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  • sharmaine
    sharmaine Member Posts: 1,638
    edited 9. Feb 2010, 11:08
    Hi Pen

    I am so sorry to hear that you're feeling so low. It is a shame that your partner finds it hard to accept your disabilities. When you have arthritis and on medication it can become all consuming. I don't know why your partner finds it so difficult but if he does then maybe he is not the man for you.

    You've been through an emotional time with the worry of your dad having cancer and then to have arthur on top it's no wonder you're feeling low. You must remain strong for yourself don't let this get you down. You have a future and you can learn to live with arthur by your side.

    Can you talk to a close friend about your feelings or even use the arthritis help line for advice?

    Stay strong. Lots of cyber hugs and good wishes to you.

    Sharmaine

    penfactor wrote:
    Hello I am so sorry to be so negative here but i really can't see a point in being positive any more. my partner has made it quite clear though obviously not in so many words that he is not going to be able to accept my disability - You know the way that people are when they don't want to be honest - I can understand to a certain extent but my life has been so bad & got so much harder - my Dad was fighting cancer for all last year but all this is is is spelling mistakes & blue lines & no-one there when you are really down & feeling pain & knowing that there really is no-one there.
    I'm sorry I am on my own at moment & thought today was going to be such a good uplifting day cos that is what it said on the packet.
  • topgirl
    topgirl Member Posts: 290
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Pennie...
    Im sorry to hear that your having such a bad time...
    I have followed your posts and know what a year you have had...
    My thoughts are with you and keep chatting on here as sometimes i feel the only people who TRUELY know how im feeling are on the other end of a pc.
    love
    Kay
    x
  • sharmaine
    sharmaine Member Posts: 1,638
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Penfactor

    Just read this posting from you. Glad you're feeling a bit better and your partner has cheered you up with his little gift. Please pardon my earlier post! My first husband hated me being ill and expected me to 'shoulder on' he was also a bit controlling and a chauvanist! I later remarried (after 7 years) to a lovely chap. I often wonder if he gets fed up with me talking about my OA!!!

    This is why this forum is so great - you can get it off your chest and then it doesn't feel so bad.

    Take care.

    Sharmaine
    penfactor wrote:
    Hello everyone
    I am so sorry once again for my being so low last night - thank you all so much for your replies, I can't tell you how much it means to see there are people out there who understand. My little family has been through so much this last year with stuff I can't even say on here & I think it all took it's toll on us yesterday finally. My partner this morning before work gave me a little Valentine present early to say sorry - a really sweet soft little teddy thing with a lovely message on his T-shirt & I have cuddled him all day. We have all, my lovely son too, been extra caring tonight of how we all feel & have promised to try be there for each other.
    Elna - I am so sorry I have not been in touch since you home - I will look for your posts tomorrow & hoping you are coping ok & not having to dose up too much? Will be in touch tomorrow.
    Am still struggling on - have to start complaint process to hosp soon cos that's what best mate thinks I have to do & have sadly had to give up work battle as just not strong enough to go through all the hoops there as well as everything else.
    Thank you all again for your lovely support - I will be posting again tomorrow
    love Pennie XXX
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Just to wish you well and hope that you are feeling a bit better. Its a hard time you've had and I hope you start to come out the other side soon. Lots of love and a hug, Sue
  • joyful164
    joyful164 Member Posts: 2,401
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    You know Pennie, there is nothing else that I can say on the matter that Elna hasn't said already and I put my seal on that.

    Even though my OH doesn't give me the right 'strokes' at the time when I want them, doesn't mean he doesn't care. As Elna has said, men can't always take the amount of stress that we can and someone has to be the stronger one. and it looks like it might be you. You have gone through a lot of trauma this year, but remember, these things happen and they in turn make you a bigger and stronger person. I'm sure you will be fine .

    Joy
  • ikesother
    ikesother Member Posts: 171
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Pennie, sorry youre feeling low at the moment :( youve had alot to handle by the sounds of it . Just want to send you some positive vibes and hope youre feeling a bit brighter very soon. This forum will soon have you feeling a bit perkier :wink: Take care jk
  • pheebs
    pheebs Member Posts: 202
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Pennie,

    Look after that little bear!! Hope you're feeling better soon.

    Love Pheebs x
  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Pennie

    Just calling in to check on you. Thanks for the update, am so glad things are looking a little brighter for you now. We are here if you need us.
    Chris xx
  • penfactor
    penfactor Member Posts: 366
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello lovely friends
    Just little thank you for your support & to let you know I'm feeling bit better - battling on!
    Sharmaine - I would never take anything you say wrong way - you are such a lovely person & all your posts are from the heart, please don't worry, hon - I know exactly what you meant.
    Just a little text from me tonight but hope to post more again when feel little bit stronger
    love to you all Pennie XX
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Pennie,

    Glad you are feeling a little better and just leaving you a (((( )))) Cris x
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Pennie, :)

    Sooooo reassuring to hear from you and thank you for taking the time. Please do post again, but do not wait until you feel a little stronger if you need any help along the way from us, you only have to ask or even whisper and we will be there, for you, in a flash.

    I do hope today treats you gently.

    Lots of love
    Elna x((()))
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • sharmaine
    sharmaine Member Posts: 1,638
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Penny

    Delighted to hear that you are feeling a bit better and battling on. No disrespect to my male friends but I firmly believe that women tend to worry a great deal about home/family and we see ourselves as failures when we're too poorly to do the things we used to do because of illness.

    When I originally replied to your post I was in a hurry getting ready to go to hospital so I read it in a rush. My heart really went out to you - it must have dreadful feeling so low.

    Do take care honey.

    Sharmaine

    penfactor wrote:
    Hello lovely friends
    Just little thank you for your support & to let you know I'm feeling bit better - battling on!
    Sharmaine - I would never take anything you say wrong way - you are such a lovely person & all your posts are from the heart, please don't worry, hon - I know exactly what you meant.
    Just a little text from me tonight but hope to post more again when feel little bit stronger
    love to you all Pennie XX
  • kathbee
    kathbee Member Posts: 934
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Glad to hear you are feeling a little better Pennie

    Do take care and as you can see
    everyone is thinking of you and wishing you well.

    Love Kath x
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Pennie,
    Its so good to know that you are a bit better. :) Its very natural, after everything that you've been throug to feel so down at times. Just be kind to yourself and enjoy the good times and then you'll get more and more good times, as you recover.

    You'r so strong, you'll be feeling much better soon. :wink:
    Take care, Lots of love Sue

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