Why have you got a parking space?

oneday

I have a permenant parking space at work(others take turns) and because I know some people,without any health problems, think if they havent a permenant space it isnt fair!!... I have tried to time my arrival and departure times when others arent there so they dont see me!!

I have been spotted and cant believe some reaactions....
"why has she got a space?" - like whats it got to do with them!!
then, someone has come up to me and asked was i covered by DDA and whats wrong with me!
To get a space I have GP letter and seen works doctor who agreed for me to have one...just because I am not in a wheelchair (which i guess they would "let me off") why do they think they can question me?
Just a whinge..am bit mad...cos i know others will start behind my back once word gets round....
any good phrases i can use which nicely say, s@d off , none of your business and would you like my health problems!!arrh.

Wonkylegs

oneday wrote:

I have a permenant parking space at work(others take turns) and because I know some people,without any health problems, think if they havent a permenant space it isnt fair!!... I have tried to time my arrival and departure times when others arent there so they dont see me!!

I have been spotted and cant believe some reaactions....
"why has she got a space?" - like whats it got to do with them!!
then, someone has come up to me and asked was i covered by DDA and whats wrong with me!
To get a space I have GP letter and seen works doctor who agreed for me to have one...just because I am not in a wheelchair (which i guess they would "let me off") why do they think they can question me?
Just a whinge..am bit mad...cos i know others will start behind my back once word gets round....
any good phrases i can use which nicely say, s@d off , none of your business and would you like my health problems!!arrh.

HI ONeday,

well I can totally understand how you are feeling ...... it is the hard part of having a condition that remains somewhat hidden to the eyes of others.

However, whilst you can't alter what other people see and think to themselves, you can take charge of how you deal with it - and one way would be to recognise that you have the space for a reason, and decide that it's none of your business what others are thinking ..... and that you won't worry about it.

If you're worried about what they say to you ..... you could try something that has been suggested to me when things people have said (or might say) are going round in my head ...... what is that persons' credentials for having an opinion on that subject? It is really interesting to look at it that way ..... it can be really liberating.

anyhow, not sure if that will help but I thought I'd just pop it down whilst it was in my mind.

take care
hugs
WOnky

angel1

In situations like this, it is very tempting to give long, detailed explanations, but, you know, that is just what these people want you to do. Justify yourself, to make them feel superior, and give them more ammunition for gossip.

The clever thing to do, is smile brilliantly at them, and sail past......Ange.

elnafinn

Hi Oneday

I would not get myself all het up about it, life is too short and these are work colleagues whether you see them often or not so perhaps not a good thing to be rude even if they are.

I would say go and see the works gp. Keep it simple. You are telling them nothing and they will not ask the works gp and if they do they will be told it is none of their business.

Have a good weekend,

Luv
Elna x

venita

Hi
How rude !!!! Who do these people think they are....I would be outraged if someone said something like that to me.

I can only imagine how you feel, why should you have to put up with this.

People really do not understand about this illness just because you can not see something is wrong does not mean there is nothing wrong.

I would love these people to come and walk in our shoes just for one day, to put up with what we have to, to be in pain like we are, to not be able to do all the things you want to do, when you want to do it.
Then maybe they would understand how hard things are for us...how would they like to walk the length of the car park in pain and ten have to do a days work, they do not know how lucky they are.

I say to these people if you would like my illness and my pain then plesae feel free to take my parking place because I would love to have the luxury of being able to walk pain free the length of the car park !

Try not to let it get to you it is their problem to deal with
Kind Regards
Venita

frogmorton

Hhhmmmmphhhh!!!

Cheeky things

I was going to say similar to Elna (Hi Elna )

say if they think they are eligable then they need to see the company doctor.....

Mind you i rather like the idea of asking them for their credentials

Love

Toni xx

skezier

Hi Oneday,

People are so ignorant but don't give them an explanation and just stick to your thought of s*d em cus you can never change them....... I really feel for you though and hope its soon all blown over. ((( ))) and hopes for a better day Cris xx

bubbles

It is so frustrating and very tempting to go hell for leather. It usually puts people off track if you beam a smile and say, lovely day isn't it, how are you? What people don't know, they make up, because they have nothing better to keep them occupied and they have dull lives.

frogmorton

What people don't know, they make up,

Classic Bubbles - and so very right

Love

Toni xx

tkachev

I am sorry Oneday. It seems a common theme nowadays.If you had a weak heart you would need a space but others wouldnt know it.Hidden disabilities.Although arthitis isnt that hidden is it?
They should be grateful they dont need one.

Elizabeth

sharmaine

Hi

Try to ignore these people. There is always someone out to cause trouble. Just tell them the truth. You shouldn't have to defend yourself.

Do you have a Blue Badge for parking? I would stick that on my window too!!

They're lucky to have their mobility. Only a fellow arthur sufferer would realise why you need this space.

Take care.
Sharmaine

oneday wrote:

I have a permenant parking space at work(others take turns) and because I know some people,without any health problems, think if they havent a permenant space it isnt fair!!... I have tried to time my arrival and departure times when others arent there so they dont see me!!

I have been spotted and cant believe some reaactions....
"why has she got a space?" - like whats it got to do with them!!
then, someone has come up to me and asked was i covered by DDA and whats wrong with me!
To get a space I have GP letter and seen works doctor who agreed for me to have one...just because I am not in a wheelchair (which i guess they would "let me off") why do they think they can question me?
Just a whinge..am bit mad...cos i know others will start behind my back once word gets round....
any good phrases i can use which nicely say, s@d off , none of your business and would you like my health problems!!arrh.

oneday

Hi team
I am going to hire a coach with all you guys in it and park in the space, honk my horn to attract attention, then we all sing...arent i lucky having a space!
seriously though, thank you all for your replies as each one i read a little bulb went off in my head with um thats good/ooh will have to remember that/thats funny.....
The first "come back" I got was via a friend who was told by the first whinger....most of my friends who know i have had a space just reacted by saying, "oh, has she a space" as though they didnt know...when they knew all along. When it got to 3rd friend doing a report back i said tell the idiot i had been to OH etc etc...
The recent one was directly to me and i was so gobsmacked I just answered the questions...if i could go back in time I would have given the names of my conditons as no doubt they wouldnt have heard of them and theyd be puzzled............
These new complainers dont know me..if they rattle too much, yes, i will be reporting them!
Nice and sunny today, hope everyone is enjoying it.

sharmaine

Hi Oneday

If you're going somewhere warm on that bus then count me in! Just ignore these people they're just jealous.

Enjoy the weekend. I'm hoping it's going to be nice as I want to put out some pots of flowers and do a few hanging baskets. OH has set me up a little table so I can sit down when my leg gets tired.

Sharmaine

oneday wrote:

Hi team
I am going to hire a coach with all you guys in it and park in the space, honk my horn to attract attention, then we all sing...arent i lucky having a space!
seriously though, thank you all for your replies as each one i read a little bulb went off in my head with um thats good/ooh will have to remember that/thats funny.....
The first "come back" I got was via a friend who was told by the first whinger....most of my friends who know i have had a space just reacted by saying, "oh, has she a space" as though they didnt know...when they knew all along. When it got to 3rd friend doing a report back i said tell the idiot i had been to OH etc etc...
The recent one was directly to me and i was so gobsmacked I just answered the questions...if i could go back in time I would have given the names of my conditons as no doubt they wouldnt have heard of them and theyd be puzzled............
These new complainers dont know me..if they rattle too much, yes, i will be reporting them!
Nice and sunny today, hope everyone is enjoying it.

oneday

sharmaine wrote:

Hi Oneday

If you're going somewhere warm on that bus then count me in! Just ignore these people they're just jealous.

Enjoy the weekend. I'm hoping it's going to be nice as I want to put out some pots of flowers and do a few hanging baskets. OH has set me up a little table so I can sit down when my leg gets tired.

Sharmaine

oneday wrote:

Hi team
I am going to hire a coach with all you guys in it and park in the space, honk my horn to attract attention, then we all sing...arent i lucky having a space!
seriously though, thank you all for your replies as each one i read a little bulb went off in my head with um thats good/ooh will have to remember that/thats funny.....
The first "come back" I got was via a friend who was told by the first whinger....most of my friends who know i have had a space just reacted by saying, "oh, has she a space" as though they didnt know...when they knew all along. When it got to 3rd friend doing a report back i said tell the idiot i had been to OH etc etc...
The recent one was directly to me and i was so gobsmacked I just answered the questions...if i could go back in time I would have given the names of my conditons as no doubt they wouldnt have heard of them and theyd be puzzled............
These new complainers dont know me..if they rattle too much, yes, i will be reporting them!
Nice and sunny today, hope everyone is enjoying it.

That sounds therapeutic....

Bus, all mod cons departing soon!....perhaps i should pop over to chit chat for that!

snowball

Hi Oneday, I had the same problem where I work, we used to be able to use the car park but after a while the big wigs stopped us. Management got permits to park the rest of us were expected to use public transport. But because I have a blue badge I could use the car park, which angered many of my colleagues at first it upset me but after a while I thought **** them I know why I can't walk far and if they don't like it they can lump it.

Julie

speedalong

The clever thing to do, is smile brilliantly at them, and sail past......Ange.

I agree with this.



Speedalong

stlucia

I love the idea of getting a coach, can I come for the sing along please?

It's very difficult to answer without either making yourself feel bad or giving them ammunition! I think smiling and the 'it's a lovely day' line is a good one but how about adding that if you didn't have a space you might get accosted by the papperatzi...oh dear I can't spell that! or maybe you are secretly the company director...!

bertyboy

hi Oneday
these parking spots come compliments of Uncle Arther and i know they would not like to be accompanied by him x you could always tell them its not your parking space but his xx

speedalong

these parking spots come compliments of Uncle Arther and i know they would not like to be accompanied by him x you could always tell them its not your parking space but his xx

I like this slant on things berty ...
it's a helpful one.

Speedalong

dorcas

Hi oneday,

I would feel just as annoyed as you and then some. :x

how very dare these idiots challenge you to 'prove' that you have the right to park there! bl**dy cheek!

No matter what though don't rise to the bait and don't feel you have to justify your disability. As other peeps have said it only adds fuel to the fire.

Curse, swear, kick or punch a pillow even post a Grump on rehab's thread (it is strangely therapeutic)....just to get it out of your system in whatever way suits you best....then go into work late and park in the reserved bay for everyone to see!!!

Iris x

ifeelninety

I too have a space reserved outside the main door and get the looks, always feel as if I have to do a wee limp whether I need to or not for all the watching smokers benefit!

For a while I had a problem of others parking in my space, when I nipped out for hosp app or blood tests. I eventually got fed up with this and one day I just parked in front of them and blocked them in - I was soo angry as every time someone parked I had to walk in and get security then go to my desk and wait till the person moved their car and walk back down again! ( all before I lifted a pen!) When the person complained I just said I was too sore to walk down to the car park and they would have to wait till Iwas going home - they never parked in my space again. And I did feel a bit better after it

tkachev

ifeelninety wrote:

I too have a space reserved outside the main door and get the looks, always feel as if I have to do a wee limp whether I need to or not for all the watching smokers benefit!

For a while I had a problem of others parking in my space, when I nipped out for hosp app or blood tests. I eventually got fed up with this and one day I just parked in front of them and blocked them in - I was soo angry as every time someone parked I had to walk in and get security then go to my desk and wait till the person moved their car and walk back down again! ( all before I lifted a pen!) When the person complained I just said I was too sore to walk down to the car park and they would have to wait till Iwas going home - they never parked in my space again. And I did feel a bit better after it

Good for you.Its an absolute nightmare walking to -and -fro. They are so lucky not to have these problems but just dont realise it.

Elizabeth

dorcas

ifeelninety wrote:

When the person complained I just said I was too sore to walk down to the car park and they would have to wait till Iwas going home - they never parked in my space again. And I did feel a bit better after it

Now that's impressive. :!:

Iris x

sanmar63

oneday wrote:

I have a permenant parking space at work(others take turns) and because I know some people,without any health problems, think if they havent a permenant space it isnt fair!!... I have tried to time my arrival and departure times when others arent there so they dont see me!!

I have been spotted and cant believe some reaactions....
"why has she got a space?" - like whats it got to do with them!!
then, someone has come up to me and asked was i covered by DDA and whats wrong with me!
To get a space I have GP letter and seen works doctor who agreed for me to have one...just because I am not in a wheelchair (which i guess they would "let me off") why do they think they can question me?
Just a whinge..am bit mad...cos i know others will start behind my back once word gets round....
any good phrases i can use which nicely say, s@d off , none of your business and would you like my health problems!!arrh.

Hi,
I usually just say 'just because you cant see a problem, it doesn't mean its not there', and then turn your back and busy yourself with something else - completely ignoring them and having had the last word. It always works for me!

Take care, and dont let petty imbeciles get you down. Theyre not worth the time of day. xxxx

Sandra xxx

oneday

I, too, feel as though i have to put on a limp (i dont) to prove i have pain. Funnily enough if i had a limp (not funnily ha haa way....)i think others would accept i had a space even if not in pain but the fact i am not limping it isnt obvious.
When i am in agony i guess i look a bit strange but the whole point of the space is i am near the building and if i was further away and had to walk it would aggravate everything, i would be in agony for weeks and probably end up off sick, so i need the space.
It makes me aware of the feelings other have with other types of discrimination.

livinglegend

It is not always a good thing to ignore other people just because they ask a question. They then make up their own answers and they will tell everyone the rubbish that they have made up.

If you have a Blue Badge, when you park in your space, display it whether you need to or not. If asked, you could just say that you have a permanent space because you are disabled with a painful, progressive disease. That answer should be enough for anyone; if it isn't, then ask them, "What do you want the information for?"

Joseph 8)