My husband

Bossyboolover1964 Member Posts: 2
edited 3. Nov 2021, 12:44 in Living with arthritis

He doesnt take my condission seriosly im so tired i dont want to carry on any more i feel useless he never makes me a drink or if we have people round he totaly skips over me i threatened to kill him the othrt day need some help people


  • PeterJ
    PeterJ Administrator Posts: 884

    Hello @Bossyboolover1964 and welcome to the community. We are a supportive group and I hope that you find that as well.

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  • Lilymary
    Lilymary Member Posts: 1,742
    edited 1. Nov 2021, 19:09

    Hi @Bossyboolover1964 , I'm sorry you're having such a tough time at home. Arthritis and the constant pain can be exhausting, and it's very difficult for those in good health to understand how it can affect us so badly in so many ways. But sometimes they need to realise that when we say we're in pain, and exhausted, we mean it. We're not just skiving. And something as small as making you a cup of tea can mean such a lot.

    Do call the helpline team, they're wonderful folk, and they know how bad this can get for sufferers and how it impacts their families. I'm sure you're not alone in facing struggles at home.

    If you can tell us a bit about your condition, the helpline team can also give you some information specific to your condition that you could print off and show your husband so that he can perhaps better understand what you're going through.

    Sending you a hug x

  • Daisy123
    Daisy123 Member Posts: 4

    Hi there,

    Thinking about you and sending very gentle hugs your way today ((((( ))))) x

  • Sheelee
    Sheelee Member Posts: 153

    Dear Bossyboolover 1964,

    Oh Boy. He needs a kick up the you know where!

    It sounds like he has little or no.understanding or empathy for your situation. Ever thought of talking to Women's Aid? They would have the experience of dealing with women in your situation.

    Sending you a ((((hug)))


  • Mike1
    Mike1 Member Posts: 1,992

    I find that a lot of people do not understand what we are going through, including GPs, as outwardly we look "normal", if we had a leg or two missing then that would be different. Since I have been restricted to my wheelchair I have lost lots of people I used to think of as friends and on the rare occasion that I am out and about in my chair I get blanked by people that I have known for years.