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I'm feeling deprived

stickywicketstickywicket Posts: 25,994 ✭✭✭
edited 24. Jan 2018, 10:34 in Community Chit-chat archive
If adolescence now lasts until 24 :o (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-42732442 ) I feel I missed out. By the time I went to university at 18 I was assumed to be an adult, in charge of my own finances, health, living accommodation etc. By 24, I had a degree, a husband and a son not to mention a shedload of RA problems.

May I claim a few adolescent years back, please?
“There is always a well-known solution to every human problem - neat, plausible, and wrong.” H.L. Mencken


  • daffy2daffy2 Posts: 1,713
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Not sure I'd want a re-run of adolescence Sticky, but second childhood has some appeal. 'Someone else' plays a big part in that stage, sorting out all the tiresome bits of life like food and housework and keeping a roof over the head, not forgetting being in charge of providing entertainment and unconditional love and support.
    Just at the minute I could do with that rather than having to be the grown up sorting out the roof damaged by the storm - being a capable(allegedly) single person has its downsides on occasion!
  • Airwave!Airwave! Posts: 2,427 ✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    An interesting notion, all I ever wanted was to be a grown up! I was earning money at ten, left school at 15, home at 16, met my oh at 19 and married at 21, home owner and father at 25. Do we really need to cosette our youngsters? Surely to love them and give them a gentle nudge out of the nest to be adults themselves is being a good parent!

    Mind you they came back equipped with grandchildren!

  • barbara12barbara12 Posts: 20,908 ✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I was married at 19...and had my first son at 22..gosh I thought I was so grown up..I would love to go back and claim some of my younger years..I think we were grown up before our time..well I was.. :lol:
  • Airwave!Airwave! Posts: 2,427 ✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It's the old wish isn't it, 'if I knew then what I know now!' Haha.....
  • dachshunddachshund Posts: 7,802 ✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Sticky
    if you had your childhood back would you be has clever has you are now.
    Joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • stickywicketstickywicket Posts: 25,994 ✭✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oddly, I don't think I'd change anything. It's the rough times that prepare you for life - certainly for arthritic life. But I confess a twinge of envy.
    “There is always a well-known solution to every human problem - neat, plausible, and wrong.” H.L. Mencken
  • dreamdaisydreamdaisy Posts: 31,567 ✭✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I'm not sure how one defines being 'adult' - I didn't feel really grown up until I acquired a brand new designed-for-the-purpose sideboard (2016 aged 56). Yesterday Mr DD and me walked back from the local garden centre eating Flying Saucers. Adult? Nah. Fun? You bet! DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • Airwave!Airwave! Posts: 2,427 ✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I know what you mean DD, I thought I'd finally grown up at 50? But then we can distinguish between adult behaviour and a sense of fun, ilreverence or just plain daftness all of which at some time I seem to have! I expect those that know me would add a few more titles?

    At 62, I'm capable of making better decisions than I did, whether I do all the time is another thing! I'vs just spent 20mins in the car with gc no.4 playing the daftest of games, we laughed ourselves silly, well it made walking up to school in the rain and cold easier. I suppose I am more comfortable in my own skin now.
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