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I so wish in my area of Oxford there is a group of people I could join or go for chats advice.I spend my time alone all the time just struggling to do just normal every day things. I no I'm not alone there but I'm feeling pretty low. With the virus it doesn't affect me as I live in lock down. I don't consider62 old I have so much to give life .living like this feels terminal pain and loneliness is awful. Jill from oxford.

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  • Grace111
    Grace111 Member Posts: 30
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    Hi Jill

    so sorry you are having a rough time, I was wondering do you have a womens institute near you or an age uk or something like that. I belong to a knitting group and because I need to loose weight I also belong to weight watchers it gets me out and about.

    I know quite a few organisations will come and pick you up, like age UK, it sounds odd but anyone over 50 can join. Once you start to make some contacts others will come. Your library might be able to help too. Meanwhile we are here for chats anytime. Val's café is a popular place to have a general chat

    Hugs

    Grace111

  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
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    Hello, I am sorry you are having such a tough time at the moment, arthritis itself can be isolating enough but then add the current situation of not being allowed to freely mix with others and it all seems so much harder - because it is. I am used to having my freedom to come and go restricted due to my psoriatic and osteoarthritis but at least I could get out on the better days.

    I wonder if your local CAB could recommend any on-line groups in your area that you could join? You have found us and we can help as we are all in similar creaky boats but not until freedom of movement is restored can people physically meet. I am not a clubby person, being an only child I am used to my own company and keeping myself amused but I do miss lunching with girlfriends or my husband: well, I lunch with him every day but not in the pub! I began athritis when I was 37 and am now 61. DD

    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • Megyackee1
    Megyackee1 Member Posts: 11
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    Hi thank you for taking time to answer.I'm glad you have people who care.when this lock down is over I must try to make friends . A bad marraige by a man that did not allow to have friends has left me alone and isolated. But he's gone now so even in pain most of day a lovely chat and laughter is good medicine.

  • YvonneH
    YvonneH Member Posts: 1,076
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    Hi there,

    Use the forum to make your first friends then. look around the various discussions and add your comment wherever you fancy. There's always tea and a natter going in the café and the other discussions will welcome a new voice too. I'll look forward to seeing you around

    Take care

    Yvonne x

  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
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    You are already overcoming a great deal in being out of that horrid marriage, that cannot have been an easy thing to go through so you undoubtedly have an inner strength. This situation is, however, challenging in different ways; just when you need to rebuild your social confidence the ways to do it have been removed. Do you have any family nearby? What hobbies and interests do you have? DD

    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • Megyackee1
    Megyackee1 Member Posts: 11
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    If pain allows I love my garden anything to do with making crafts. I do have a son but close to his dad which is ok. Despite what's happened I have a great sense of humour and love to chat .

  • Lilymary
    Lilymary Member Posts: 1,742
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    You could try contacting your library and see if they run a reading group. They might have set up an online version during lockdown. I used to be in one for years, and all the women there had very different reasons for joining, some similar to yours, but all of us found it great fun, stimulating, and supportive as we learnt more about each other. We very rarely meet up now, but we have all remained friends. Well done getting out of your bad relationship. It takes strength and courage. Now it’s your time to start to bloom again. Your garden will teach you how to do that. Xx

  • Megyackee1
    Megyackee1 Member Posts: 11
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    Thank you I hope so.life is precious and I certainly haven't had the best. Xx