My baby is leaving home

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gilly1957
gilly1957 Member Posts: 212
edited 16. Jun 2013, 12:31 in Community Chit-chat archive
My youngest son took his final uni exam yesterday and also got a job offer.

I am delighted and so proud he has managed to get a job but it is in Sheffield, so he will be moving from home, I live in Blackpool.
It seems really hard, I guess as he is the youngest, , I have 4 sons altogether, one local,one in Weymouth and one in USA.

I don't have a lot of friends here, and I have also got to try and move because of the bedroom tax.....not happy :(

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  • Numptydumpty
    Numptydumpty Member Posts: 6,417
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    ((((()))))
    Numpty x
  • villier
    villier Member Posts: 4,426
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    Gilly haven't got a lot of words for you huni as I have never had a family but got loads of ((((()))) for you, don't have any family around me where I stay, try and get yourself interested in maybe voluntary work or something that will keep you busy, you have loads of people on here that care so don't be alone........tc...............Marie xx
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    smile another smile and soon there
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  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,622
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    OH Gilly

    I am so sorry....but pleased for him. You must be so proud as well as a bit sad.

    I am about to face the eldest going TO university and it's not great is it?

    Now as for your house move......maybe 'they' can fine you a nice bungalow....or a move to a nice area. Something to benefit you as well. Such an upheaval for you, but - less cleaning?

    Take care now

    Love

    toni xxx
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,730
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    Well done to your youngest! Of course you are proud. And quite relieved, too, I imagine, that he's got a job. Even graduates are finding it tough to get employment.

    Yes, the 'nest' will seem a bit empty and it's even more tough if you must move but I hope it will be a positive step whereby the new, slimline you steps into a new and exciting future.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
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    Aww Gilly..I do feel for yoiu..I have 2 sons but they both live nearby...you must be so proud of him...this bedroom tax is awful I do hope they have a change of mind..I know quite a few people that will have to move because of it....I do hope things work out for you..and dont forget you have us lort has cyber friends...((()))xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • gilly1957
    gilly1957 Member Posts: 212
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    Thank you all for your lovely posts and the hugs,

    they are much appreciated... :)
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
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    Wow he got a job offer straight away. Well done to your Son and I hope his jobs works out well.

    My oldest children both left home and I was upset at first because I didn't feel they were ready but they have both done so well, juggling jobs and uni and various unpaid roles they have also taken on and proved they can cope.I do have younger children so I still have my hands full (1 will never leave home due to his autism) and that does make a difference but without them I would spend more time socialising and reading and painting.

    You are still their Mum and I'm sure you will get to see them whenever they need home cooking or a much needed hug. In the meantime see if you can join a local club (I appreciate you have health issues) or volunteer to make some new friends.

    Also the internet can be a blessing for chatting and making new friends.

    Elizabeth
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    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • Michelle63
    Michelle63 Member Posts: 63
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    Well done to your son. My youngest is also off to Uni in September ( grades permitting!!! ) my eldest lives with her grandparents near to her work and her sister has just finshed her 2nd year at Uni.........oh no.......I will have to make conversation with my husband :mrgreen:
  • gilly1957
    gilly1957 Member Posts: 212
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    Michelle....hope you find something interesting to talk about with hubby :roll:

    Hope your youngest gets the results she needs.

    My son has been to view a house share today, won't be long till he is off, end of the month.

    I have been buying tins/packets and pasta to start him off, bought him some bedding to help out, his first month will be tight for him financially.

    I'l be talking to the walls !!! :roll:
  • Michelle63
    Michelle63 Member Posts: 63
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    Exciting times ahead. I am also thankful that he didn't do A level maths.Apparently today's A2 paper was the most horrific. My sons friend who is predicted A* found it awful as did our maths teacher at the school I work at. This could potentially affect thousands of Uni places. :(
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
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    Michelle63 wrote:
    Exciting times ahead. I am also thankful that he didn't do A level maths.Apparently today's A2 paper was the most horrific. My sons friend who is predicted A* found it awful as did our maths teacher at the school I work at. This could potentially affect thousands of Uni places. :(


    Thanks for the heads up Michelle. I am hoping my Son chooses maths at A level and even uni. I thought it would be a useful subject for the future.

    E x
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • Airwave!
    Airwave! Member Posts: 2,468
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    Its just the noise, or lack of it that matters, all the noises around the house and then quiet......

    When they leave home you know that you have done your part and now its their turn.
  • gilly1957
    gilly1957 Member Posts: 212
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    Well he is all sorted and will be off in about 2 weeks...

    He has found what seems to be a nice house share, all working people.
    Its all just been refurbished and everyone living there will all be new tenants so it will be new for all of them.

    On top of everything else it has been stressful, I am a long time divorced and he asked his dad if he would be his guarantor ....the answer was a resounding NO....like it always is if any of them ask for any help!!!!

    he was very upset but not surprised, he phoned who will be his landlady and explained and he was told not to worry,that she trusted him after one meeting......which is more than his dad did....his words!

    So my chaotic stressful life continues :roll: :roll: