plan something without thinking about any health problems. You do loose part of your life and comming to terms with that is hard and takes some adaptation, but in other ways you gain a knowledge of who your friends really are and for me a realisation of how close my husband and I are and its so moving to see him show in everyday things how he cares. I know that I am lucky to have someone like him and that a lot of partners of disabled and chroniclly sick people find it hard and sometimes impossible to cope with. I can understand to a degree how hard that must be and would never put someone down who couldn't cope. I think we need to find ways of giving people who care more time to rest and do their own thing. Well, thank you love Sue xxxx

frogmorton

Hi Sue

well done you - l think you are doing amazingly well!

Doing CBT can be life-changing and will really help. Glad the lady doing it is nice and you can relate to her.

Cris skezier sends her love too and is pleased you are going she asked me to post this for her.

Guilt for being slow? or not being able to do so much???....sigh l understand and hope the lady will help you to let go some of it.

Take care

Love

Toni xx