How Do People'e Minds Work?

elainebadknee

Hi

My brother was on the phone this morning and his partner's son is looking for a job, he had an interview in Aldi yesterday...Now get this, the conversation then turns to me and he says to my mum "a job like that would be good for Elaine"....What planet is he off? I gave up retial jobs years ago as it exasperated my arthritis in my bad knee..I do now have a new knee but can't ever see me going back to standing on my feet for 7hours a day, let alone lug about pallets, run to tills at moments notice and dismantle displays. etc...
I do want to find a job in the next couple of months but something that is possible for me to do as well....
It just bemuses me, maybe that's how people's minds work, they think "she's had her TKR so she now has nothing wrong with her"....It is doing well but I still have the aches, pains, stiffness and other teething trroubles one would expect...

Elainexx

sbolam

I do understand where your coming from. its the same when I get oh, its only Arthritis...pisses me right off.

stephen. :P

elainebadknee

Stephen

Its bonkers aint it? They must see something I don't see - Im a stiff as an old goat!

Elainexx

sbolam wrote:

I do understand where your coming from. its the same when I get oh, its only Arthritis...pisses me right off.

stephen. :P

barbara12

Aw Elaine you seem to have everyone on your back, just you concentrate on getting that knee right then you can show them..and you are so right not to want to stand for hours on end...xx

constable

I have a brother who is exactly the same. He just cant understand why I cant do various things. He seems to think that arthritis is nothing and cant be painful. Well, guess what.....He has now been diagnosed with it in his elbow. And he keeps complaining to me how bad it is.....Would you believe it.

babytiger

Oh you poor soul Elaine... folks just don't understand do they...I usually get it a t work. When folks say their hands etc are playing up ,I say "I know how you feel, I get that too " to be told how would you know your too young

elainebadknee

Barbara

Me mum says he didnt know people at Aldi couldnt just stay on the tills...I mean come on he is an intelligent man!! I cant stand for hours on this knee, new or not!


Elainexx

barbara12 wrote:

Aw Elaine you seem to have everyone on your back, just you concentrate on getting that knee right then you can show them..and you are so right not to want to stand for hours on end...xx

elainebadknee

Karen

Waht goes around come around springs to mind....My brother even when he came down right after me op was always comparing me to his gf who had had major surgery for a tumour taken out of her lung but why do that...There's no comparison TKR versus tumour on lung?

Elainexx

constable wrote:

I have a brother who is exactly the same. He just cant understand why I cant do various things. He seems to think that arthritis is nothing and cant be painful. Well, guess what.....He has now been diagnosed with it in his elbow. And he keeps complaining to me how bad it is.....Would you believe it.

elainebadknee

Babytiger

Even the arthroplasty practitioner when I had to ring up 3 weeks ago as was hacving pain in new knee had to ask 3 times how old I was (45) and he said "**oody hell, your'e veryr young aint you!....

Elainexx

babytiger wrote:

Oh you poor soul Elaine... folks just don't understand do they...I usually get it a t work. When folks say their hands etc are playing up ,I say "I know how you feel, I get that too " to be told how would you know your too young

Helenbothknees

Elaine,

People just don't know. When I posted on Facebook 8 weeks after my TKR that the consultant was happy, my photographer colleague asked if that meant we were back on for our freelance interviewing/writing jobs....and these involve travelling hundreds of miles and 16 hour days at times!!!! I had to explain that I hoped to do them next year, but right now there was no way I had the energy.

However, for the record, I'm planning on getting going on those again in the spring. And I could certainly stand on my feet all day, or do anything else involved in working at Aldi, and my op was 7 months ago. Now, I'm not you, I'm just saying that's me. So maybe don't assume you'll NEVER be able to do that sort of thing again....you might....

tkachev

"It will be good for you".....mmmmm its that word 'good' again as if you would benefit in some way.

Families can drive you mad! They never see the full picture and I'm often amazed at the rubbish they come out with. My OH dad has dreadful pain in his knees but he gave me a filfthy look and said ' he had to carry on'' as if I don't! Well its all I ever have done-keep on going despite some awful pain.

If you stay at home you are somehow seen as 'not doing anything'. Take your recovery slowley and do not set yourself back.


Elizabeth

elainebadknee

Elizabeth

I just don't know the logical thinking behind it..I mean i don't like retail jobs and the only one i would take would be on a till...You get treated like a piece of dirt, not that admin is much better but I really wanted out of it 8 or 9 years ago...

Elainexx

tkachev wrote:

"It will be good for you".....mmmmm its that word 'good' again as if you would benefit in some way.

Families can drive you mad! They never see the full picture and I'm often amazed at the rubbish they come out with. My OH dad has dreadful pain in his knees but he gave me a filfthy look and said ' he had to carry on'' as if I don't! Well its all I ever have done-keep on going despite some awful pain.

If you stay at home you are somehow seen as 'not doing anything'. Take your recovery slowley and do not set yourself back.


Elizabeth

elainebadknee

Helen

Well for me I doubt very much if I will ever go back to retial, standing for hours each day...It just wouldn;t do me or my knees old and present any good...I would however consider most jobs if it was a choice of working or not...
I have applied for a job with local council in post room hoping to at least get an interview...

As I cant swim properly I know my limits..

Elainexx

Helenbothknees wrote:

Elaine,

People just don't know. When I posted on Facebook 8 weeks after my TKR that the consultant was happy, my photographer colleague asked if that meant we were back on for our freelance interviewing/writing jobs....and these involve travelling hundreds of miles and 16 hour days at times!!!! I had to explain that I hoped to do them next year, but right now there was no way I had the energy.

However, for the record, I'm planning on getting going on those again in the spring. And I could certainly stand on my feet all day, or do anything else involved in working at Aldi, and my op was 7 months ago. Now, I'm not you, I'm just saying that's me. So maybe don't assume you'll NEVER be able to do that sort of thing again....you might....

Helenbothknees

That job sounds ideal; good luck!

elainebadknee

Helen

I will get an interview as ticked the box that have physical problem and as long as meet the essential criteria they will interview...I will be pleased to just get that far...

Elainex

Helenbothknees wrote:

That job sounds ideal; good luck!

chookgate

Good luck with the job application Elaine. You may not be able to do a retail job, but there's plenty of things you can do, and make a more than valuable contribution to the company as well!

Physical things are funny though, I thought I was doing really well (post TKR) - went on a 3 mile bike ride to the nearest Costa yesterday, and back again, and was fine, but today I had a 6 hour round trip car ride (wasn't driving!) to go to a funeral, and I'm in agony from the restricted position in the car - and not being able to do my stretching/rom exercises all day.

elainebadknee

Chook

I want to go back to work but somewhere where they realise I can't kneel and do a few other things, not just yet...It's getting given that chance of course as employers will just see a big gap in CV..I personally think having my TKR was one of the bravest, best things I have done, I have taken control back of my life...
Know what you mean re sitting in car, I can't stay in back seat long at all in fact just into town and back (15mins max) hurts me a lot...I've not been any big distances apart from back to Wrightington but could sit in front with sat shoved right back...Wehn we go over bumps I still hold my knee as it feels like its rocking!!?

Elainexx

chookgate wrote:

Good luck with the job application Elaine. You may not be able to do a retail job, but there's plenty of things you can do, and make a more than valuable contribution to the company as well!

Physical things are funny though, I thought I was doing really well (post TKR) - went on a 3 mile bike ride to the nearest Costa yesterday, and back again, and was fine, but today I had a 6 hour round trip car ride (wasn't driving!) to go to a funeral, and I'm in agony from the restricted position in the car - and not being able to do my stretching/rom exercises all day.

barry2013

Good luck with the job interview, a neighbour dropped round for coffee yesterday, she had her TKR three weeks ago and is walking really well and is pain free, but csn't drive yet, guess it just proves that everyone heals at their own pace, my TKR takes place next Tues, so will be able to make my own comments then.
Barry.

elainebadknee

Barry

Everyone does heal at different paces your'e right...However I had to give up retail as it played havoc with my bad knee, I think going back to it would be plain crazy!! Besides you get dogs abuse sometimes working in shops, dont envy the people who do it just now!!

Good luck, hope to hear your story soon!

Elainexx

barry2013 wrote:

Good luck with the job interview, a neighbour dropped round for coffee yesterday, she had her TKR three weeks ago and is walking really well and is pain free, but csn't drive yet, guess it just proves that everyone heals at their own pace, my TKR takes place next Tues, so will be able to make my own comments then.
Barry.