Whats happening lately

valval

cacyhi wrote:

As you know I am new to the Forums and only joined last week. I was overwhelmed with the support I received from people on just that first day.

I have never used an on-line forum of any sort before and although I joined initially in search of information, I was knocked out by the support and compassion that just seemed to radiate out of the computer at me....
therefore I am completely astounded that people are experiencing bullying here. I cant understand why people would want to do that.

As a newbie I can clearly see how well some of you know each other (its the same whenever you "join after the party has started") and I realise that I am living with a different kind of experience of "arthur" (as you all call it ) than many of you are. I am hoping to get to know you all better and have tried to join in if I have something to contribute. I still lilke reading about how you are all getting on. I think I have an idea of what Ankys thread was about the other day and it did seem to me that someone was not being supportive so I dont know why they would want to post anyway? Cant see the point ... Isnt there enough s**t in the real world already. I would say a forum was for support ,friendship and info/experience sharing - if you want anything else - why would you be on here ?????

well put. it good to have you on here .
people are affected by pain in different ways and it can affect how they react to different inputs so if some one upsets you pm them and let them know often they will not know they have caused trouble and will be very sorry about it if that does not work the mods are great at helping

traluvie

cacyhi wrote:

As you know I am new to the Forums and only joined last week. I was overwhelmed with the support I received from people on just that first day.

I have never used an on-line forum of any sort before and although I joined initially in search of information, I was knocked out by the support and compassion that just seemed to radiate out of the computer at me....
therefore I am completely astounded that people are experiencing bullying here. I cant understand why people would want to do that.

As a newbie I can clearly see how well some of you know each other (its the same whenever you "join after the party has started") and I realise that I am living with a different kind of experience of "arthur" (as you all call it ) than many of you are. I am hoping to get to know you all better and have tried to join in if I have something to contribute. I still lilke reading about how you are all getting on. I think I have an idea of what Ankys thread was about the other day and it did seem to me that someone was not being supportive so I dont know why they would want to post anyway? Cant see the point ... Isnt there enough s**t in the real world already. I would say a forum was for support ,friendship and info/experience sharing - if you want anything else - why would you be on here ?????

Well said Carol.. i am glad to hear you felt welcome..

cacyhi

What Ive worked out is that there are some people on here who are virtually housebound, some recovering from surgery (like me) others who are managing to work, some single, some married, some mothers of little ones, some youngsters, some middleagers (like me) and some elder members - but they are able to come to a place where they all have one thing in common and the forum should be a safe place where they can express themselves and be contained and supported ( which probably doesnt happen as much as it should in their real world)

I'll shut up now - you can see I really dont want to go to bed and face yet another sleepless night with this bloody plastercast !!! Good vibes to all out there tonight - tomorrow is another day

tjt6768

well put Carol. I only ever really glanced at another forum before, asked for some advice regarding the dihydrocidiene withdrawal... it was more of a free for all site, very poorly run and full of idiots really. To be honest, I got a rollocking the first day for telling it like it was, some junkie got offended after I told them taking drugs for them was a choice and for me a necessaty...


Then I discovered this place... I was made to feel at home straight away... Loved it ever since.
Any form of bullying should be reported to the mods and sorted out behind closed doors in my opinion.. This public bitchin won't do anyone any favours..

Just my humble opinion, and I know it's just that

Ankyspond

Carol,

You said it all in your post, if you don't like the topic don't post its simple really. I have only been on the forum since early summer and I was made to feel so welcome and it has beome a lifeline to me with the support I get from herre. I really hope that the othe day was a one off, it should be about supporting each other and having a laugh and keeping us all laughing together and as sane as we can be........?

When I first joined I felt like you being 'the new kid on the block' but soon got over that as they welcomed me with open arms and it was so good to talk to people who understand. Of course you need to look out for the posts by rehab and delboy as they always make me laugh, Tony well what can I say .......... (x Tony).

Stay with us its a great place to be, we all have this awful disease in some way or another and we will all help each other in anyway we can. xx

tjt6768

thanks Anky, lol.. :oops:

lupin15

traluvie wrote:

I must be totally oblivious to it all as i have not seen anything really, and i thought i was a regular
The thing is the forum is a place to chat and talk about arhtur amongst other things..people are entitled to their own opinion aslong as they are not offending the other person..
If someone doesn't like something someone said then either don't comment and ignore it, pm the person directly to sort it out discreetly, or report it..
Why post it for all to see and to scare off new members.. don't think it is right..
I don't want anyone to go due to bullying.. it is not on.. but if people are bullying then don't let them win..rise above them and carry on
Thats me, said what i wanted to say..will say no more on the subject..
if i have offended anyone pls pm me

I to must have been walking around with my head up my jumper...i have not noticed anything!!!! :???: :???: :???: :???: :???: I have always been made welcome and pop in and out. Love the fact the people are allowed to have a rant about anything really....get it off their chests. Freedom of speak is great but has to be used with care...and maybe sometimes people are a little sensitive as pain can drag you down. People should let others know if a comment has upset them and sort it out...we are grown ups after all!!!! Hope this is sorted out soon....what ever it maybe??? I love you all XXXXXXX

valval

If someone doesn't like something someone said then either don't comment and ignore it, pm the person directly to sort it out discreetly, or report it..
Why post it for all to see and to scare off new members.. don't think it is right..
I don't want anyone to go due to bullying.. it is not on.. but if people are bullying then don't let them win..rise above them and carry on
Thats me, said what i wanted to say..will say no more on the subject..
if i have offended anyone pls pm me[/quote]

I to must have been walking around with my head up my jumper...i have not noticed anything!!!! :???: :???: :???: :???: :???: I have always been made welcome and pop in and out. Love the fact the people are allowed to have a rant about anything really....get it off their chests. Freedom of speak is great but has to be used with care...and maybe sometimes people are a little sensitive as pain can drag you down. People should let others know if a comment has upset them and sort it out...we are grown ups after all!!!! Hope this is sorted out soon....what ever it maybe??? I love you all XXXXXXX [/quote]


i call in a couple of times a day but do not read all the posts and i also missed what started all this but the forum is here to stay as it is needed and so long as people post i will reply trying to be positive but i know sometimes it does not come out as you meen it to but sort it and enjoy all the different personalitys we have val

angie1973

I was made really welcome, both when I first joined and then after a year's break and came back.

It's a good place to come for support and advice. We might not be doctors, but a lot of people on here have heaps of experience of hospitals, doctors, working rights etc, so it's like going into a very well stocked library, only that the books talk, and they hug too.

Like another poster said, when you first join you can see there are regulars, but if you get stuck in, you soon get passed that, and then it's all good.

Well, it is to me anyway.

Hope everyone is feeling better for clearing the air a bit

tkachev

webmanager wrote:

Hi Traluvie,
It would be quite easy to miss as all the problems were on another forum and only brought here by a few folk who are members of both.

As Webmanager I do not see what people post on other forums so I cannot take any action here about it.

There have been various suggestions that cyberbullying is happening on this forum. If you feel that you are being bullied either in a post or a PM then tell the mods by using the 'report' button as Elna suggested. The mods read every post but not immediately so you help them by highlighting things. Also, the mods cannot see your PMs unless you report them as bullying.

There are hundreds of people posting on the forum each month, and about 90 new folk. Please remember that it is not just a few who read and get involved.

Yours
Webmanager

My posts were to support a member of AC who said she was so upset about the suggestion that some AC members were laughing at her, that she was leaving. This is similar to Pamie's posting that she received a facebook message saying she was hated on AC forum. Her message was not blocked but Karens was.

Elizabeth

tkachev

Karen then posted why she was leaving as an explanation. So this about an AC member leaving AC forum, which has happened on numerous occasions in the past and we have always been allowed to voice our support in the past.


Elizabeth

mig

Lets forget it all now and get back to our normal selfs,well as normal as we can be.love to all Mig

traluvie

mig wrote:

Lets forget it all now and get back to our normal selfs,well as normal as we can be.love to all Mig

I agree.. onwards and upwards..

tkachev

elnafinn wrote:

Dear Elizabeth,

That is the only way forward that I can see.

I do not know what is going on, but I am sorry that you do and you obviously feel very strongly about it all. I hope that today's happenings did not ruin your gymnastics viewing because you sounded so cheerful when you told us what you were going to do.

Love
Elna x

Sadly they have let us down again. They have banned one and been very rude to another poster.

elnafinn

I am very sorry to hear that, Elizabeth. As I know nothing about it I cannot comment and would not do so on the open forum anyway. All I can say is persevere with it, if you feel very strongly about it. Or rather the person who feels very strongly they have been wronged should.

Elna x

mellman01

mig wrote:

Lets forget it all now and get back to our normal selfs,well as normal as we can be.love to all Mig

Sounds like a plan to me!, oh it was a full moon last night!, didn't go hairy though, that said I've just tried some Chilli here at work and I think my tum has a big hole burnt through it, Viper and Ghost Naga mix, it was like flippin napalm 40 minutes later and I'm still in pain!.

mig

Dread to think what will happen on its way out tother end. :shock: Mig

tkachev

mmmm Mell I have just read your post on Pamies 'am I hated on here' where you said she was a very strong person to have posted the question on here instead of shrinking away. That is what Constable did.

Elizabeth

tkachev

It has a lot to do with AC as i have already said. I'm not interested in the original post on the other forum and treated that with the contempt it deserves but I am interested in a poster leaving because of something said to them by another AC member. We have always been able to support an upset person before.
The mods did not stop the other thread even though it was an issue about' another forum'.
E

tkachev

delboy wrote:

Nothing has been proven that the AC member referred to has deliberately caused trouble on the other forum and even if it was it is not reasonable for you to expect the powers that be here to be able to take any action for something happening elsewhere.

There has been no bullying of Constable on this forum that I have seen and it was her decision to leave despite the support she received.

I'm not interested in the AC member refered to partly for the reasons you have stated as I have already said. Karens thread was blocked so we couldn't support her and when we all started other threads they were also blocked.2 friends have now been banned

tkachev

She left because she was told people on here were laughing behind her back.

tkachev

So stop answering

tkachev

if you find it tiresome then don't answer. I'm only responding to your posts.If you don't post then I don't respond.

dreamdaisy

I'm with del on this. As far as I can work it out she has left as she has chosen to believe a sweeping statement made by someone she doesn't know (as such) about how she is regarded by folk on here. Well, whoever they were they were not speaking for me. As far as I know Constable has had nothing but support and understanding from this forum but if that isn't good enough for her so be it.

It matters not who chooses to post where and with what organisation. What matters is the maturity in handling the internet and the complications it can bring. The cloak of anonymity is very handy for the intolerant, the impatient, those who think their wants and needs are far more important than anyone else's, those who can dish it out but cannot take it, those who feel the need to impose their views on the less enlightened.

I think again we come back to this ridiculous notion that because we are all arthritic that somehow makes us best-buddies. It's the same as saying that because all women are female they will all be friends. Really? I don't think so. We are all different in how we feel, in how we think, and we should be mature enough to allow others to think and feel differently about matters. There is nothing wrong with reasoned debate but for some that is just not possible. 'You don't think like me therefore you are stupid and wrong' is not conducive to good relationships anywhere, let alone in the anonymous world of the internet.

I respect people who, if banned, obey the ban. I don't respect those who break it, returning in another guise. That tells me a deal about their 'trustworthiness', their lack of self-discipline, their attitude and lack of respect towards others and their self-importance. DD

tkachev

'They were not speaking for me'.
Thankyou DD that is all I want to hear. Some people really believe these sort of comments and are hurt. I saw nothing posted like this on her thread before.

Thank you
Elizabeth