sad day tomorrow

tjt6768
tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
edited 5. Aug 2014, 07:04 in Community Chit-chat archive
Tomorrow (Sunday 3rd) will be two years since my dad died and five years since Janet's died dad too @:-(

Xxxx

miss them both and will not be home in time to go to the cemetery. I have asked Toni to go for us. Hopefully she will have time.

Xxxx
e050.gifMe-Tony
n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
k040.gif
Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP

Comments

  • mig
    mig Member Posts: 7,154
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    These days always creep up on us and are like a punch in the guts,i lost my dad over 20 years ago and this year he would have been 100 my sister and i went out for a meal and wished him a happy birthday silly i know but we felt better. Hugs to you both Mig. (((())))
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thank you migster :wink: appreciate it x
    e050.gifMe-Tony
    n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
    k040.gif
    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,280
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Tony your dad and Janet's dad will understand you cant get there, like Mig, I lots my mum 35 years ago and my dad 22 years ago..but you never forget them..don't you think times goes so quickly when you don't have them here..I will be thinking about you both...(((())) xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thank you Barbara hun. I'm so tired but have tried to sleep. Pain is the culprit for keeping me awake right now.
    I will always remember them both fondly :wink:
    xxx
    e050.gifMe-Tony
    n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
    k040.gif
    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • Kitty
    Kitty Member Posts: 3,583
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    The pain never really goes away, does it. My mum died November 13th 2010, 3 days after her 80th birthday. I still miss her and feel sad she's no longer here. My dad gets lonely too without her - he's 84 this year. I hope the day brings back happy memories. x

    "Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea." Robert A Heinlein

  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,280
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Tony I am thinking of you and Janet ..a very sad day, think of your dad saying don't you dare try and get to the cemetery...I am not there..but in a nicer place... :) religious or not...xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 8,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Tony and Janet
    your dads will know the pain you have they will understand you still think about them.
    take care
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    We set off from the west coast earlier than we were going to and got to the cemetery. Took him some nice flowers. He had plenty already as my brother and my daughter and her hubby had also been..
    I went and bought a lovely piece of oak earlier in th year and had my cousin make a beautiful cross for Dad's grave. It is much nicer than a stone one if you ask me and it was done by someone who actually knew and loved mi dad... He stained it too and it looks great. We did it as a surprise for mum as she was worrying about being able to afford a headstone. She loves it.

    We are back home now and are exhausted and I am in sooooo much pain.. :roll:
    e050.gifMe-Tony
    n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
    k040.gif
    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,280
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Something told me you would get there Tony,the cross is a lovely idea, much nicer than a stone and like you say made with love :) ..hope you can now managed some rest...xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • LignumVitae
    LignumVitae Member Posts: 1,972
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Well done for getting there. I hope it wasn't too hard for you. The cross sounds really beautiful and thoughtful. Perfect. Take care and rest (((((())))))
    Hey little fighter, things will get brighter
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thanks girls.
    I have been in bed since we got home. I'm still in a considerable amount of pain. Mainly my legs bit last night my left hand and fingers decided to start :roll: then I woke up in the early hours as the left elbow was shouting at me. . Lol

    I'm staying put today.
    e050.gifMe-Tony
    n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
    k040.gif
    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I;m glad you could make it Tony. I had a steroid injection last Summer and took the opportunity to visit my Dad's grave for the first time in about 15 years. I know i should have gone sooner and feel terrible that i left it so long but he has always been in my heart.
    Dad's grave is very old and neglected (he's buried with his Dad and Mum and Grandparents), I had difficulty finding it.I see the beautifully tended RAF graves nearbyand feel sad because he was in the RAF during the 2nd World War but understand he was lucky to have survived and others were not so fortunate.

    I love the cross and wood is so natural and beautiful.

    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thank you Elizabeth. It means a lot to get so much support.
    I am sure that your Dad would understand. Some people never go, and think that they're loved ones aren't there but in a nicer place. It is all personal choice.
    My real dad (mum was married twice. My step dad was much more of a dad to us than my real dad) died in 1995, his ashes are out to sea in Bridlington. And though we were never really close I still try to get over there each year.
    My step dad was our DAD though. He married mum when she had three boys already. Took us all on as his own. They then had my younger brother. We were (and still are) very grateful to mi dad.
    I miss him very much indeed.
    I also miss my father inlaw very much. We were quite close. And had a lot of laughs. .
    I think we are going to try get to Ireland next year. That's where his ashes are. .
    e050.gifMe-Tony
    n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
    k040.gif
    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP