sad day tomorrow

tjt6768

Tomorrow (Sunday 3rd) will be two years since my dad died and five years since Janet's died dad too @:-(

Xxxx

miss them both and will not be home in time to go to the cemetery. I have asked Toni to go for us. Hopefully she will have time.

Xxxx

mig

These days always creep up on us and are like a punch in the guts,i lost my dad over 20 years ago and this year he would have been 100 my sister and i went out for a meal and wished him a happy birthday silly i know but we felt better. Hugs to you both Mig. (((())))

tjt6768

Thank you migster appreciate it x

barbara12

Tony your dad and Janet's dad will understand you cant get there, like Mig, I lots my mum 35 years ago and my dad 22 years ago..but you never forget them..don't you think times goes so quickly when you don't have them here..I will be thinking about you both...(((())) xx

tjt6768

Thank you Barbara hun. I'm so tired but have tried to sleep. Pain is the culprit for keeping me awake right now.
I will always remember them both fondly
xxx

Kitty

The pain never really goes away, does it. My mum died November 13th 2010, 3 days after her 80th birthday. I still miss her and feel sad she's no longer here. My dad gets lonely too without her - he's 84 this year. I hope the day brings back happy memories. x

barbara12

Tony I am thinking of you and Janet ..a very sad day, think of your dad saying don't you dare try and get to the cemetery...I am not there..but in a nicer place... religious or not...xx

dachshund

Hello Tony and Janet
your dads will know the pain you have they will understand you still think about them.
take care
joan xx

tjt6768

We set off from the west coast earlier than we were going to and got to the cemetery. Took him some nice flowers. He had plenty already as my brother and my daughter and her hubby had also been..
I went and bought a lovely piece of oak earlier in th year and had my cousin make a beautiful cross for Dad's grave. It is much nicer than a stone one if you ask me and it was done by someone who actually knew and loved mi dad... He stained it too and it looks great. We did it as a surprise for mum as she was worrying about being able to afford a headstone. She loves it.

We are back home now and are exhausted and I am in sooooo much pain.. :roll:

barbara12

Something told me you would get there Tony,the cross is a lovely idea, much nicer than a stone and like you say made with love ..hope you can now managed some rest...xx

LignumVitae

Well done for getting there. I hope it wasn't too hard for you. The cross sounds really beautiful and thoughtful. Perfect. Take care and rest (((((())))))

tjt6768

Thanks girls.
I have been in bed since we got home. I'm still in a considerable amount of pain. Mainly my legs bit last night my left hand and fingers decided to start :roll: then I woke up in the early hours as the left elbow was shouting at me. . Lol

I'm staying put today.

tkachev

I;m glad you could make it Tony. I had a steroid injection last Summer and took the opportunity to visit my Dad's grave for the first time in about 15 years. I know i should have gone sooner and feel terrible that i left it so long but he has always been in my heart.
Dad's grave is very old and neglected (he's buried with his Dad and Mum and Grandparents), I had difficulty finding it.I see the beautifully tended RAF graves nearbyand feel sad because he was in the RAF during the 2nd World War but understand he was lucky to have survived and others were not so fortunate.

I love the cross and wood is so natural and beautiful.

Elizabeth

tjt6768

Thank you Elizabeth. It means a lot to get so much support.
I am sure that your Dad would understand. Some people never go, and think that they're loved ones aren't there but in a nicer place. It is all personal choice.
My real dad (mum was married twice. My step dad was much more of a dad to us than my real dad) died in 1995, his ashes are out to sea in Bridlington. And though we were never really close I still try to get over there each year.
My step dad was our DAD though. He married mum when she had three boys already. Took us all on as his own. They then had my younger brother. We were (and still are) very grateful to mi dad.
I miss him very much indeed.
I also miss my father inlaw very much. We were quite close. And had a lot of laughs. .
I think we are going to try get to Ireland next year. That's where his ashes are. .