OH JOY OF JOYS

mig

Hubby had an x-ray last week on his hips,he has mild to moderate osteo in both hips with right one being slightly worse,he has an app on the 18th with gp to discuss having physio and pain relief (paracetamol). You have to live with and know him to understand the title.Mig

LignumVitae

Not wishing to be unsympathetic Mig but is this diagnosis like Mr LV's back pain the like of which nobody can understand? The way it is frequently dropped in conversation, used to avoid all forms of exercise, the cause of frequent wincing and oh or ahing? The kind of diagnosis where any physio exercises will be 'done daily' just never on the days you might see...and of course, much worse than you?

stickywicket

mig wrote:

You have to live with and know him to understand the title.Mig

Nope. You have to live with a bloke. Virtually any bloke will do.

It is one of the lesser known facts of arthritis that, actually, it's much simpler than the experts would have us believe. There are not 'over 300' kinds. There are two - male and female, just like any other illness or disease. The male version requires constant cosseting and sympathy whereas the female version is required to get by on a regime as close her previous, non-arthritic one as possible.

(((()))), Mig. You're going to need them.

mig

I don't want anyone to think I'm not sympathetic but this man who I married for blah blah in sickness and health has put me through enough in the last 12 years,he had a major stroke in 2003 which resulted in tunnel vision ,balance problems and memory problems and other minor things like having the same conversation several times a day ,5 years later he had to have by- pass surgery on his legs ,he was cut from groin to mid calf on both legs so they could take the graft from one leg to put in the other ,then he had to have double hearing aids ,(see he said I told you I was deaf ) then after about a year I was diagnosed with ra (I have lupus as well ) getting to where I am now took a lot out of me and I am thankful that the drugs are working as well as they are but because of the stroke he doesn't fully understand just what I'm am going through though he does try,anything I want doing he will do it,anything I want he will get it for me .Did I sign up for this when we married yep I signed my name would I do it again what's that Old saying "if I knew then what I know now " well who knows.
Well got that out of my system. Replies not nessasary .Just a rant. Mig

stickywicket

Mig, I apologise. Yours was a serious post and I took it, and replied, light heartedly. Partly, that's because you yourself are one of the most light hearted members of the forum. Who would have guessed you have so much to deal with alongside your arthritis? You carry your burdens very lightly and I take my metaphorical hat off to you. And I repeat (((()))) and as many more as needed for as long as needed.

LignumVitae

I am sorry Mig. I also assumed yours was a light hearted post, I understand now that it wasn't. Good luck to you both (((((())))))

dreamdaisy

Oh my dear Mig, I am sorry to read this, I missed it last night as I'm not an owl but realised that it wasn't light-hearted as I recall your mentioning some time ago his devastating stroke, and its ghastly effects on the two of you. So, we have yet another hurdle to be overcome (and I mean 'we', your friends on here will always be available to help) but you will get through this: you're on your own but not alone. ((( )))

I hope the trip to the Tower goes well - the weather here is dreadful but hopefully London will be better. DD

stickywicket

Morning Mig. ((()))

theresak

Hi Mig,

What a lot you have on your plate, and though I`m fairly new here, I`ve always found you so cheerful and light-hearted. I`m sorry your husband has arthritis with which to contend, as well as other problems.

I hope you have a wonderful day at the Tower, and enjoy the poppies and the sandwiches!

phoenixoxo

Hi mig,

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. I'm sorry also that I don't have anything useful to say, but I just wanted to leave a few hugs and hope that you enjoyed the Tower

Best wishes,
Phee

mig

Thank-you all so much for your concern maybe i need to learn that life cannot always be treated in a lighthearted way but i think its my way of coping with all that life has a habit at throwing at me,(wish i wasn't so good at catching) ,he's not moaning about it ,he's a bit like me just gets on with things but for all that he's a man.
I had a fantastic but a very long and tiring day yesterday ,i am going to put a photo on chit chat. Mig

barbara12

Mig I think you needed to get all that out.. it must have been so hard for you both, I do worry has to what I would do if my OH was poorly he has a bad knee but at the min its behaving but there is no way he would have it seen to ... :roll: glad we can be here for you...xx

mig

Today is hubby's app with gp to talk about HIS athritis .Wish me luck. Mig

LignumVitae

Good luck to you both, I hope it goes well (((((())))))

villier

Sorry just seen this mg :oops: sorry you have even more to contend with , good luck with the appointment xx

dachshund

Hello Mig
i hope to day goes well for you and MR Mig you have enough to cope with.
((((((((Mig and Mr Mig))))))))
take care
joan xx

stickywicket

I, too, wish you both the best of luck, mig. I am thinking of you.

mig

So he's been referred for physio just got to wait for app to come thru,has been given paracetamol 1 or 2 up to 4x daily when or if needed and has been given codeine to be take only if absolutely nessasary and also said its too early to send him to ortho as he will only be turned away.Did test his range of movement of both hips the right one is considerable less than the left.Mig

LignumVitae

I hope the physio helps and he gets an appointment quickly. It sounds like some progress and at least they now have him 'in the system' so that things can move forward. How does he feel about it?

villier

Sounds a reasonable appointment mig as LV says at least now he is in the system, lets hope the physio and dullers keep things to a minimum xx

mig

He seems alright about it ,i think he realised beforehand what the outcome would be,my problem will to get him to take the dullers after 50 years i know when he's suffering same as he does with me,we will probably have to go over all of it again as the stroke he had damaged his short term memory. The thing is when he's sat down it doesn't seem to bother him.Mig

LignumVitae

I don't know if it would be any use (and if you'd do it better yourself) but you can get devices to remind you to take a dose which might help him manage it himself. There are apps too if he has a smartphone.

theresak

Hope the physio appointment isn`t too long in coming, Mig, and that the painkillers will do a good job.

stickywicket

Good appointment, mig. I hope the physio helps. If he's comfy when sitting why bother with the meds? I certainly wouldn't fret over them.

dreamdaisy

So, now as well as sharing the choccie bikkies you can share your dullers of choice. :roll: Might I suggest two in the morning then two before bedtime? That way he will be able to move around more during the day if required but will still get some pain feedback about when to rest for a while. DD