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jenzie06
jenzie06 Member Posts: 708
edited 10. Jan 2012, 14:23 in Living with Arthritis archive
Not sure where to start really. Everything a little stressful at the moment. My Mum is out of hospital after her cancer op (she looks brill by the way but HUGE scar and can't yet wear clothes as its too sore). My husband is currently studying all the time when he is not at work as he has his Masters Degree exams in a few weeks. My little boy is fab although starting to test what he can get away with so has experienced the naughty spot on occasion.
I have been feeling quite down lately. Have put on loads of weight so can't fit into clothes comfortably but refuse to buy bigger as I don't want to give in to the weight. I don't have a bad diet, I don't snack between meals and don't drink. The main problem is exercise. I'm trying to do more exercise but my back is shot and is killing me. My consultant has dismissed it. I'm off to see my GP next week as I have felt abandoned by the hospital and been left to get on with it.
Then whenever I feel well enough to go out for a walk with my son I feel guilty for getting DLA. When I feel rubbish and can't walk I then fret that I'm going to be like this or worse forever.
I'm also fretting that I will become depressed.

Gosh I sound like a miserable ****. Sorry.

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  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    one of the best things you can do is get out when you can do not worry about dla i am sure even when you do walk it not the smooth easy walk of before you got bad. it is so good for you to get out and about when you are able you need the exercise to keep muscles strong that help the back so try not to worry about others just do what you feel is the right thing to do. you know your body and what you can do make the most of the good days it will help keep depresion at bay val
    val
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    No, you don't sound 'like a miserable ****', jenzie, though you have much to be miserable about. Don't be so hard on yourself. You've just seen your Mum through a big cancer op, you have a small boy to look after and your husband is largely not around to share stuff with. That would flatten many people but you are still coping, albeit with the odd wobble.

    Any chance of you seeing a physio, either NHS or private, about your back? It must be very hard with your little lad to handle. Someone else just wrote about swimming. I have a friend with a bad back and he swears by it.

    Above all, don't feel guilty about getting DLA. It's quite obvious, from reading these forums, that they don't give it out readily. If you've got it, you've earned it.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • bubbadog
    bubbadog Member Posts: 5,544
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hey Jenzie, Don't go battering yourself! You have every right to feel down! Your Mother is fighting Cancer, Your husband is studying hard, You have a young Son (who is draining you of your energy, what small amount you do have!) and you have Arther! Wow you should have a reward for still standing!!!
    So don't go round battering yourself for saying your miserable! You have every right for feeling down sweetie! And send my love to your mom!, she sounds like the terminator fighting her cancer! She should say to her friends 'I'll be back!' and she should say to the cancer ' est te la vista Cancer!' Sending you a big (((HUG))) cause you need one. If you ever want to talk just PM me .xxx
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,026
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jen

    good to see you. I am not surprised you are feeling miserable...think of the hard time you have all had lately (fantastic news about your Mum l am so pleased).

    You have a young boy to look after, a busy husband and a major health issue of your own.

    I think you should go out every chance you get with Harry in his pushchair....i understand your worry about appearing 'well', but it is good for you and him too.

    Love

    Toni xxx
  • Colin1
    Colin1 Member Posts: 1,769
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Take care its all a lot to cope with
    Colin
    WHEN GOD GIVES YOU LEMONS MAKE LEMONADE
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Aww Jen
    Dont apologise for the rant, you really needed that and it will do you good to get things off your chest.
    Im so glad your mum is home, wish her well from me
    Has for the weight..its such a vicious circle really...any exercise is better than none...im just doing arms at the min, anything that doesn't hurt really.
    Please try not to be so hard on yourself, weight for us women is such a big issue...but sometimes we do put to much into it.
    You take care...sending you loads of hugs (((((()))) xx
    Love
    Barbara

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