Looking for Friends


Having arthritis throughout my life has left me unable to do things and create friendships. Living alone and in pain has left me very lonely. I was wondering if anyone would like to be pen pals?

As you are all aware. Its hard to socialise abd meet people when you spend 95% of your life in pain in bed.

Hope i get a reply



  • ChrisK
    ChrisK Member Posts: 37

    Good morning @EsmeeMorton

    Welcome to the Versus Arthritis forum, here you will find the members are friendly, helpful and empathic. They will answer your questions/queries as they have found them in relation to their own conditions.

    It is very difficult to socialise and meet people when you are in pain. On this forum you will find many people who are in a similar position as you are. The Chat section is where peopled posts interest bits of news and sometimes post, in relevant pages photos of their animals and interesting places they have visited. It may help you to look through our forum and see how it helps you to feel more included.

    Have you joined any groups or different events that are going on in your area. Also you can find interesting free courses on there if you search. There may be one which appeals to you. I personally have joined an online sketching course which keeps me feeling that I am not useless and there is something I can do. Of course this virus has not helped people with disabilities to find local groups or interests they can join in with as everything has been shut down. Hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel and things will gradually get back to "normal".

    I look forward to reading your future posts and seeing how you are getting along. Take care

    Best wishes


  • Mike1
    Mike1 Member Posts: 1,992

    Hi Esmee, I live alone and am virtually housebound and find this site very useful, I log on 3 or 4 times a day to see what is going on, to chat, and even post the occasional photo of my cat!! "Val's Cafe" is a good nattering part of the forum.

  • AnLes
    AnLes Member Posts: 6

    Hi Esmee i live alone too just join the forum this night ,The pain and and in the house most of the time,makes one isolate. Am happy i found this forum at least i hope to meet people to chat with

  • Jona
    Jona Member Posts: 406

    Hi Esmee,

    Welcome and you will never feel alone now you have lovely people here on this site who share, I am at this moment listening to my neighbour and she has a very loud voice every second word is swearing her voice cuts glass gives me a headache I wonder if these people hear themselves anyway just wanted to say hi and keep posting

    love Jona x

  • Kitty
    Kitty Member Posts: 3,583

    Hi Esmee, I don't live alone, my husband is here. But we both have arthritis and are housebound. As Mike has said, Val's Cafe is a good place to visit. I pop in every day and have made some wonderful friends and their pets. Please feel free to join us whenever you wish. All food is calorie free and the kettle is always on, and the welcome is very warm.

    Love KathleenT

    "Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea." Robert A Heinlein

  • Shortstuff
    Shortstuff Member Posts: 16

    Hiya guys I just like to say hi , I feel alone at the min because I have depression and fighting everyday with it then 4 weeks ago was told by the hospital I have arthritis in my left knee, I love my job at the gym I know it’s just cleaning .I’ve got a personal trainer and I love fundraising for different charity‘S so I think one day I be fundraising for arthritis

  • Abigail
    Abigail Member Posts: 16

    hi I am waiting for hip operation hope don't have a long time till I have it . hope you get some reply take care x