Judge not......

stickywicket
stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
edited 6. Nov 2013, 06:38 in Living with Arthritis archive
Morrison's car park. The lady getting into her car, in the adjoining BB bay, as we were arriving waited for me to get out first. She didn't look too disabled and I knew Voluntary PC Mr SW would be grunting and muttering under his breath.

As we walked towards the store something made me look back. She still hadn't closed her car door and seemed to be having difficulty with it. I went back and asked if she'd like me to close it for her.

She gratefully explained that, owing to a spinal condition, once her left leg was in the car it was very hard for her to reach the door handle. i told her I used a bit of cord knotted through the handle and hung grimly onto as I got in the car. She was delighted with that idea.

I then closed her door for her and told the grunting one to shut the asterisk up. Not every disability is as visible as his wife's.
If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
Steven Wright

Comments

  • mike26
    mike26 Member Posts: 416
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    how right
    you are stickywicket we dont know how others are ,and it dosent always show . so many disabilitys to put you in blue badge ..
    it was good you was there to help, another good deed done
    well done stickywicket.. :P
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 9,089
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Sticky
    that's your good deed done not everyone would have bothered.
    but you did.
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • villier
    villier Member Posts: 4,426
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    That was so kind of you Sticky to go back and help the woman, I know people look at me and wonder what the fiddlers is up with me as I look so healthy, although, I tend to shuffle a bit when I walk due to my neuropathic sore feet.............well done Sticky your good deed done for the day xx
    Smile a while and while you smile
    smile another smile and soon there
    will be miles and miles of smiles
    just because you smiled I wish your
    day is full of Smiles
  • Boomer13
    Boomer13 Member Posts: 1,931
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yes sticky, that was very good of you. Most wouldn't have bothered, especially with those of us who look like we should be able to do anything & everything.
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    :oops: :oops: :oops: Oops. This post wasn't intended to indicate how saintly I am. Anyone who knows me wouldn't even consider me a candidate :lol: I just meant that we all, self included, sometimes judge on appearances...and appearances can be very deceptive.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • villier
    villier Member Posts: 4,426
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yes, we know what you were meaning, but take the praise graciously woman :lol: xx
    Smile a while and while you smile
    smile another smile and soon there
    will be miles and miles of smiles
    just because you smiled I wish your
    day is full of Smiles
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I told you I wasn't saintly, Marie :lol:
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • elainebadknee
    elainebadknee Bots Posts: 3,703
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Sticky

    Ah good on you bet she was glad she had been next to you eh?

    I had bad experience other day, went for a prescription and they told me it would be about 20mins so I had to go back to the car sort out a shoppping trolley was selling to someone, it was not packaged properly and had tape, scissors. So had boot up and was parcelling up quite clearly and this car comes round the corner. I know the old battleaxe and she is a hellish driver, so mouthed "sorry not going" but she never saw me, I carried on parcelling up. Then a screech yelps out "are you going to be moving anytime today or not"...Well I said sorry I was not and drew her a filthy look too, she in turn said to a young child sat next to her "ooh look at that face" cackling! I'm afraid I lost the plot and went over to the vehicle and asked her please not to talk to me like that....I then finished off what I was doing and had to go back in for prescription....

    Elainexx
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Good for you SW...its surprising how you can easily judge people..especially the young...being like I am has focused my mind....but my hubby is a grunter... :roll:
    Love
    Barbara
  • thistlegirl
    thistlegirl Member Posts: 229
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I have had a blue since my mid 20s. I had to quickly get used to the glares as i parked. I don't always "look disabled" but if I feel it I use the badge. I have once been approached with the angry comment "You don't look disabled!" to which my reply of "If that is meant to be a compliment it isn't?" It is more hassle dealing with the parking police, ie the other members of my family who now feel the need to check the badge status of every car in a disabled space! I just need to get my shopping done!

    thistle
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It is easy to jump to conclusions, isn't it? We all do it, it's a natural human reaction. The BB system is a solution for a problem but with it being applied to a wide-range of cases it can appear that someone who has no visible form of disability could be swindling that system. Daisy is a repository for a variety of sticks, crutches and the Clatterator - that kinda gives the game away with me.

    Let people grunt and mutter. What irks me more is those who are too lazy to walk across a car park so grab a BB space 'because they're only popping in'.

    I rather like your practical solution, Sticky, to the door-closing problem. I shall attach summat to my driver's door because it is ocassionally a problem for me. Thank you for the hint. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • bubbadog
    bubbadog Member Posts: 5,544
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Sticky

    Ah good on you bet she was glad she had been next to you eh?

    I had bad experience other day, went for a prescription and they told me it would be about 20mins so I had to go back to the car sort out a shoppping trolley was selling to someone, it was not packaged properly and had tape, scissors. So had boot up and was parcelling up quite clearly and this car comes round the corner. I know the old battleaxe and she is a hellish driver, so mouthed "sorry not going" but she never saw me, I carried on parcelling up. Then a screech yelps out "are you going to be moving anytime today or not"...Well I said sorry I was not and drew her a filthy look too, she in turn said to a young child sat next to her "ooh look at that face" cackling! I'm afraid I lost the plot and went over to the vehicle and asked her please not to talk to me like that....I then finished off what I was doing and had to go back in for prescription....

    Elainexx

    Some people are unbelievable!! I must admit if someone's rude to me I always make a rude comment back! My OH makes out he would stand up for me but most of the time he shrinks and pretends he's not there!!

    And good for you Sticky, I'd make a guess 85% of people wouldn't ask if someone needed help Your on your way to a sainthood!! :D