What do i do about my ankle! Whoops sorry i'm new here-Hello

livinglife

Hello all, Ive had inflammatory arthritis since 2005, gradually getting worse! I recently had steroid injection into ankle-ow :shock: !! It has improved it slightly but hasn't provided it with the same relief as i get when i have my toes injected! Increased pain and limp struggling to walk my angel at moment, 6 year old black lab, much to husbands annoyance! I don't think he minds but i'm only 31 and i feel like im 70 YOA, i'm not the woman he married! It upsets me so much, arthur has taken so much away from me All i want to be able to do is 25hrs work a week, walk my dog without being in agony and be half the woman i was when i married my hubby!!!
What can be done about my ankle pain???
Thnx living life (well Tryin)

colinone

livinglife wrote:

Hello all, Ive had inflammatory arthritis since 2005, gradually getting worse! I recently had steroid injection into ankle-ow :shock: !! It has improved it slightly but hasn't provided it with the same relief as i get when i have my toes injected! Increased pain and limp struggling to walk my angel at moment, 6 year old black lab, much to husbands annoyance! I don't think he minds but i'm only 31 and i feel like im 70 YOA, i'm not the woman he married! It upsets me so much, arthur has taken so much away from me All i want to be able to do is 25hrs work a week, walk my dog without being in agony and be half the woman i was when i married my hubby!!!
What can be done about my ankle pain???
Thnx living life (well Tryin)

Hi Livinglife and welcome, You sound really down i know its awfull living with arthritis and suffering the pain. I dont want to be hard on you my love but you have to try to come to terms with the whole thing. listen to me some days i could kill lol. I'm sure hubby loves you as much as ever and i'm sure he understands. When you are in constant pain it effects the way you think and i know you may not think you have anything to feel positive about but there will be. It seems to take forever to get on the correct course of treatment. you need to write down all your questions and how you feel and talk to your rheumy on the next visit. The stress and worry you are putting yourself through can make you feel worse. You are the same woman its just you have arthritis and you need to make some ajustments to your life. Anyway some of the girls will no doubt respond to you soon they are a great bunch and can tell you how they cope. take care and keep your chin up.
Colin
When god gives you lemons make lemonade

magenta

Hello,
Welcome to the site. Sorry you're in so much pain just now. My wrists have been very painful lately and I've been going to bed with a hot wheatybag (actually full of cherry stones!) wrapped around both wrists and it helps-they're not as swollen in the morning. I know others use cold packs but I don't like them. Have you tried either on your ankles? Are you on good painkillers?

I found out I had arthritis the month before I was due to get married and he still married me Been with hubby now for 18yrs (married 9)! I'm sure your hubby loves you no matter what. If he's like mine he'll just want all the pain to go away, it's not nice seeing someone you love being in pain all the time. Take each day as it comes, some will be bad but many others will be good
Take care,
Magenta x

Wonkylegs

Hi & Welcome!
sorry you need to be here though!

magenta is right - your hubby will be more worried about you that cross I am sure!

Our partners suffer with arthur too ...... but for them it must be worse having to watch the pain withut being able to help us. :x Mine is a love, and keeps telling me that he loves me for who i am - arthur and all - and that I should stop beating myself up and feeling guilty about what he has missed by being with me. (I'm 41 but we've been living with this for more than 11 years now :shock: )

Try and look for the positives ...... I can honsetly say it has helped me to be more realistic about what I can do. Also, when you are ready, I can really recommend the Arthritis Care 'challenging arthritis' course.

lindalegs

Hi Livinglife and welcome to the forum,

Arthritis is a bu**er and robs us all of our youth I've felt 70 since I was 27 when I first contracted it .... but in saying that you won't always feel as low and in pain as you do now as it does come and go especially with the help of the correct medication.

Use flat footwear for your ankle and sit with it raised to give it a rest when you're not weight bearing. Ice packs or hot packs can help with the pain and sometimes a combination of both. Don't stop struggling to walk just make sure you always rest your foot when you can.

.........as for your partner. I can remember about 20 years ago walking between shops and looking up to see my husband watching me as he'd come to collect me in the car.......I grinned at him and continued on my mission thinking how ashamed he probably was to see me hobbling about like an oap, but I came out of the shop and he wrapped me in his arms and said 'I'm so proud of you' :shock: ......... so our partners don't see us as we do, just remember that.

Hope your ankle settles down soon.

Luv Legs

cariadwelsh

I feel for you as you are so young I am 62 years and feel about 30 in my mind. Are you sure your partner feels sidelined by arthur or is it your pain imagining everything, its so easy when one is suffering to see the world in dark grey, try and look for something positive and focus on the good things in your life. Distraction techniques help me I read or do some type of craft, phone a friend whatever makes you feel better. I have a boxer dog and he imitates the noises I make getting up out of a chair and then I laugh his face is so comical you cant help yourself. hope you feel better in your world soon love and hugs,
cariad welsh

woodbon

Hello
You sound really down and I'm not surprised, pain has that effect, it spoils everything sometimes and you can't get away from it. My husband is really good, but what upsets hime is when I try to do things and end up in pain or if I try and talk about how much pain I'm in and what we may have to face in the future. Its having to watch, as the others say, and he feels that he should do more, even though he does a lot. Its hard on partners too, we can't do things we used to do and have to compromise.

Your husband is having to stand by and watch you. Of course he'd love you to be better but, thats not the way life always works. Relationships do change as life goes on. I'm 53, but you're a lot younger, so it must be hard for you both.

Maybe you're going through a bad patch with your arthritis and its making you depressed. Some days and weeksare worse than others, so maybe you'll be more positive when you have a good day. I know I'm very much like that :!: Anyway, I hope you feel better about things soon and find good pain control. Love and best wishes Sue.

livinglife

Thank you so much for your replies-they were all quite touching! Sorry i've taken some time to return reply been busy with life and just knuckling down. You are right i am down and bitter, but it comes and goes! Hubby and i are good-he does a lot for me-i feel guilty for this as i feel like i am robbing him of his life! He loves me and i him, he just doesn't like seeing me in pain as it upsets him.
Anyway back to near normal now! Thanks again and i hope you are all doing well.
God Bless
Livinglife