New to RA.. feel very depressed and alone
i'm newly diagnosed with RA, am 44yo, single with a 14yo daughter. Oh an my dog, who is probably saving my life atm..
i haven't yet started treatment, i see rheumatologist in 3 weeks. the pain is progressing and spreading now, initially one knee (where i also have osteoarthritis), but now both knees, both wrists, and shoulders, and also swelling in my chest which apparently is linked.
a year ago i was an avid gym goer, hiker with loads of energy. now each day just feels like a battle. the nights and the morning the pain is the worse. I also work full time and my job is v stressful, though am having to take days off as i keep getting flares, particularly when its my time of the month.
i guess i just want some reassurance that i won't feel this way for ever. i'm quite an introverted person anyway and not hugely social - though my job is very social, but now i just feel i want to withdraw even more. i'm so scared of facing this alone. i don't have family nearby, and only a couple of close friends - and my daughter is growing up and being independent, though she's helping me quite a bit and putting up with my tears and exhaustion. Which similarly brings its own guilt.
i just had to write all this down i think. am literally typing one handed as my other wrist is so sore..hence the lack of using capitals..
are their others who are managing this alone? or how did/do you adapt? i have to force myself up and out to work each day as solely provide for my daughter, which in itself is tough. but when i am not working i just want to curl up in my bed with my dog and sleep.
i am sorry if this sounds very self absorbed. i know many have this and worse, i just needed to find an outlet somehow..
if you take the time to read, thank you.
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