Knowing when to stop!!

CJHunter
CJHunter Member Posts: 1,038
edited 14. Nov 2011, 14:47 in Living with Arthritis archive
Has anyone learnt to listen to their bodies and know when to stop??

I feel ok so I do, then do some more, oh just a bit more, OUCH, too much. :x mad at myself for doing it, mad cos I am unable to and just fed up with it all.

Do you ever learn, or will I always be this pigheaded :roll:
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Comments

  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,838
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Clare

    well there you go - overdone it again have you??

    We all do it lass, but sometimes it was actually worth it.

    Rest up and take care for a bit

    Love

    toni xx
  • CJHunter
    CJHunter Member Posts: 1,038
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thanks Toni, do we ever learn?? I take it the answer to that is probably no :roll:
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  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I think by now I usually kind of know when I ought to stop. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't. Depends how interesting it is.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    to be honest i feel ok and could carry on but stop as know in the next couple of days my body will tell me i did to much sat went out for few hours and today well paying the price me i never learn val
    val
  • kellerman
    kellerman Member Posts: 741
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Been there,done that and then boy have I suffered.
    My OH told me I was an idiot but I had been feeling so good...only snag was I pushed it too far.
    Fantastic advice on here....pace yourself.

    I did take notice...well still have the odd do it day even though I know I'll suffer for it,but I do really try honest.
    I still get the pain if I don't do much but nothing like the pain I get when I have what I call my mad day.
    Rest is important.Easier said than done I know.It's really good advice and most of the time I'm a good girl!!!! May
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I think with me the answer is no.....I know.....but havent learned.
    I do advice people to pace themselves but i remember a pm from a friend saying......thats the pot calling the kettle black :lol::lol:
    Sometimes I know........ and if its worth it I do it.
    Other times I just feel better and do too much/go too far andsuffer...like now :roll:
    Love
    Hileena :grin:
  • traluvie
    traluvie Member Posts: 2,579
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I think we all do it luvie, our way of saying i'm not giving in lol..
    Unfortunately the pay back is a pain in the a*s..
    Sometimes i do listen to my body and other days i push myself,, i don't think i will ever learn completely.. :wink::smile:
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  • Fedup
    Fedup Member Posts: 38
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I found this thread quite interesting because I am newly diagnosed and am always doing more than I should and not really listening to my body until its too late, so its quite reassuring to know its normal and we all do it :lol: .

    However the fact that we are all here saying yes we know but........ really dosnt bode well :grin: its the usual do as I say not as I do I guess, im constantly being nagged by my OH for not taking my painkillers etc and as a nurse I would be telling my patients to keep on top of the pain not wait until it get so bad but hey I guess we are all very good at giving out good sound advice to each other just not following it ourselves!! :P
    Julie xxx
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yes ...it is very much do as I say and not as I do :wink: with me anyway
    I'm an ex nurse and I think we make the worse patients :lol:
    We know wht we should do a lot of the time but do we do it!!!!!!!! :roll:
    You need someone to tell you .....{same as I do} KEEEP ON TOP OF THE PAIN.....DONT PLAY CATCH UP......RIGHT!!!!! :wink:
    Love
    Hileena
  • CJHunter
    CJHunter Member Posts: 1,038
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hileena111 wrote:
    Yes ...it is very much do as I say and not as I do :wink: with me anyway
    I'm an ex nurse and I think we make the worse patients :lol:
    We know wht we should do a lot of the time but do we do it!!!!!!!! :roll:
    You need someone to tell you .....{same as I do} KEEEP ON TOP OF THE PAIN.....DONT PLAY CATCH UP......RIGHT!!!!! :wink:
    Love
    Hileena
    The problem is you never catch up !!!

    Thanks to all, its good to know im not alone in this. It is hard to stop when you know you need to or not to do things that will cause probs later.
    Its ok for the OH to say stop doing that or U really shouldnt you know, but to give in and listen is another thing entirely.
    Hey ho will hope to listen and learn one day.
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  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It is all very true, we do know but we always have to do that little bit more....
    Case in point today, cannot say I have overdone things but one potter leads to another and now my hip and feet are screaming. I have just had the “look” from OH, oh well rest tomorrow.... :roll:

    Lv, I x
  • CJHunter
    CJHunter Member Posts: 1,038
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Not the LOOK?!!

    Uh oh, thats worse than them saying anything
    :lol:

    Have good rest tommorrow, i will be at work
    :roll:, at least its a sitting job.

    Take care all.xx
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  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    In the bad old days when my RA was rampant and the OA had kicked in but I still hadn't had any replacements, Mr SW was always telling me to 'take it easy' and 'save my joints'. For what? I never understood that. It was then, when the kids were little, that I needed my joints to do their stuff, not in some indeterminate future. So I usually ignored him. You pay the price but if the price is worth it, why not? I don't regret any of it. Having said that, I didn't, by then, have to hold down a job as well.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I've learned that the secret is to stop when you think you can do more. I started a project today, I'm about a quarter of the way through and I know for a fact I could do the next quarter, but as I would actually quite like having a decent day tomorrow I haven't tried. I also still have a dinner to prepare, cook and clear so I need some reserve for that. The other 3/4 will be done as and when, of that I am sure.

    It's not an easy lesson to learn but it's to one's detriment if it isn't. It's even harder to learn if you are used to an active life but you've been battling with this for some while now, haven't you? It may well be the time to gracefully cede that, as things are not as they should be, it is now necessary to do less and to do it more slowly. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • CJHunter
    CJHunter Member Posts: 1,038
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I Know u r right DD, am still struggling with it after all these years.
    It is so easy for me to say to others but when it comes to me it all goes to pot.
    I suppose i am still in some sort of denial and hoping it will go away, the consultant has dismissed me so why hasnt the pain gone??
    Am being silly I know, just finding it hard to accept at mo for some reason.
    :sad:
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  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I am sure we all feel that from time to time, no matter for how long or short a time we've been playing this ghastly game. The pain hasn't gone because there is something not right - just because it no longer has a name doesn't mean it isn't there. This must be very frustrating for you but please ease some of that by being kinder to yourself, OK? DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • Poppyg1rl
    Poppyg1rl Member Posts: 1,245
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I'm frequently told by my family and friends to 'rest and save my energy' but as usual I have 'selective' hearing loss :lol: Ive been away for a long weekend returning this afternoon with hubby, while he's picked the boys up from after school rugby and then gone to get the food shopping, ive emptied the suitcases, put the washing on, fed the cat, made the bed and hoovered.
    If im honest, I'm sore and blinking exhausted :grin: but I won't moan, and i've put the 'oh, i only did a little bit' face on to hubby. I don't mind the pain IF I've worked hard, I don't mind feeling tired because I've earnt the right to.
    I object to feeling utterly fatigued when Im hit with a flare and all ive done is struggle to get out of bed to the loo! that's a whole different kettle of fish :wink: but for now I'm happy with a job well done.
    PS if I moan tomorrow at all, you can all tell me off :lol:
    'grá agus solas'
    'Love and Light' translated from Irish. X