Dating and relationships

Changedme

Hi guys I’m new here !

When going through diagnosis my ex broke up with me because he said he doesn’t want to be with a sick girl (yes he said it like that, and we dated for 3 years almost) So my attitude of dating has taken a major hit and I just wanted to hear your stories and advice. I’m 22 by the way and really trying to make sense of the world for someone with arthritis.

love to hear from you !❤️

Anna

Hi @Changedme and welcome to the online community!

I see you’re 22 and are trying to make sense of the world living with arthritis and you’d like to hear other member’s stories and advice. It’s great that you’ve posted - all our members live with arthritis, and although quite a few of us are a bit (!) older than you, we’ve all been through the same feelings when we faced the challenges of our diagnosis and I’m sure many members will be happy to share their stories with you.

Did you know there’s a forum specially for young people? The link is below - why don’t you have a browse and join in any conversations you feel comfortable with, or start your own post?

https://community.versusarthritis.org/categories/young-peoples-forum

The Versus Arthritis website has got some useful advice on dealing with relationships when you’re living with arthritis, and there are some interesting stories from young people like yourself:

https://www.versusarthritis.org/news/2022/february/relationships-and-arthritis-how-to-strike-a-healthy-balance/

Do keep in touch and let us know how you’re getting on,

Anna ( Mod)

frogmorton

Hi @Changedme

You are way better of without that kind of person!

Blimey he has no idea what fate might have in store for him does he?

I wasn't as young as you when I first got this malarkey, but had only just started seeing my now husband so I know there are good guys (and women too) out there who can perfectly well see beyond 'health' to the person.

My own youngest daughter had cancer at 16 and was with a vile person for a while it took along time for her to see how abusive he was to her. She accepted it as her due; she had no hair, weighed about 5 stone and needed hip surgery and a new shoulder. YOU (and she of course) are worth far more and will in time find the right person who will treat you as you deserve to be treated.

Hang on in there girl and make sure you value yourself.

((()))

Toni xx

Bic1982

Hi @Changedme

Good god! What type of person does that to someone?!?!

I completely agree with Toni in that you are better off without him! When you meet the right person they will support you through any health problems without question. Of course its not always easy but that person will want to support you because you will be that special to them.

I spent years on my own and then when I was least expecting it, I met my partner. He has stood by me through 3 joint replacements, an emergency perforated bowel resulting in over 2 months in hospital and a stoma. It hasn't been easy for either of us but he is my rock and I wouldn't have gotten through any of those things without him by my side.

Hold out for a good one, because they are out there for you, just waiting to be found 😀