Judge not......

stickywicket

Morrison's car park. The lady getting into her car, in the adjoining BB bay, as we were arriving waited for me to get out first. She didn't look too disabled and I knew Voluntary PC Mr SW would be grunting and muttering under his breath.

As we walked towards the store something made me look back. She still hadn't closed her car door and seemed to be having difficulty with it. I went back and asked if she'd like me to close it for her.

She gratefully explained that, owing to a spinal condition, once her left leg was in the car it was very hard for her to reach the door handle. i told her I used a bit of cord knotted through the handle and hung grimly onto as I got in the car. She was delighted with that idea.

I then closed her door for her and told the grunting one to shut the asterisk up. Not every disability is as visible as his wife's.

mike26

how right
you are stickywicket we dont know how others are ,and it dosent always show . so many disabilitys to put you in blue badge ..
it was good you was there to help, another good deed done
well done stickywicket.. :P

dachshund

Hello Sticky
that's your good deed done not everyone would have bothered.
but you did.
joan xx

villier

That was so kind of you Sticky to go back and help the woman, I know people look at me and wonder what the fiddlers is up with me as I look so healthy, although, I tend to shuffle a bit when I walk due to my neuropathic sore feet.............well done Sticky your good deed done for the day xx

Boomer13

Yes sticky, that was very good of you. Most wouldn't have bothered, especially with those of us who look like we should be able to do anything & everything.

stickywicket

:oops: :oops: :oops: Oops. This post wasn't intended to indicate how saintly I am. Anyone who knows me wouldn't even consider me a candidate I just meant that we all, self included, sometimes judge on appearances...and appearances can be very deceptive.

villier

Yes, we know what you were meaning, but take the praise graciously woman xx

stickywicket

I told you I wasn't saintly, Marie

elainebadknee

Sticky

Ah good on you bet she was glad she had been next to you eh?

I had bad experience other day, went for a prescription and they told me it would be about 20mins so I had to go back to the car sort out a shoppping trolley was selling to someone, it was not packaged properly and had tape, scissors. So had boot up and was parcelling up quite clearly and this car comes round the corner. I know the old battleaxe and she is a hellish driver, so mouthed "sorry not going" but she never saw me, I carried on parcelling up. Then a screech yelps out "are you going to be moving anytime today or not"...Well I said sorry I was not and drew her a filthy look too, she in turn said to a young child sat next to her "ooh look at that face" cackling! I'm afraid I lost the plot and went over to the vehicle and asked her please not to talk to me like that....I then finished off what I was doing and had to go back in for prescription....

Elainexx

barbara12

Good for you SW...its surprising how you can easily judge people..especially the young...being like I am has focused my mind....but my hubby is a grunter... :roll:

thistlegirl

I have had a blue since my mid 20s. I had to quickly get used to the glares as i parked. I don't always "look disabled" but if I feel it I use the badge. I have once been approached with the angry comment "You don't look disabled!" to which my reply of "If that is meant to be a compliment it isn't?" It is more hassle dealing with the parking police, ie the other members of my family who now feel the need to check the badge status of every car in a disabled space! I just need to get my shopping done!

thistle

dreamdaisy

It is easy to jump to conclusions, isn't it? We all do it, it's a natural human reaction. The BB system is a solution for a problem but with it being applied to a wide-range of cases it can appear that someone who has no visible form of disability could be swindling that system. Daisy is a repository for a variety of sticks, crutches and the Clatterator - that kinda gives the game away with me.

Let people grunt and mutter. What irks me more is those who are too lazy to walk across a car park so grab a BB space 'because they're only popping in'.

I rather like your practical solution, Sticky, to the door-closing problem. I shall attach summat to my driver's door because it is ocassionally a problem for me. Thank you for the hint. DD

bubbadog

elainebadknee wrote:

Sticky

Ah good on you bet she was glad she had been next to you eh?

I had bad experience other day, went for a prescription and they told me it would be about 20mins so I had to go back to the car sort out a shoppping trolley was selling to someone, it was not packaged properly and had tape, scissors. So had boot up and was parcelling up quite clearly and this car comes round the corner. I know the old battleaxe and she is a hellish driver, so mouthed "sorry not going" but she never saw me, I carried on parcelling up. Then a screech yelps out "are you going to be moving anytime today or not"...Well I said sorry I was not and drew her a filthy look too, she in turn said to a young child sat next to her "ooh look at that face" cackling! I'm afraid I lost the plot and went over to the vehicle and asked her please not to talk to me like that....I then finished off what I was doing and had to go back in for prescription....

Elainexx

Some people are unbelievable!! I must admit if someone's rude to me I always make a rude comment back! My OH makes out he would stand up for me but most of the time he shrinks and pretends he's not there!!

And good for you Sticky, I'd make a guess 85% of people wouldn't ask if someone needed help Your on your way to a sainthood!!