I think I cope OK

stickywicket

I've never felt 'Why me?' as the obvious, only answer is 'Why not?'.

I've never felt that arthritis snatched my life away, partly because I hadn't had much life at 15 and partly because it didn't. I've had a good life.

I've never seen the point in banging on about pain because re-distributing it is no solution.

But, with the Commonwealth Games barely started, it does make my intolerant hackles rise when I keep hearing about all these athletes 'going through the pain barrier' and 'really hurting now'.

So let them stop. They have the luxury of an option

tjt6768

Well said.
I also hate those adverts where 'yesterday my wife couldn't move with back pain but today she's thrashing me at tennis and jumping up and down like a loon' :x :x

I admit that I got a tad jealous the other day whilst driving along and seeing so many people out for a run :oops:

I would like to think that I do ok with the whole 'why me' business too.. I also started this rubbish at around the age of 13-14 so have never been fit and healthy as such.. I remember the orthopaedic surgeon telling me that I would never be able to ride a bike again or kneel down for the rest of my life.... I just thought 'oh well, coulda been worse' lol
This being said I have just posted a self pity thread two mins ago lol... they are a rarity for me though

Do ya reckon it's cos we're tough Yorkshire folks your stickyness?

Lol

dreamdaisy

At least they have the choice about pushing through the pain barrier. I don't, I do it more than once every day and rarely make a fuss. I learned yesterday just how large the Commonwealth is, its total population is staggering ( I think two billion was mentioned) and the Queen is the sovereign of twenty-six countries (if my memory serves me well) but, I confess, I am bored rigid by the whole palaver. I don't think the Paralympics do us any favours, either; my friends seem to think that because other disabled people are doing wonderful things I should be too - the fact that they are not in pain doesn't register with them.

Sticky, you cope more than just OK. You have taught me a great deal about coping and living with arthritis. Thank you. DD

barbara12

Very well said SW, I count myself so lucky that arthritis came on later in life..I really admire how you have coped through your life, and you still make us laugh... it would be nice to come through the pain barrier wounder what its like :?

Boomer13

You do cope very well. From your presence here I can genuinely say that your cyber-person is one that comforts and inspires in many ways. You have done this for me. I can only guess you are similar in your actual life, despite RA ravages and trials. Well done!

Thanks Sticky!

Slosh

Just want to echo what the others are saying. Since I joined the forum you have given me so much encouragement, support and advice. Totally agree with the comments about disabled athletes, it's become a bit of a stereotype now. Just as for the non-disabled, not everyone with a disability either wants to be, or is able to be an athlete or sportsman/woman.

To use the favourite word of one of my friends, Sticky you are Awesome!

stickywicket

:oops: Oh dear, this is embarassing. Thank you all for your lovely comments. The thread wasn't intended as an invitation to tell me how wonderful I am . It was just me having a grump about....well, perceptions of pain, I guess. Ours is a sporty family. I admire sportspeople, their dedication to training, their self-denial of so many ordinary comforts that others take for granted, their sheer grit and determination. I even accept that it must be very hard to put oneself through pain voluntarily. But.....it is voluntary. They can give it up at will. And, it's always temporary. And I suspect I'm a tad envious

Numptydumpty

I never ask "why me" for fear someone may tell me :shock:

stickywicket

I love it!

dreamdaisy

Oh Numpty! That's got a grim day off to a better start than I was expecting, thank you. DD

LignumVitae

I think you cope tremendously and agree with all those who have posted above, you are an inspiration and I bet most of those athletes couldn't come close to your humour and resolve at dealing with things. We know that those athletes, as amazing as they are, they don't really know what the pain barrier is - theirs is a pretend pain barrier because as you point out, it's a chosen one and surely that is tackled in an entirely different way psychologically to one that isn't chosen, is daily, is limiting rather than something created by physical finesse. Not that we aren't all finessed in our slightly imperfect way.

Numpty, I love that, thank you!

hileena111

Hi Sticky
Hopefully most of the time I don't do the Why Me thing or the I Can't....its well I cant but I can do it differently. You know what I mean
You are fantastic I know that's not what the post was for
but its true
Love
Hileena

bubbadog

From time to time we all struck down with such horrendous pain and with the feeling of being tired and down we have to ask 'why me?' and then we remember we are mentally strong enough to take it in our stride and positively nutty enough to see the funny side! Maybe advertisers and commentators should take a leaf out of our books and read some of our posts!! Sticky we are all allowed our opinions!!