feeling very sad with the loss :o(

tamnwill

Some of you are aware I was pregnant, well I lost the baby on Sunday night, very traumatic and painful..............It's so sad as I was nearly out of the typical danger time and had come to terms with the fact that I would have to be drug (RA) meds free for another 6 months. My body was suffering as a result but I felt I was coping. Anyone else experienced this please, whilst with RA? and did you go on to have a successful pregnancy?

robertls

Oh Tam..........

I'm so sorry...............so very very sorry.

I can't offer any advise.................but my thoughts and prayers are for you and your loss.

Rob x

lindah

Just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss.

My thoughts are with you both at this sad time.

Linda H

ritwren

I'm very sorry to hear your sad news.
Big hugs
rita

elnafinn

Dear Tam

I am so very sorry to hear your very sad news. I remember well your thread telling us your good news and also the following thread when you were not feeling too comfortable and were going for a scan. I see no reason why you cannot go on to have a successful pregnancy. I am sending lots of love to you and gentle hugs. You will be needing a lot of TLC at this time and I know your man will be there for you, as we are too.

Elna x()

kathbee

So very sorry to hear your sad news Tam.

Thinking of you and sending all good wishes to
you both.

Kath xx

debatat

I am so sorry for your loss. It must be a very traumatic time for you. I have no advice except to talk it over with your rheumy doc. Have you been tested for clotting disorders such as APS?

Big hugs

Deb x

skezier

Tam I am so, so sorry and my thoughts are with you both. Cris x

suzster

so sorry, i have pm'ed you, as yes i truly understand what you re going through.
take care and hugs to you and your o/h
sue

indigo

Tam and hubby

sorry is not a big enough word.

Hope it is not to long before you feel able to start over , and all goes

well. Mean while, take extra special care of you.

with love

Indigo xxx

debbieclap

Hi Tam
I am sorry to hear what you have been through
I have OA and lost a baby years ago and then went on to have another baby he is 22 now and strapping. I was able to continue with painkillers.
Things have probably changed a lot since then.
(((((Big Hugs)))))
Debbie

page35

Hi Tam
so sorry to hear your sad news.
i lost my baby at 9wks it was horible and so sad and i wasnt going to try again but i did and thank goodness i did as i have a beautiful daughter who is now 2yrs.
my thoughts are with you
page x

tkachev

Dear TamnWill

I am so very sorry to read your news.I also lost a baby at around 6 weeks in Oct 2002.My mum had died in the Feb,my son was diagnosed as autistic in the May and then I lost the baby.
But I felt quite calm,as if I had lost the ability to be upset.I just felt I had to be strong.
I had a daughter in Oct 2003,aged 40,with R.A.At first I was angry because I didnt want to go through anymore upsets and I didnt tell anyone until I was about 20 weeks and felt able to enjoy it all.
I do hope you will get support from your loved ones and wish you well.
Take care Tkachev

ninakang

Tam

I'm very sorry to read that you lost a baby. We're all here for you whenever you need support. I lost a baby before I got pregnant with my 2nd daughter, it's traumatising. Whenever you need to chat...

Nx

jaspercat

Hi Tam,

I just wanted to say that I feel really sorry for your loss love Jaspercatxx

lindalegs

Dear Tam,

Nothing I can say will make you feel any better but I am so very sorry, I hope you can gain comfort and love from those around you at this sad time.

Take care.

Lots of love, Legs XX

Wonkylegs

Words are insufficient to express how I feel on hearing your news.

please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Take all the time you need to look after yourself and your hubby.

When you feel able to, do ask your gynaecology & rheumatology teams for help and advice - I knwo that they were amazingly helpful to us when we were looking into things. There is a lot of knowledge and support out there if you ask.

lots of hugs to you both (((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))))))))))

joanlawson

Hello Tam

I am so sorry that you have lost your precious baby. You will be going through a bad time at the moment and my thoughts are with you.

I was never able to conceive, and had lots of treatment without success. ( This was before IVF ) My hopes were constantly being raised and dashed, but I think it would probably have been worse if I had got pregnant and then lost the baby. I went through a very bad time, feeling inadequate and desperate for a child. Eventually, we decided to adopt, and were extremely lucky to get twins, a girl and a boy. It was the best thing we ever did.

I do hope things will get better for you in the future. Sadly, many women suffer miscarriages, but they then go on to have babies later.

Joan

dutchess

tamnwill wrote:

Some of you are aware I was pregnant, well I lost the baby on Sunday night, very traumatic and painful..............It's so sad as I was nearly out of the typical danger time and had come to terms with the fact that I would have to be drug (RA) meds free for another 6 months. My body was suffering as a result but I felt I was coping. Anyone else experienced this please, whilst with RA? and did you go on to have a successful pregnancy?

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I can only empathise with you with the fact that I've recently come off my meds. I'm now nearly into three months but things are going really badly so understand how you feel with your body suffering whilst off the meds. At the moment because I have ra/sjogrens and cutaneous vasculitis its the vasulitis that is kicking off big time and I''m on 40 mg steroids at the mo and its still not under control. I see my gp again on thurs but reality is if they can't get it under control I won't be able to try for a baby. Please don't give up hope. You also need to grieve for the baby you've lost. Speak with your gp or rheumy for support and advice. Good luck with everything.
Take care
Luv Kelly

woodbon

Hello, I am so very sorry to hear your news, it must be so hard to bare.

At least you can get pregnant and that has to be a good sign for the future. Many woman have miscarriges and go on to have babies, its much more a common than people think, but thats no help at the moment.

My thoughts are with you and your partner.

Take good care of yourself, lots of love Suexxxx

suziev

just want to say that i was sorry to hear your news, life is so unfair isn't it.
want you to know you are in my thoughts today and i wish there was something that i could do or say to make you feel better.
hang on in there.
with love suzie x

minky67

hi Tam,so sorry to hear that terrible news.
i know nothing about ra but i do know how it feels to lose a baby.
my thoughts are with you & your partner .you know you have us all for any support you need.
take care,
luv debs

joyful164

Oh Tam, I really don't know what to say except how sad I am for you. To go through that period of time. My new daughter in law Sheryl lost her baby at 13 weeks just over a year ago. I'd like to think I know what you are going through. Any loss is heartbreaking.

The next few days will be tough and I will be thinking of you.
god bless
joy

suncatcher

oh tamn what can i say im so sorry to hear this just to offer you my sinserest condolances. cyber hugs to you and your partner. TLC from joanne

karinak

So Sorry to hear your sad news Tam, I remember reading your post , I lost a baby at 32 weeks pregnant and often think of him so i know how you are feeling right now.
Lots of hugs Karina x

nearlybionic

Hi
I am so sorry to hear your sad news.
Give yourself time to grieve for this baby, and I hope that all goes well in the future xx
NB