Lack of sleep.
dreamdaisy
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I am used to limited and poor quality sleep of a night, and have learned to function reasonably well despite not being well-rested, but I've hit a new low today thanks to the nocturnal disturbances last night emanating from my spouse.
He is in full-time work and by full-time I mean he's out of the house for twelve to fourteen hours of the working week days, sometimes sixteen. At least six hours are devoted to the office every weekend too, he enjoys it but it can be quite lonely for me. When I cant sleep I lie very quiet so I don't disturb him - he has just as a demanding life as me, albeit in a very different way, but when he can't sleep the goal posts are not moved, they are flung off the pitch.
We kicked off at around 3.15am with the yawning, loud and long, with a dramatic exhale as he closes his mouth. His pillow is picked up, punched, and chucked back down. The duvet is dragged even further across to his side of the bed then clamped to his sides with his arms. He harrumphs, sighs, yawns again and so it goes on. He eventually had the decency to mumble 'Ja wanna cup-a-tea?' at 4.15am so we did and read for a little while. He then settled back down but I was now wide awake thanks to the caffeine (he forgot to use the decaff which is my preferred option for tea at that kinda time). He then slept restlessly, and I lay there doing my church mouse thing and listening to the heavy rain.
I have now been awake for just over twelve hours and have much to do in readiness for our break but I do not have the physical wherewithal to do any of it. I am considering abandoning the day and opting for early bed with an early start for the chores. We hope to be on the road by 10am and he, as penance, can do all the driving. I will try not to wince too visibly as he thrashes my car's engine, hunting for an acceleration she cannot produce plus a sixth gear she doesn't have. :roll: DD
He is in full-time work and by full-time I mean he's out of the house for twelve to fourteen hours of the working week days, sometimes sixteen. At least six hours are devoted to the office every weekend too, he enjoys it but it can be quite lonely for me. When I cant sleep I lie very quiet so I don't disturb him - he has just as a demanding life as me, albeit in a very different way, but when he can't sleep the goal posts are not moved, they are flung off the pitch.
We kicked off at around 3.15am with the yawning, loud and long, with a dramatic exhale as he closes his mouth. His pillow is picked up, punched, and chucked back down. The duvet is dragged even further across to his side of the bed then clamped to his sides with his arms. He harrumphs, sighs, yawns again and so it goes on. He eventually had the decency to mumble 'Ja wanna cup-a-tea?' at 4.15am so we did and read for a little while. He then settled back down but I was now wide awake thanks to the caffeine (he forgot to use the decaff which is my preferred option for tea at that kinda time). He then slept restlessly, and I lay there doing my church mouse thing and listening to the heavy rain.
I have now been awake for just over twelve hours and have much to do in readiness for our break but I do not have the physical wherewithal to do any of it. I am considering abandoning the day and opting for early bed with an early start for the chores. We hope to be on the road by 10am and he, as penance, can do all the driving. I will try not to wince too visibly as he thrashes my car's engine, hunting for an acceleration she cannot produce plus a sixth gear she doesn't have. :roll: DD
Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
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My sympathies my friend ,my sleep quality and length of time is getting poor but not to the extent of yours.I must try some decaf.Hope it's a bit better tonight. Mig0
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I sympathize too, DD - my problem is taking hours to actually get off to sleep.
Hope you get a decent sleep tonight.0 -
You enjoy your well earned break DD..I am good at going to sleep.. but not staying that way...hopefully you will have a good rest..xLove
Barbara0 -
I'm the same, Barbara. I regularly wake in the early hours and find it difficult to get back to sleep.
I hope you have a happy, relaxing holiday DD.
Meg0 -
I hope last night's exhaustion proved useful in the end.
I well recall the days when I had to endure Mr SW wrestling with my frail little mini. Practise biting your tongue before leaving.If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
Steven Wright0 -
Enjoy your break hopefully it will do the both of you good in the sleep department xxSmile a while and while you smile
smile another smile and soon there
will be miles and miles of smiles
just because you smiled I wish your
day is full of Smiles0 -
Hello DD
i think you need a rest and a holiday.
have a good time
joan xxtake care
joan xx0 -
SOLUTION????
Simples
Have a bedroom each,
ahhhh
sheer luxury, but then I have been married for almost 50 years :roll:
Probably started off a heated debate as to it being the end of a marriage
blah blah blah - No its comfort and sleep all round and everyone happy at our house, I wouldn't have wanted my hubby disturbed especially whilst he was working long hours when I became ill.
But thats just us, realise it won't suit everyone but it certainly works here.
Kath0 -
We're well away from everything - literally: it's nearly four miles to the nearest shop but, fortunately, only three hundred yards to the local pub.
I would like separate bedrooms (and we have the space to do so) but he won't hear of it which I guess is a compliment. We both slept well last night and have had a rather lazy day. DDHave you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben0 -
I'm another one who does the separate bedrooms, stops me keeping him awake with my tossing and turning and prevents him waking me with his snoring. Also works because we have very different body clocks.He did not say you will not be storm tossed, you will not be sore distressed, you will not be work weary. He said you will not be overcome.
Julian of Norwich0 -
You enjoy DD and glad to see you both had a good sleep xLove
Barbara0 -
Hope you have a good holiday, you deserve it.He did not say you will not be storm tossed, you will not be sore distressed, you will not be work weary. He said you will not be overcome.
Julian of Norwich0
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