Bad day - very upset

freesia

I just needed to 'vent' my upset & emotions..... Sorry.....

Since my bilateral knee surgery - which has left me with two lovely (NOT) long scars... I went shopping today to find some new shorts for an upcoming holiday....

I try and avoid crop jeans as the fabric is a little rough and catches the sensitive area's at the sides of my knees.... I'm a bit of a tomboy and don't really wear dresses or skirts either...

I was optimistic and took 3 pairs of different designs into the changing room, but ended up in tears, I simply just cannot bear to look at my scars, they are horrible...

When they eventually replace my knees - I will have two more long scars.

I know this sounds silly - but I was really upset - I just feel so unfeminine now.... I have also gained some weight (due to the lack of movement and exercise) and of course this does not help matters...

Sorry - I know this sounds fickle & daft, but this really upset me today...

Colin1

Hey there freesia talking of hugs come here now, have a huge hug, there now is that better I can tell by your posts you are very feeling and indeed very, very feminine, Ill bet know one even notices them scars. As for the gain in weight well it goes with the territory with people like us i hate being overweight but since i had that last heart attack not getting much exercise at all and boy can i eat, ill eat for England. "Ill bet your a stunner" no matter what you wear. However looking good is also a feeling so sort your head out and get some happy positive thoughts going. I was on a diet before the heart attack and lost just on a stone but its hard bloody work especially when your unfit and unable to exercise. Should we start a diet and exercise thread. Go on girl you can do it.
Take care and try not to feel to bad your a beautiful person
Colin

Numptydumpty

Oh Freesia, I am so sorry to hear this.I can relate to how you are feeling. Although I don't have scars, my hands and feet are deformed. There is no hiding my hands, and as for my feet, well, pretty sandals are right out! I hate the looks of them and I'm quite embarrassed by them. I also am over weight, even though I'm very careful what I eat.
It does get you down, but I know from your posts, you are a strong resilient person. You are having to put up with a lot of crap at the moment, but you will get through it. You are not being fickle or daft, just human!
Wishing you well,
Numpty

dreamdaisy

I have a very long scar on my left knee which I loathe even though it's fairly neat. Shorts went out of the window years ago, now the garb of choice is a long, ground-sweeping skirt - it hides a multitude of sins and is so much easier to put on. I reckon that if I wore longer shorts no-one would look twice - even though we are VERY aware of these things those around us when we're out and about won't be - too wrapped up in themselves I guess. :roll: Loose linen trousers are cool in the warmer months and look OK too - do you have any of those? The legs can always be rolled up a little for the 'cropped' look but that shouldn't affect the more sensitive bits. I empathise Freesia, it feels like another blow to us as women. DD

valval

hi i have awful scar on stomache from years ago and would not put bikini on for years but i feel that no one is going to look at me there are lovely young things about who are much kinder on the eye than i am so this holiday i got a couple for use on beach and sunbeds did not get any strange looks so will take them next holiday as well. i had a friend at school with long scars on each knee we knew they were there (this was when girls had to wear skirts) but they were just a part of her it was not the first thing you noticed about her.
so i understand where you are coming from and how you feel but as others have said others will not notice as much as you fear and if it people you will never see again what does it matter ((())) val

hileena111

Oh I do understand how you feel.....I wont wear shorts now.
I wear summer trousers.....light ones....I had white {cotton type} ones on today with a nice top and didnt feel unfeminine.
They are widish ones....but not overly baggy {sorry not very good explanation} I have a pair of white, pr of light tan and a pair pf peach ones....thats enough for our summer.
I live in jeans a lot of the time in colder weather. Its not because of scars that I wont wear skirts, its because of my hips and not being able to wear heels and feeling so frunpy in flats and a skirt. I have very bad veins in the backs of my knees thats mainly why I wont wear shorts.
Sending you lots of hugs(((((())))))
Love
Hileena

barbara12

Hi Freesia
Like the others have said I bet other wont notice them half as much has you do.
Not sure if you know but the red cross do camouflage makup, my niece has very bad burns from being young, and she uses it, not sure what it cost, but you can get a great match with all the colours they have,
Here some hugs ((((((()))) x

elainebadknee

Fresia

I can understand you feeling the way you do..Even if you are a tomboy you still want to look nice for your hols....I was thinking of the same situation really as on holiday in september and may have had surgery (TKR) plus ive got scars from varius arthroscopies/loose bodies removal....I tried on a maxi dress the other day in asda and loked horrendous as it was way too long! ARGH! Im thinking going down the route of long skirts, not a big fan of them but they may be best situation...
Also can relate to people seeing your scars...Awlays remember in my 20's going out after loose body removal and had on a skirt just above knee...Was fine till in one pub a bloke looked at me and said "eh whats that on your leg"...Left crying....
Im also not skinny but have lost 3 stone so I'll never be a skinny minnie....See some sights on hols that shouldnt be llet out!

Hope you feel better soon, dont give up..

Elainex

freesia wrote:

I just needed to 'vent' my upset & emotions..... Sorry.....

Since my bilateral knee surgery - which has left me with two lovely (NOT) long scars... I went shopping today to find some new shorts for an upcoming holiday....

I try and avoid crop jeans as the fabric is a little rough and catches the sensitive area's at the sides of my knees.... I'm a bit of a tomboy and don't really wear dresses or skirts either...

I was optimistic and took 3 pairs of different designs into the changing room, but ended up in tears, I simply just cannot bear to look at my scars, they are horrible...

When they eventually replace my knees - I will have two more long scars.

I know this sounds silly - but I was really upset - I just feel so unfeminine now.... I have also gained some weight (due to the lack of movement and exercise) and of course this does not help matters...

Sorry - I know this sounds fickle & daft, but this really upset me today...

freesia

Hi there - Today is a new day.....!! I'm Starting afresh...

Thank you "everyone...!" for all your kind words & support... and BIG HUGS.. :P

When I feel emotionally & phyically strong enough, I'm gonna have a good sort through my wardrobe and be ruthless and get rid (via charity bags/shops) of all those clothes that no longer fit & I'm clearly not gonna wear again, and also my shoe collection, I used to wear some lovely but shocking high heels & strappy sandels, which I'll never be able to wear again... currently living in u*g boots which are so comfy...

Thanks again everyone... Your such a lovely bunch...xx

fowls48

Hi Freesia


Sorry i missed your post .I am glad you are in better spirits today .
I have a long sparagus vein on the front of my left leg it is not bulbarous but blue all the same .I hate it i cannot even cover it up with a suntan as my skin is so fare

karen xx