Snap Out of It

eckstardeluxe

Hi Chrisov

Please try to ignore these comments. I know it's hard but know there are those of us out there who support you.

As you are aware, I have been through some similar experiences to yourself in childhood. These traumatic incidents just can't be shaken off, they haunt you for a lifetime. I used to have people tell me alot to "forget the past" or "get over it". Only after my diagnosis of PSTD did that stop. It sounds petty but even I couldn't resist casting up how they had been before.

You will always have lots of support here. Take care

Eck

xxx

noeltone

I know I have lots of positive support on here but for some perverse reason i only respond or get affected by the negatives in other words 'it dont take a lot to get me down I will try harder to remember the positive peeps on here thanks all

mash65

hi,ive said it before im no good with words but i have read these horrible things that people have said.
please try to ignore them,delete the messages that you know are from some 1 saying negative things to you.
try to focus on the support you get on here.
were all with you.
as ive told my daughter(who's been bullied badly at school)if you ignore them long enough they do get bored & crawl back under the rock theyve come under from.
your better than them.
luv debsx

elnafinn

Dear Chrisov

I am so pleased to see you write that you know you do have lots of positive support on here. You could not be more right in your assumption. I can also understand why you are affected by the few that seem to make a beeline for you with negative words. That is only natural. These few people have very big problems themselves and, it would appear they derive great pleasure from being flippant and unkind to others, including you. When and if this happens again, try to think of all the people who do think very highly of you and try to remember that the people who wish to be your good friends far, far outweigh those that would appear not to wish to be.

Love
Elna x

eckstardeluxe

noeltone wrote:

I know I have lots of positive support on here but for some perverse reason i only respond or get affected by the negatives in other words 'it dont take a lot to get me down I will try harder to remember the positive peeps on here thanks all

It's like anything you always remember the bad stuff. Like in my job for instance. I take about 50 calls a day but when I remember my day it will always be the bad call that sticks out, not the 49 good ones.

woodbon

Hello, I hope you feel better today, but its really not something you can control, I know. After feeling upbeat about getting benifits sorted out yesterday, I spent the late afternoon and evening crying on and off, my poor husband couldn't work out way I was so down, but, neither could I, loads of negative thoughts and positive ones that made me cry. But, luckily I slept well last night and I feel fine today, its sunny so that helps, I think.

The person you mean had a go at me a while back, Bloody hurtful. I snapped back and complained to the Mod!

Thinking of you, hope the sun is helping you.
Love Sue

noeltone

Hi all I feel better today and abit more brighter unlike the overcast weather.

Hi Sue I thought i was the only one everyone entitled to their own opinions about coping but there is advive and downright negativity and stupid illogical asdvice. Glad you got your benefits sorted out but you might have resulting thoughts of Im on benefits now jeepers like I did Im a right off now and all that bad jazz. We must try to rem,ain positive despite off not feeling so is what my neurological psychologist encourgaed as she says 'think how far I have come compared to what I was like' if that makes sense Chrisov

woodbon

Hi, Oh,. I have lots of opinions, too many for a lot of people!!!
I was a nanny at one time so being bossy is second nature. :oops:

I haven't worked with kids for ages, but people often guess, someone once told me its the way I talk. :oops: :oops: :oops:
I don't think it was an insult, but I can be bossy!!!! :oops:
Love Sue

elnafinn

Hey Chrisov,

So relieved to hear you are feeling brighter. Are you telling me you don't have the sun shining at the moment? We have, and we normally share the same weather! Was really breezy when I hung out the washing, thought it would all blow away!

You are definitely not the only one chrisov, quite a few of us have been sniped at on here, some much more than others.

I do hope you have a good weekend.

Luv
Elna x

debatat

I am all worried now, I really hope I have never done anything to upset or offend anyone. If I have it is totally unintentional. I am so sorry.


Crisov, glad you are brighter today.

Deb x

eckstardeluxe

debatat wrote:

I am all worried now, I really hope I have never done anything to upset or offend anyone. If I have it is totally unintentional. I am so sorry.


Crisov, glad you are brighter today.

Deb x

Don't worry, you haven't. Not with me anyway and I'm sure not with the others. x

elnafinn

Please don't worry yourself, Deb, that is the last thing we would wish, people worrying all the time if they have offended. I think quite a few of us know who these people are and your name is definitely not on the list.

There are so many peeps on this forum that the boat will be rocked from time to time, it is bound to be isn't it? We are all different and it would make for a very boring life if we were all the same, don't you agree?

Hope you are doing ok today.

Luv
Elna x

debatat

Thanks Elna and Eck, Having an anxious day today I think, got a lot on at the moment. Get myself in a tizz when I am on overload. Not thinking straight.

Thanks for reassuring me.

Deb x

suncatcher

I am absolutly discused that any one can treat you like this :x :x especially other sufferers on site. I would have a word with the mods to put a stop to anyone who is upsetting you you dont deserve it. joanne

elnafinn

Aw bless, Debs, I hope things become become calmer for you very soon.

Love
Elna x()

noeltone

Hi all carry on regardless :P :P

ritwren

So many people here are wonderful and supportive and full of hints and a good help for those of us who are in trouble one way or another. It would be a shame to loose this support because of a minority of people who do not feel the same way and obviously don't know what it's like to live with a debilitaing progressive painful disease.
I'm really glad to see your little smilies on and hope you are feeling a little bit better. I think things are really tough but the help and support of friends and the kind folk on here makes it more bearable.
rita