Gobsmacked!

Numptydumpty
Numptydumpty Member Posts: 6,417
edited 7. Feb 2012, 08:54 in Living with Arthritis archive
I truly am gobsmacked! I've just got off the phone to my sister in law. She told me she knows that I don't have RA (in spite of my being diagnosed six years ago with sero positive RA.) The reason she knows this is because she knows other people with RA and they don't have deformed joints, they don't walk with sticks or wear splints like I do, also they have remissions and I don't.
So I asked her what it is I do have then. She replied "I don't know, I'm not a doctor". Hah!

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  • pinkbritishstars
    pinkbritishstars Member Posts: 731
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Just wanted to send you a big hug xxx
  • jillyb1
    jillyb1 Member Posts: 1,725
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Good grief ; aren't families just fantastic ?! I suffer similar from my aunt , her stock phrase being , " well , I'm nearly 90 and I still manage to get around , you're just a bit lazy . " ! I just smile and compliment her on both her good health and vast extensive knowledge ! Jillyb
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Ohhhhhhh! dont people make you mad......especially if its family.
    What does she know....she not a docas she says.
    Sending you (((((((())))))))

    Love
    Hileena
  • elishapearcex
    elishapearcex Member Posts: 48
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    i wear a night split cause of my RA in my wrist so people do wear them and people are always like that i hear the sentance arnt you too young to have arthritis soo many times
    live life to the full and done let anything bring you down!!!!
  • Numptydumpty
    Numptydumpty Member Posts: 6,417
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, and thanks pinkbritishstars, hileena, and elishapearcex. Jillyb you did make me giggle. I might use that one, some day. Trouble is I can never think of a good come back at the time.
    Numpty
  • lorraines
    lorraines Member Posts: 77
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Unbelievable it never fails to amaze me how many arthur experts there are out there ! I've had reactions from looking at me with utter amazement (as though i'm making it up cos I look ok ) to oh I have that in my wrists/ankles but it hasn't started yet ?????? :D
  • soraya
    soraya Member Posts: 108
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    me to just because im not seen as anything other than slower in my pace of everything i do, i do wear the splints so helpful, but if they could just spend one day with the pain we constantly endure (and wish for one pain free day) maybe then they wouldnt be so hasty to judge sending gentle hugs(((()))))
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,087
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    O-K Numpty!!!!

    Please send her over here when she gets five and she can diagnose me too!!!

    a HUG from me for you too and some of my spare tolerance if it helps....in your shoes l would need some :roll:

    Love

    Toni xxx
  • bubbadog
    bubbadog Member Posts: 5,544
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hey there Dumpty, 1st off wanted to send you a big ((HUG)) and secondily it hurts more when it's family doesn't it! I had that with the family member who is now called 'the sperm donor' he just wouldn't stop saying horrible nasty things! Now I don't see him! my choice.
  • Starburst
    Starburst Member Posts: 2,546
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh goodness, what a horrid phone call to get. Your poor thing! Gentle hugs being sent your way! There's nothing worse than other people advising you, diagnosing you, putting down your professional diagnosis and just generally sticking their nose in where it's not wanted. Chin up and let it slide like water off a duck's back. I know it's hard though.

    xx
  • Numptydumpty
    Numptydumpty Member Posts: 6,417
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi everyone. Thanks for the lovely messages. I think in my sister in laws case , she just doesn't think before she opens her mouth. A couple of years ago, after a paticularly long and bad flare, which left me with deformed hands and needing sticks. I saw her, not having seen her for a while, and the first words she said were "Urgh! look at your hands!" As if I wasn't self conscious enough! I just said "yes I see them every day, and feel the pain in them". She said "It must be awful, it's making you old before yoir time". Arrgh!
    Any way I'm off to see the rheumatologist now. Such joy. Numpty
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi
    I think that is called......foot in mouth disease :lol::lol::lol:

    Love
    Hileena
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh poor you. How would she know?


    I have lovely hands, not one bent joint or ounce of pain, but I still have R.A. and you can't see my plastic hip unless you have x ray vision.

    Obviously she has a problem.....

    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • kellerman
    kellerman Member Posts: 741
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi,
    My eldest daughter is an expert!!!! I used to get really stupid remarks like for example..."Nanna wasn't like you" My Mum didn't have arthur.

    Now I just get tuts...I just totally ignore these.I don't care any more what she thinks or for the tuts.We know we are in pain why should we have to prove it to anybody....as for your SIL I would just totally ignore anything she says.When did she qualify?

    You take care May

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