Mothering Sunday

joyful164

Just put this thought in at the cafe but was wondering.
I am also very much aware that some of us may not have our mothers anymore, me for one, but I was thinking more about what do you think our offspring will do for us.

An old colleague of mine, she never did have any children but has lots of nieces and nephews and she is never forgotten by any of them. Made me rather envious to be truthful.

I know I shall be very busy cooking dinner for all mine, and I thought it was always the other way round, but then, they are mothers themselves now. It's lovely that they have chosen to come and spend the time with me.

Joy

tkachev

Well I get cards and home made drawings which get put up on the kitchen wall.
We always go out for a meal with OH mother and father.There is usually 2 neighbours and our' adopted' grandmother and OH sister and family too.The children are always well behaved thankfully but drink too much coca cola so are not so good when they get home.

Sadly my mum has gone now but I was never very good at remembering mothers day which I now regret.

Elizabeth

pheebs

Hi,

I visit my mum and dad every weekend so nothing different there, my elder son's not at home but will phone, as he always does, and my younger son will be working in the hotel, serving up "high tea" to all the families taking their mums out!!

I'm not a fan of these events just a bit of a cynic. I always tell my boys not to waste money on anything - I'd be happy with a card and a bag of Jelly Babies, or have a cup of tea made for me. But I get my mum a wee gift. Rather spend it on birthdays.

Sorry - I sound like a real misery. Just can't stand the commercialism involved.
Pheebs x

ninakang

I normally get my mum some flowers and a card and then get a telling off for wasting my money! We always go to see my mum, my family, my brother and his family - ends up being about 15 of us for dinner round there. My parents don't like restaurants and so mum always ends up cooking but we serve and clear up after.

My girls are quite cute when it comes to getting me xmas, birthday and mothers day presents. They used to make me cards which I loved but in recent years they've started taking their dad out to the shp to buy! I forbade my eldest at the weekend to buy me one of those enormous cards for mothers day, she was all set on spending £20 on a card!

I'd much rather have a holiday like last year, I went to Dublin for the weekend with my friend and youngest daughter. I agree stuff like this and valentine's day is too commercialised and people are encouraged to spend too much money. I also have to say that I find the "awards" and "certificates" for the Best Mum in the World to be quite naff (I'm sorry if you don't agree, just my opinion) - I mean, I KNOW I'm the best mum in the world :-)

Nx

joanlawson

Hi

Mothering Sunday is very special to me because I had to struggle so much to become a mother. Finally, after six years of problems, we adopted our twins, and I became a mother at last. I am now very good friends with my twins' birth-mother, and I will never forget that she gave up her two precious babies all those years ago. So on Mothering Sunday, I will be thinking of her, and the twins have two mothers to remember.

Joan

barbara12

joanlawson wrote:

Hi

Mothering Sunday is very special to me because I had to struggle so much to become a mother. Finally, after six years of problems, we adopted our twins, and I became a mother at last. I am now very good friends with my twins' birth-mother, and I will never forget that she gave up her two precious babies all those years ago. So on Mothering Sunday, I will be thinking of her, and the twins have two mothers to remember.

Joan

Joan that is so lovely, how lucky you are to have your twins, and how lucky are they to have you.
Barbara x

joanlawson

Thank you, Barbara

snowball

I do get my mum a card for mothers day and some flowers, Mothers day is a bit dificult for me, 8 years ago 2 days before mothering sunday a friend of mine was killed (run over) leaving behind a husband and 3 children, it made me apprecaite my mum and my children as you never know what could happen.
Julie

elnafinn

I agree it is all too commercialised. I know my children love me and vice versa and also my mum. What I find very touching is the little cards, pressies, flowers that they give/send to show their love and appreciation all through the year, so much more than on this Sunday coming.

Because of all the hype for this day, I feel very much for those who are not mothers and/or no longer have their mother with them. This applies to other "special" days throughout the year that are hyped up way too much too, for my liking anyway.

This sunday we shall have our grand daughter with us to look after, for over five hours. Priceless.

Luv
Elna x

trisher

The best present for me on Mother's Day is not a bunch of flowers. I would rather have a plant for the garden.

I used to do this with my mother and she had them for years. The joy she got from them long after Mother's Day had passed.

I'm the same, I would rather have a plant or some bulbs instead of chocolates and a bunch of flowers.

annie_mial

Yep, feel the same as Elna and Trish........it's so commercilised and I loathe the way all the prices shoot up skywards in the week before it. It's nothing but a money-making scam.

I'd much rather have something that lasts longer than a bunch of flowers.....or I'd rather not get anything at all.

Annie

valval

it is the thought that counts and what ever i am give in excepted with the love it is given . been looking for something for my mum she does not eat much chocolate as gets migraines . my brother lives away so will get her flowers . my other brother will get her a book and liquice allsorts so what do i get left scratching my head help she is 73

joyful164

Yes, I think we all feel the same. The huge box of flowers that normally comes from my daughter (usually give me hayfever) . All I want really is to see them and if that's not possible, a phone call is enough.
Do you remember when we were little, and we went to Sunday School, and on Mothering Sunday, just had a little spray of flowers, some dry ones with 2 or 3 daffodils amongst them, and we were given them to take home to Mummy?
I became a Sunday School teacher when I became 16 and remained so until I was 23 and got married.
Cards and flowers are incredibly expensive and, like the package holidays during school holiday times, go up 50%. Poor children have to pay £5 instead of the normal £2.99)
I use to tell my mum when she was alive, everyday is mothering sunday to me.

Joy

pheebs

Hi everyone,

Joan - so glad you have your twins, and it's great how you get along with their birth mum.

Trisher - I agree about the plants, although they're more suited to my dad than my mum. My dad loves anything to do with the garden.

I used to love the hand made cards my boys used to give me - I still have all of them. And the gifts as well - the necklace made from Penne past and painted. I remember wearing it on the way home from playgroup and my neck being covered in sticky paint! And the brooch made from dough, paperweights, and lots more.

However........................I really would appreciate a bag of Jelly Babies!! Especially when they're on special offer in the supermarket!

Pheebs x

noeltone

I would like a mother to give something to I have never known my real one but at our church all females whether they are mothers or not get some flowers my daughter is now a mother so she will get something I expect this year as her son is now 17month old

trisher

Val

Is there anything that she might have said she will get but has not done that??

You could get some indoor bulbs she can pot up herself and watch them grow. That is something I would love, as I know I would have it longer.

You could get a nice pot, she would see at first, then she might love seeing to them and watching them grow and then flower.

How about a top or cardigan? A skirt?

trisher

noeltone wrote:

I would like a mother to give something to I have never known my real one but at our church all females whether they are mothers or not get some flowers my daughter is now a mother so she will get something I expect this year as her son is now 17month old

Cannot you give something to her and give it "For the mother of my grandson" Would that help you to be able to give a mother something, I think she would like that.

quietwaters

Hi
I lost my lovely mum to leukaemia 4yrs ago this June , but I still buy her something every year. Last week I was in the supermarket and I saw a pottery boot for outdoors with a hyacinth in it. My mum collected ornamental boots because her dad was a cobbler. So I bought it and have put it next to her memorial pot in the garden.
Got a bit upset in the shop :oops: but dont think anyone saw.

I also still have the last mothers day card I bought her, which has such beautiful words that we had it read out at her funeral, this gets put up every year and always will.

I hope all you lovely mums have a special day and get everything you wish for, treasure the memories. x

valval

trisher wrote:

Val

Is there anything that she might have said she will get but has not done that??

You could get some indoor bulbs she can pot up herself and watch them grow. That is something I would love, as I know I would have it longer.

You could get a nice pot, she would see at first, then she might love seeing to them and watching them grow and then flower.

How about a top or cardigan? A skirt?

thanks she got to many clothes as it is lol but might get some bulbs even if she never remembers to water them lol

snowball

I think some people have lost the meaning of mothers day, a friend of my mother's 3 children try to out do each other with the biggest and most expensive pressi every yeay.
My eldest son bought me a plate one year when he was in junior school, it cost him 20p from the school jumble sale and he was so proud, that plate means more to me than any big expensive pressent.
julie

elnafinn

My daughter every now and again sends me a M&S voucher to show her love and appreciation and it is always a lovely surprise. There is no need to use the voucher immediately and it is nice to know I can go and treat myself whether it be flowers, a bottle of wine or whatever. How about a voucher for your mum, Val?

Luv
Elna x

snowball

well i have been out with my mum and she has picked some plants for her garden.
Julie

noeltone

Hi Trisher that is a very good idea my daughter is a good mum and she is expecting again so i can celebrate and honour that with a pressie I think she would like that.

frogmorton

Oh Chrisov
That is lovely and congratulations to her too
My Mum died over 2 years ago now but I feel sadder fior her other son (my half bro) who never met her, than I do for me
My youngest daughter Lucy will be in france so I had my prezzie from her about 2 weeks ago!!!! it was an incense burner.
Love
Toni x

valval

well have a present sat on side as oldest son got football the a christning so might not see much of him lol. walked all over town looking for what could get both mothers ohs and mine always try to get same so no one can say you spend more on yours lol(do get mine little gifts through the year as well) so got lavinder bags for draw and folding shopping bag saying best mother

katekelly

This is going to be a hard Mothering Sunday for me as it will be the first without my Godmother. She never had any children of her own so I always made it a 'bit of a thing' for her with a 'someone who is like a mother to me' card from me, a Godmother card from my eldest (she was Natalie's Godmother too) and a 'someone special' card from the rest of the family.

I have decided to keep busy on Sunday so I am leading the Mother's Day Service at Church- we usually give out bunches of daffs or little cards for the Mum's in the congregation and then invite people to take a bunch if their Mum isn't there or for someone else that is special.

After Church I am hoping my girls will cook dinner and we will have a special time together and I think I will try to get the photos of Mo out so we can all remember the good times we had when she was with us.