just dont know what to do anymore...

katknapp
katknapp Member Posts: 709
i went back to work yesterday and it all seemed ok...i got home was a bit stiff ...went to bed and was up all night in pain and still in pain now,fortunatly im doing a phased return to work so didnt have to work today but what if im in pain tomorrow?what the hell am i to do? ive got no more chances,i sound a right wimp one day back and im in pain again! :cry:

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  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh dear Cath

    I remember your earlier posts and the struggle to get a phased return so this is not what you need! You are not a wimp at all, I think many us struggle when the recovery times from trying to do too much kick in and seem to take longer and longer to get over. Hope you can rest up today and get a better night tonight so that tomorrow doesn't seem too daunting. Hang in there and be nice to yourself today if you can.
    Just leaving some healing hugs ((( ))) and best wishes.
    take care
    Chris
  • katknapp
    katknapp Member Posts: 709
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thank you chris,im just tired of it all now and if im going to suffer like this every time i work i might as well give up now,ive tried hanging in and gritting my teeth when im in pain but ive been a vegetable all day because of it,and im wondering is it really worth it? plus ive only got 6 weeks and then they are going to make me do my orignal role as a sales person or else i get the sack and no way am i going to be able to do it,im just hanging on really lol i was being awkward and making them go to the time and expense of getting rid of me,i enjoy making life difficult for them :smile:
  • seamonkey
    seamonkey Member Posts: 323
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Katknapp
    Oh dear what a shame your in so much pain after your start back to work. DO you have extra pain meds you can take when its really bad like this? I had one day back last month, i just managed 3 hours and that night and next day i felt like i had been run over. Its just not fair and others ask me the same as ur thinking Is it worth it?
    A difficult choice to make for you, but it certainly isnt nice being in agony all day and night.
    Wishing you well and hope next time at work is better for you
    seamonkey
  • caterina57
    caterina57 Member Posts: 1,424
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Cathy
    Oh I so feel for you, I recently went back on a phased return and after 2 weeks had a meeting with my manager who felt that I would never get back to a situation where I would be able to fufil my contract - I can remember feeling very scared as I thought I was going to be finished on ill health - instead I was offered a new role part time and I consider that I must be one of the luckiest people alive!
    I don't know what to say - how many hours are you doing - have you asked about part time or job share? I knew I would not be able to do as I did before and had prepared for the worst -- having decided that my health had to come first!
    I am going to suffer financially ,but I will have to cut my cloth accordingly - as I say - my health has to come first!
    Cath
  • traluvie
    traluvie Member Posts: 2,579
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi...
    The way things are for you now was what i was worrying about if i went back to work..
    You will have to see how you are, if your bad then maybe thats your bodies way of saying it needs to rest..
    See how you feel.. you may need to see your GP and speak with them..
    I hope you feel better..
    Take it easy..
  • katknapp
    katknapp Member Posts: 709
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all,well my body made the descition for me :sad: ive had a bad flare up and had to phone in sick and now they will start the procedure to dismiss me on medical grounds thats that im now an unemployed person! :cry:
  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Cath

    Sorry to see this, was wondering how today would be for you. You have gritted your teeth and done your best lovey. Time to look after yourself for a while now, they simply don't deserve you. I can't advise on what happens now but hope you get some good advise on the financial position. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
    best wishes and gentle hugs ((( )))
    Chris
  • seamonkey
    seamonkey Member Posts: 323
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh Cath,
    What a shame its a horrible feeling when decisions like this are taken out of our hands, but obviously your body can not cope. Rest up and try not to worry too much. I really feel for you, but no one can say you didnt try your hardest to be able to carry on.
    Something will come turn up for you that is right but just now think of yourself and take your time to recover.
    Hope your feeling a bit better soon and that the flare up isnt too ghastly!
    All the best
    seamonkey
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 28,053
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Kath

    I have replied to you on chit chat, but just want to offer you my support and hugs again.....I am so very very sorry :sad:

    The process does take a little time and hopefully you will still get some pay or at leat SSP while it goes on.

    They are just cutting their losses and you are a victim of the way it is theses days :sad:

    You might need to lick your wounds for a little while.

    Love

    Toni xx
  • jennylynn
    jennylynn Member Posts: 101
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Kath,

    was very sorry to read this, as i did follow your original feed and had everything crossed for you. I truly hope that you start to firstly feel better with the arthur, and that secondly you do take some comfort in the fact that you tried really hard to make this work and you didnt give up, the company you work(ed) for have let you down and thats not your fault.
    I saw you had posted about having shakes and i quite agree with what other people have said that it sounds like your body is under the most immense amount of stress, what with the flare up and your disappointment in the place that employed you.
    I would still perhaps seek some advice regarding whether you do have any entitlement to statutory sick pay or even any other help you may be entitled to.
    All i can say is that you should be so proud of yourself for not giving up.The system has totally let you down.

    Jennyx
  • speedalong
    speedalong Member Posts: 3,272
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, I'm so sorry how this has turned out. But clearly your body just could not cope with your job. I hope you get control of your flare and start to feel less sore soon.

    Speedy
  • RichC
    RichC Member Posts: 260
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Kath ,
    sorry to hear of your troubles:(
    To dismiss you on health grounds they have to do everything correctly , and many companies do not know this .. they could still leave themselves open to unfair dismissal claims or disability discrimination grounds .

    Seek advice from an employment specialist , and a call to ACAS could give you some options ...

    ACAS

    All the best

    Rich
  • traluvie
    traluvie Member Posts: 2,579
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Katnapp...

    I am really sorry to hear you are to be dismissed on medical grounds...
    Same thing is happening to me...
    I think that because we are unable to commit and know what days we are bad it is easier for the employee to dismiss rather than hang around and wait to see if we improve..
    You need to ask for a copy of the sickness policy so you can read and know your rights...
    I have had to read through mine so i am aware of what i am entitledtoo..
    I have a meeting on wednesday to discuss everything..
    Has a meeting been arranged for you.. ??
    Make sure you have a representative too, i have my union rep who is coming with me, so that way i know everything will be done accordingly..
    It's so sad that this has happened, but like people say , maybe this will give us chance to concentrate on getting better, without the added worry of work...x
  • katknapp
    katknapp Member Posts: 709
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all,just to say thanks for you support and update you all,

    well i went to doctors today shes signed me off again and i phoned benefits helpline and am applieing for ESA, apparently my work was supposed to have given me a form when my ssp ran out to enable me to claim ESA which they hadnt!!so ive been told if i can get all my sicknotes from when it ran out i might even get it backdated!...sounds good but my luck is not great lol and my work are rubbish and has probably lost them!

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