Partner of possible RA sufferer
Hi, not sure if this forum is for partners as well? My boyfriend may have RA. He suspects he's had it since he was a toddler as has always had trouble with his knees in particular, they noticed it when he started walking. He was poked and prodded for years but never diagnosed, and I'm guessing as soon as he was old enough to decide for himself, he'd had enough. He now has a huge fear of needles and won't go get tested despite the pain he's in. He's 22 and needs a cane to walk. I'm so scared for the future as I'm pregnant and can't help seeing him ending up crippled and not being able to be the dad I know he wants to be.. Just really need to talk to someone because he's in denial about needing help and I'm afraid I'll never convince him and he'll be in a wheelchair by 30. I realise it may not be RA but it's what he suspects. I really don't know what to do, I hate bringing him down by forcing discussion about the future on him but I'm so scared for him and us. Sorry I'm rambling... didn't expect to write this much, guess I've been holding it in a while.