Meltdown at work
sugarbuttie
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Hi everyone
I had a meltdown today at work and came home in tears. Someone had sent me a stroppy email and it was the 'straw that broke the camel's back'.
Yesterday I went over a deep pothole & got a puncture - it was my birthday. It cost me £70 to have a new tyre fitted today. This is the second new tyre in a month - last one caused by huge nail - another £70.
The email at work was the last straw...I went to the ladies in tears & eventually rang my boss from elsewhere in the building to tell her I could not pull myself together despite 20 mins of trying my best. She got all my stuff together, brought it to me where I was waiting outside and I came home.
It is the relentless pain and endless daily struggle that I am struggling to cope with. All I want to do is curl up in a ball and speak to noone but I can't as I have a job & two young children. As soon as I get up, I count the hours til I can lie down again. Today my body said, "ENOUGH!"
This keeps happening...it happened at the end of January...I broke dowen & couldn't face work. Was put on antidepressants and picked myself up but I have slipped down again.
Do you reach a point where you just cave in, like I have done today? Surely it can't just be me who can't cope....
I had a meltdown today at work and came home in tears. Someone had sent me a stroppy email and it was the 'straw that broke the camel's back'.
Yesterday I went over a deep pothole & got a puncture - it was my birthday. It cost me £70 to have a new tyre fitted today. This is the second new tyre in a month - last one caused by huge nail - another £70.
The email at work was the last straw...I went to the ladies in tears & eventually rang my boss from elsewhere in the building to tell her I could not pull myself together despite 20 mins of trying my best. She got all my stuff together, brought it to me where I was waiting outside and I came home.
It is the relentless pain and endless daily struggle that I am struggling to cope with. All I want to do is curl up in a ball and speak to noone but I can't as I have a job & two young children. As soon as I get up, I count the hours til I can lie down again. Today my body said, "ENOUGH!"
This keeps happening...it happened at the end of January...I broke dowen & couldn't face work. Was put on antidepressants and picked myself up but I have slipped down again.
Do you reach a point where you just cave in, like I have done today? Surely it can't just be me who can't cope....
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I think nearly all of us have reached that point. I walked out of my job in tears once cos I was told to move my car further away and I just couldn't walk. Got some antidepressants and felt a bit better for the rest too.
Give yourself some time to get over this and try to chill a bit. Go to the docs tomorrow and get signed off for a couple of weeks and if you need more anti-d's get them. It's not a weakness, I've been on them for years because I need them. Simple as that. If your pain relief isn't working you must tell your doc as well.
Give yourself some you time if you can.
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Yes I did it last week! I was feeling unwell ra flaring and I had 3 days of absolute exhaustion and deprrsion. I thouht my life was over I sobbed on here I sobbed to my partner. I slept when I could and did as little as possible. Then I woke up one morning with fight in me, I said I'm not going to let this disease drag me down. I bought multi vits I went to docs, I focused on my beautiful children and had fun with them aid I feel soo much better mentally not physically!
I hope you will turn around again too, u are definitely not alone, and we do have a lot to deal with. Look after yourself x x x0 -
i am so sorry to read that it got you so down yes it does get to all of us you are not on your own arthiritis messes with your head and the effort to cope with everyday life with out the rest of the stress that life throws at you rest when you can ((())) calval0
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Sorry to hear your feeling so low....we do all reach that point every so often
...then we carry on...we have to...have as much rest as you can...theres a long weekend comming up...try and give your body a rest/recharge if you can...take care.
.jaja0 -
Hiya,
Sorry to hear you had a very bad day today. I feel it's 'coming' for me, just not had it-yet.
Your description about wanting to curl up in a ball and talk to no-one, sounds exactly like the way I feel. I'm struggling daily with getting up in the morning. My first thought is 'Can I go into work?' The answer is always, yes. The reason-I have 2 small children and a mortgage. I'm scared about it now as it's getting harder and harder these days. I too just keep thinking-only 6hrs to go, then home and I then collapse in a heap. But you never get a rest do you? There's everything to do around the house and tend to the kids, it's never ending.
I think we all go through these episodes but it's not that you're not coping, it's what you've mentioned already-your body has had enough and you need some rest and 'time-out'.
Please don't worry about it, it'll pass and you'll feel better soon. Try and rest up as much as possible and don't worry about work.
Wishing you well,
Magenta x0 -
Hi
I just wanted to say im sorry this happened to you, the tyres and email were last nails in coffin eh? I guess everyone reaches a cresciondo where they feel they have had enough and yours was today...It sounds like your boss/company are sympathetic and thats a plus point to see.
I hope this, how can i put it, passes or eases but i just hope you feel a bit better soon...
You do great by the sounds of it every day/week/month...Dont beat yourself up too much eh?
Elainexsugarbuttie wrote:Hi everyone
I had a meltdown today at work and came home in tears. Someone had sent me a stroppy email and it was the 'straw that broke the camel's back'.
Yesterday I went over a deep pothole & got a puncture - it was my birthday. It cost me £70 to have a new tyre fitted today. This is the second new tyre in a month - last one caused by huge nail - another £70.
The email at work was the last straw...I went to the ladies in tears & eventually rang my boss from elsewhere in the building to tell her I could not pull myself together despite 20 mins of trying my best. She got all my stuff together, brought it to me where I was waiting outside and I came home.
It is the relentless pain and endless daily struggle that I am struggling to cope with. All I want to do is curl up in a ball and speak to noone but I can't as I have a job & two young children. As soon as I get up, I count the hours til I can lie down again. Today my body said, "ENOUGH!"
This keeps happening...it happened at the end of January...I broke dowen & couldn't face work. Was put on antidepressants and picked myself up but I have slipped down again.
Do you reach a point where you just cave in, like I have done today? Surely it can't just be me who can't cope....0 -
Maybe it your body saying enough, for a bit. Have a rest if you do need anything don't feel ashamed they help thats my experience. get whatever help u need. take care of your self. You will get through this. hugs joanneJoanne0
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I have`nt had a melt down as such ,we all reach our own "i have had enough" point,i hope you feel better soon in the meantime iam sending hugs and positive thoughts.Mig (((())))0
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Our bodies are under so much stress with this rotten disease, then factor in the other general fiddles and muddles of life and it's no wonder that we stumble from time to time. I do, you do, everyone on here does, and when it happens we need some time 'off' from the major stress to regain some strength and resolve. The 'falling down' doesn't count. What does is the 'getting up' and forging on again.
It may be time to have a word (if you haven't already done so) with your immediate boss/es about your work and to investigate whether anything can be done to 'simplify' your role, e.g. whether small break times can be brought in to enable you to rest a little, and that colleagues should be informed that you are not 'slacking' - you're a poorly girl. I wish you well. DDHave you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben0 -
Awww my heart goes out to you...
I feel that I am so 'lucky' having got RA in my fifties when my children are grown up and I am not working.
To have to go to work, look after two young children and run the home is hard enough in itself. To have a chronic, painful illness on top of that is really tough going. No wonder you had meltdown - anyone would. If you sit down and think of all you are doing in a day then you will realise you are coping very, very well
Very often I just want to curl up in a ball and see no one. I think that is 'nature' giving us a nudge saying have a rest you need it - and you need a rest now. If it were me I would go to the Doc and get a sick note for a week or two or take a few days holiday if you have any spare. Then you can recover a little.
These auto immune illnesses are so difficult to deal with. We are in constant pain, with fatigue that overwhelms us and we never feel well BUT we have to just try our best, as you are doing, to keep going and enjoy the little things in life that give us joy.
I hope you feel a little better very soon. I so admire all you younger ones with families. You just do so well...
Love Patricia x0 -
Hi Sugarbuttie
Yes i was like this , but had been very selfish to my family i didn't cook clean just sulked , i have started meds now and have picked up and feel good , although i keep on smoking . I really do not know what to suggest , show your boss the email and go from there , our probs are that our boss ignores emails and we the staff get shouted at by customers , it is soul destroying .You are not on your own , and that person whom sent you the nasty email is a CUT THROAT BITCH .
Take care
karen fowls0 -
Oh sugarbuttie, you have not 'caved in' or 'slipped down'. You are a remarkably brave woman who is struggling with a job, children and arthritis. Most people would have difficulties with any two out of the three. I know I did. I didn't work when my kids were young and it was all I could do to just get through each day.
I expect the stroppy email was just the straw that broke the camel's back. That's how it is. We cope with the big stuff and get so used to that that it's the little things that sneak up on us and catch us unawares. I think also that, when permanently exhausted and stressed, we lack both physical and emotional resources to deal with any small 'extras'.
I don't know what the solution is for you but I guess there's no easy one. Might it help to talk things through with someone from the Helplines? You would have someone there who really understands your situation.If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
Steven Wright0 -
Hello Sugarbuttie
Just to say I am so sorry things are so tough for you and that I am thinking of you.
Lots love Tillyxxx0 -
I'm 55 and lucky that I didn't get RA until about 3 years ago so my kids are grown up and I don't have to worry about that. I haven't got to the stage of having a meltdown but do collapse in to a chair as soon as I get home from work and sometimes don't get up again other than to get something to eat then go to bed. I don't know how someone manages to look after kids on top of that. I hope you manage to get some rest and feel better soon.Christine0
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