It's the tail end of the year, a time when it's all too tempting to look back, with regrets. To counteract that I'd like to tell you of two lovely ladies I met over Christmas at separate events. Both were in electric wheelchairs and I'm ashamed to say I made the sort of spot judgements we all (myself included) deplore others making ie I assumed they were far more disabled than they are :oops: And fatter. Have you noticed how people apparently shed about 3 stones when they are helped out of those cumbersome vehicles?
Lady No 1
Multiple Sclerosis. One very gifted daughter at uni and another, with considerable learning disabilities, at home with her and her husband. She drives a car which takes her wheelchair and anchors it in as the driver's seat. She has a 'Helping Dog' which removes washing from her machine for her and picks up anything she drops on the floor while (I love this :P ) pointedly ignoring anything the rest of the family drop. She and her husband are currently investigating the possibilities of fostering. No looking back with regrets for her.
Lady No 2
Was extremely athletic. Played curling to a high level and was a big 'outdoors' type and a gifted artist until she had a stroke. She now has a short (6-7 mins) attention span but is still the very intelligent woman she always was. She has to (permanently, even indoors) wear a rather ridiculous-looking, large sheepskin hat with ear flaps to keep at bay the severe and constant neurological head pains she gets. She still paints. And laughs. And her partner, now her carer, a former outdoor pursuits instructor, is kind and gentle and as 'unbitter' as she is.
They certainly gave me food for thought.
“There is always a well-known solution to every human problem - neat, plausible, and wrong.” H.L. Mencken