No one believes me

Hello, in 2015 , i had a hips replacement, & never got over it properly. I lost my late Husband is 2022, so still struggling at times. I am beyond terrified of hospitals & Doctors. i am having holistic therapies, eg Reflexology & reiki, Sound Therapy & crystal healing. & energy healing. All these Therapies are helping me. i have Skeletol Muscular tension . . My Gp said until i can get rid of my severe anxiety & chill out it would be dangerous to operate.

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  • MaryL44
    MaryL44 Moderator Posts: 104

    Hello  @18amandah It looks as though you haven't been on our site for a while so welcome back to the Community. We all hope to be able to support each other and our website is a mine of information so do look at it. I've provided a link that may help:

    I'm so sorry to see what a difficult time you've been having over the last few years though it's good to see what a positive experience you have been having with alternative therapies but if you are feeling that no one believes you rest assured that we do believe you. Pain affects different people in different ways and you will get support from our community members who have vast experience so keep checking back here for their responses.

    Please keep posting now you are here and let us know how you are getting on.

    May I also suggest you contact our helpline on either  0800 5200 520 or email helpline@versusarthritis.org. They may be better equipped to properly advise on dealing with your anxiety.

    Best wishes

    Mary

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  • Baloo
    Baloo Member Posts: 526
    edited 8. Jul 2024, 18:42

    @18amandah

    I use an anxiety chat group when I get stuck and I usually come off better, if its of any interest, although I think it does take at least a basic understanding of what is anxiety, the overthinking, the feelings that go with it that need unfogging when things get rough.

    Do speak to someone on the helpline and see what they say. Would you say you were anxious all your life and didn't realise it.

  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,981

    Hello @18amandah

    It was good to see your name - long time no see. Sorry to hear how much you are suffering though and even sorrier to hear you have lost your dear husband. I send you my genuine condolences I remember you caring for him so well. What a huge hole he will have left in your life.

    I wish i had something helpful to suggest, but I am sending you some ((())) and my very best wishes

    Take care

    Toni x

  • 18amandah
    18amandah Member Posts: 43

    Hello Thank you for your lovely message. This means a lot to me best wishes Amanda

  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,981

    Best wishes to you too @18amandah hope you're doing ok ((()))

    Toni x

  • 18amandah
    18amandah Member Posts: 43

    good morning to you. Hope your well. I am tankful for this group. I am still grieving from time to time. There is no way i am having an op on my hips or knees as i am beyond terrified of the NHS & also last time i had to look after my late Husband on coming out of Hospital as i was his carer, & the social services were not pleased with me as i was asking the carers to help me make my bed, which really was not allowed. Anyway i have Skeletol muscular tension through out my body. so just have to pace my self . Anyway i have Reflexology & reiki , Sound therapy & crystal healing & chair yoga & relaxation all on line . Any way , Hope your well best wishes Amanda

  • CoralineB
    CoralineB Member Posts: 8

    Hi 18amandah,

    I'm sorry you're struggling with anxiety, as well as health and loss. That's an awful lot to contend with. Have you heard of the organisation 'NoPanic'? They offer help and support to people struggling with anxiety issues. Their website is www.nopanic.org.uk

    I hope they're able to offer you some help and support.

  • 18amandah
    18amandah Member Posts: 43

    Hi Thank you, Yes i have been like this for many years. Had Anxiety since my childhood. owing to my late parents drinking & being shoved off to an all girls Boarding school. I wont boar you. But moving on i have a good team of healers who are all helping me with my healing journey . bye for now best wishes Amanda Harrison