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  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thinking of you Jean. (((())))
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    well friday 13th nearly over leaving

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    for you all val
    val
  • jean123
    jean123 Member Posts: 642
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all,

    Dad is still improving, though he gets tired around noon, and his mind starts to wander. They are now trying physio with a view to discharge once they have got on top of the heart and kidney problems, but he is well enough now to know he isn't as he was, and is talking about dying soon. I so hope he is wrong.

    My brother and his wife and their grandson and daughter in law are all down to visit him, so I may even get Sunday off, but we are all meeting up in the hospital cafe tomorrow morning.

    Take care everyone, and bless you for your good wishes.

    Jeanxxx
  • magenta
    magenta Member Posts: 1,604
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jean,

    I'm pleased to hear your Dad is improving and he may be getting out of hospital soon.
    I wish him well and try and get a rest yourself.
    Take care,

    Magenta x
  • roses1
    roses1 Member Posts: 1,850
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jean,

    Good news your Dad is improving !
    sending get well wishes and you take it easy!
    Rose x
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi jean, what would we do with out hospital canteens. had many a meal there when dad was in as we live to far to go home in afternoon break so off for a wander and nice meal (yes it was lovely in northern general) so glad your dad is improving i know it hurts when he talks of passing away but if he talking about it he not worrying about it trying to hide his feelings which would do far more harm to him take care have a lovely sunday val
    val
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    ((((())))) and two dollops. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    do hope you mannaged to have rest today ((())) val
    val
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thinking of you Jean. Hope things are as well as possible.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    ((())) and another dollop. I am thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • jean123
    jean123 Member Posts: 642
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    This is the first day I haven't visited dad...my brother and family went today, but my brother has just phoned from home to say that he was very tired and wandering - mentally not physically of course - so I feel guilty. I did want to do some cleaning, though, as the house is a complete tip. First I was really ill, and then dad.

    I am going to see him tomorrow, of course, and will let everyone know how he is getting on.

    Thank you again.

    Jeanxxx
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    make sure that you look after yourself too Jean.. Best wishes to you, your Dad & the whole family..
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    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    jean123 wrote:
    This is the first day I haven't visited dad...my brother and family went today, but my brother has just phoned from home to say that he was very tired and wandering - mentally not physically of course - so I feel guilty. I did want to do some cleaning, though, as the house is a complete tip. First I was really ill, and then dad.

    I am going to see him tomorrow, of course, and will let everyone know how he is getting on.

    Thank you again.

    Jeanxxx


    jean he would have been the same wether or not you were there you needed the break he will be so much better after some rest and so will you try to sleep tonight you will need all your strenth to help you through the coming weeks your dad needs you strong so take care ((())) thinking of you giving you strenth and positive vibes coming your way val
    val
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hope it a little bit warmer there than here jean
    val
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I am thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi just popped in to leave some (((())))
    val
  • Poppyg1rl
    Poppyg1rl Member Posts: 1,245
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jean, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Sending you some strengthening, comforting hugs (((((()))))) X
    'grá agus solas'
    'Love and Light' translated from Irish. X
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jean
    Isnt guilt awful....I think women are worse than men :roll: if we dont feel guilty we feel guilty about having nothing to feel guilty about :lol::lol::lol:
    You have to look after yourself as well......otherwise you will be no good to anyone.
    Thinking about you and sending ((((())))))
    Love
    Hileena
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jean
    I really do feel for you, going through this with my mum and dad there was one thing I learned, you will find something to feel guilty about...please make sure you look after yourself...I will be thinking about you x
    Love
    Barbara
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    well you have a lot of good Friends on here all sending good wishes your way good luck for both of you ((())) val
    val
  • flossy47
    flossy47 Member Posts: 171
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jean. I'm quite new on here but would like to add my support. When my husband was diagnosed with his mental health problem I went through what you are going through. You want to be there for the person you love but you shouldn't do it at the expense of your own health and sanity. Look after yourself.

    Love and hugs
    Flossy
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Sorry Jean I have not been in for a while so have missed this. I do hope your dad is making steady improvement and is slowly getting some strength back.
    Please don’t beat yourself up for not being there everyday with him, we do need to take a step back ourselves at times like these. I was lucky and had my brother to take alternate days whenever possible so I do understand the guilt but you must have time to take a break as you really do need to recharge and take stock. Even normal duties have to be taken care of and it does distract you for a few hours which is what you need.
    Hugs to you and yours,

    Lv, I x
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Still thinking of you, Jean. Hope things are as well as they can be.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hugs, dollops, cuppas and a wee dram or two are winging their way to you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    from jean 123

    I have just been told that dad is not likely to make it, so will probably not post for a while - but will be looking in.

    Please continue your hopes and prayers for him. I can only hope for a miracle, and I believe the power of the collective mind is strong.

    Poor dad is having panic attacks, and I spent some time with him today just holding his hand and comforting him, then he would sleep exhausted, only to wake with another attack.

    Jeanxxx
    val