Hi, I am new here so very happy to have found this forum. I am 37 and I have had RA since I am 22. I had loads of damage in both hands and some in my feet. I had a beautiful daughter who is 4 and 3/4 as she likes to say and last November my husband and I decided to come off methotrexate to try for another baby. Since then I have been seeing a herbal medicine person and eliminated some foods from my diet and doing pilates once a week and I haven't felt better. So it is great as for my first daughter I wasn't very well and this time around we decided that if I started feeling bad I will get back to my meds. Here comes the dilemma. A week ago I had an orthopaedics appointment to look at some nodules in my feet and in the appointment the doctor agreed to actually fix my feet not only the nodules but my hammer toes too it will be breaking some bones so longer recovery. I was thrilled and talking to her about being off my meds to get pregnant she just said to continue as normal and whatever comes first. However I cannot stop thinking if I should just stop trying and have the operation first, although it won't be until January or just continue as planned and see. I am also scared of starting to get worse, we know RA is so volatile that you never know how you will be feeling in 6 months time and then I will feel like I wasted three months also I am not getting any younger either. Each day I change my mind and now a toe is starting to bother me more all this it is stressing me out what it is not good for my RA either. I talk every night with my husband and he understands me and he is happy with any decision I make but ultimately it is my decision. I am so confused.
Sorry for such long post and Thanks