Making new friends!

emsjane Member Posts: 351
edited 30. Jan 2016, 10:10 in Community Chit-chat archive
Hi All,

It's been ages since I've been onto the forum! Very sorry for my absence.

I'm now in a position where I'm no longer working and I have lost contact with all but one of my work friends now and I don't have other friends as I moved to this area a few years ago. The one friend I have is a strange one and I'm not that keen on!

The problem I have now is as I'm not working, how do I make new friends???

I am quite a shy person and I also don't have much spare cash now I'm not working so can't join clubs.

I worry about just putting an ad in the local sainsburys as it might attract a load of nutters, lol.

I'm open to suggestions if anyone has any ideas! :D


  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 28,210
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Emma

    What about your local A/C branch?? Have you one nearby??

    Can't guarantee everyone will be nice there, but I do recommend avoiding the friend you have reservations about. Definitely!


    Toni xxx
  • prefabkid47
    prefabkid47 Member Posts: 1,316
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Emma
    What are your interests
    Are there societies or clubs in your area for the same interests?I joined an archaeological group and have made many friends.We have no subscription,the only cost would be social events but these are very much optional.
    If so you have a head start since you will meet like-minded people.
    Just a thought.
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Since the children have grown onto their teens I have found it more difficult to socialise.

    We have rheumatoid arthritis meetings locally organised by the NSRA. I also joined art classes at our local library, subsidised because I'm on certain benefits.
    Volunteering at a local foodbank/ charity/ church group could be another way to meet people and make friends.

    As a family we try to walk rescue Greyhounds and raise money for them. They have frequent fund raising events and it gives me something to focus on.

    I also met a group of local friends through the internet (I know)! We have a few get togethers.

    Having said that I'm hit by fatigue so I rarely get out nowadays.
  • daffy2
    daffy2 Member Posts: 1,636
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Try visiting your local library for details of what groups they run and to find out about what's going on in your area that might be of interest. Not everything costs to participate in and even if there are charges, there may be concessions for 'unwaged'. Volunteering is a good way to meet people, and depending on what your line of work was you may well have skills and experience that will be welcomed - it's nice to be wanted! Info should be available at the library, but your council website may also have useful links through its community activities.
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,279
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Emma like someone else has said the library is the place to start they have all the info on groups and such..this might be a new beginning for you..good luck
  • Slosh
    Slosh Member Posts: 3,194
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    There's a goid website called streetlife you put in your postcode and it's a local forum, I'm on my local one and there have been posts from people arranging meet-ups or promoting groups. It's also great forgetting recommendations for local trades people etc.
    I work part-time but only meet up with a couple of people, but I have joined a local book club which meets in a lovely tea shop once a month.
    Other options might be to see if there are any volunteering opportunities, or a club linked to an interest, these groups don't have to be expensive.
    Good luck.
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Meeting new people with a view to friendship is daunting enough but then comes the matter of maintaining that friendship; that takes more effort and at times it can be an effort we don't feel we can make.

    Showing an interest in those around you, no matter where you meet them, is not that hard to do. Compliment a cashier on her (or his) earrings or jewellery even if it's not to your taste, ask after the welfare of your GP or consultant before you start the appointment proper, chat to the postman, milkman or anyone you see on a regular basis. Initially it will be difficult but maybe you will gain a little extra confidence and be able to take things to the next step.

    I am not a naturally 'clubby' person, I prefer my own company reading, doing puzzles or whatever but I recognise that the social wheels have to be oiled for me to get the best out of various situations. Showing that you have noted something about one person may well be enough to make their day. DD