Anyone got a spare spoon please?

JuliaHod12

If anyone has any spare I'd be very grateful...........too much going on and I'm not really coping.

I feel a bit like a Swan at the moment, all serene on the surface, but underneath paddling like mad to stay afloat!

As many of you know I'm booked in for my first TKR on 24th July, feeling a tad nervous, but know that I will be fine.
Awaiting the decison on my Blue Badge application - had an assessment on Wednesday.
FIL had a fall early on Wednesday morning, and was taken off to hospital with extreme high BP........we went to see him in the evening and he was so confused i couldnt believe it (we had seen him at the weekend and he was just fine) he has Dementia, but I've never seen him this bad and couldnt believe the deterioration. dear ol OH (Fluffy) is beside himself, fears that FIL wont come back home, so i am trying to find the words of support he needs to keep going.............and then yesterday afternoon FIL had a stroke.......... :-(

I really dont know how I can muster the mental strength to cope with my OH at present..........he's taken it really badly and isnt eating

sorry for the moan up.........just needed to get it off my chest.

spoons gratefully received xxx

tjt6768

you can take one of mine hun. I'm afraid it's only a tea spoon though.. All the desert spoons have fallen by the wayside :roll:
I hope that you're FIL is ok... Sends him my very best wishes eben thigh I'm just some strange Yorkshire Bloke.
And YBH's for you hun.

suzygirl

Thats an awful lot to cope with. SEnding you a spoon and well wishes

stickywicket

I'm so sorry. That's a lot for both of you to deal with. Please help yourself to spoons and a couple of these too. (())

frogmorton

Oh Julia

I am so sorry about FIL....at least the stroke explains his confusion - the poor man must have been feeling ill Poor OH (Fluffy - I love the name)

I hope your OH will believe that so many make a near full recovery after a stroke. Of course there are complications in OH's dear Dad's case...

I have been searching for a spare spoon for you and managed to come up with this....



It's the best l can do and it's nearly a spoon :?

Hope it helps for you to know we are here for you.

Love and hugs

Toni xx

barbara12

Hi Julia
I have some spare spoons you can have, what a rotten time for you and your family, I do hope your fil will make a good recovery, has for you please make sure you look after yourself.
Wish I could help more...(((((()))) xx

[Deleted User]

Oh dear, looks like you have a lot on your plate right now... Have a spoon from me, too, Julia.
Love,

valval

i will send two you need them more than me at moment ((())) try to rest when you can making your self ill wont help any one



could not find a spoon but sure this will help you sleep val

Numptydumpty

I'm sorry you're having such a bad time at the moment.
I can spare a couple of spoons. Some of these too (((((())))))
Numpty

mig

Sparing a spoon for you.Mig

duvarayi

Hello Julia

Sorry you are going through all this. I know how it feels like to have everything happening at the same time.

I don't have any spare spoons to offer you but I wish you the best and loads of painful (((( )))). Hope your FIL pulls out of this so that your other half can feel better as well.

Please stay strong for Fluffy and FIL and try to rest as this will take a lot out of you.

Babs

elainebadknee

Oh Julia

Heck me dear its not wonder youre seeking spoons, life isnt half throwing some boulders at you right now is it....
Must be distressing seeing someone with dementai but when they fall too must be even more distressingbut god love em to have a stroke too, its no wonder your OH is so upset....
It sounds like youre putting on a very brave face in amongst all this adversity but inside you feel like screaming...

Can only send gentle hugs or warm tea with sugar in.....How about a set of spoons hun?

Elainex

JuliaHod12 wrote:

If anyone has any spare I'd be very grateful...........too much going on and I'm not really coping.

I feel a bit like a Swan at the moment, all serene on the surface, but underneath paddling like mad to stay afloat!

As many of you know I'm booked in for my first TKR on 24th July, feeling a tad nervous, but know that I will be fine.
Awaiting the decison on my Blue Badge application - had an assessment on Wednesday.
FIL had a fall early on Wednesday morning, and was taken off to hospital with extreme high BP........we went to see him in the evening and he was so confused i couldnt believe it (we had seen him at the weekend and he was just fine) he has Dementia, but I've never seen him this bad and couldnt believe the deterioration. dear ol OH (Fluffy) is beside himself, fears that FIL wont come back home, so i am trying to find the words of support he needs to keep going.............and then yesterday afternoon FIL had a stroke.......... :-(

I really dont know how I can muster the mental strength to cope with my OH at present..........he's taken it really badly and isnt eating

sorry for the moan up.........just needed to get it off my chest.

spoons gratefully received xxx

SteveBurns

Hi Julia, you really do have a lot on your plate right now. I haven't a clue what the spoons will do but you can take as many of mine as you need

Can't help with anything other than the TKR but I will say it gets better every day so whatever pain you may feel one day will be a little less the next.

I wish you well and good luck with everything. it sounds like things can only get better for you

JuliaHod12

Once again i thank you guys for your support...........dont know what I would do without being able to vent my feelings on the forum and know the support is right here.

I'm just taking each day as it comes and trying to deal with the issues as the present themselves!
Fluffy cracked and has begun to eat again.......so thats one worry out of the way, now I just have to convince him that he will regret it if he doesnt go to visit his Dad again..........

thanks for the spoons, god knows i need them !

love
Julia x

frogmorton

Hi Julie

good news Fluffy is eating again, but I am still thinking of you all.

take care and a spare spoon on it's way

Love

Toni xx

ruby2

You can have my spoons today Julia... as I'm feeling ok today.

My thoughts are with you...its dreadful to be feeling so exhausted it feels like it will never pass, and with everything else on top too!
Try to squeeze in a little time for you and hopefully you will collect a little energy to do some of the other things.

Hugs and spoons ((()))

stickywicket

I agree with ruby2. Do try to get a bit of time for yourself. It's good that your OH is now eating but so unfortunate that all this happened just now. Try to work a few 'calm' sessions into each day. (())

JuliaHod12

thanks again for the support guys........... xx

FIL isnt able to eat or drink.......they havent been able to get a feeding tube in, so are taking him of for xray this morning to see what is obstructing his throat :-(

the stroke was bigger than was originally thought, as the paralysis has worsened from thursday :-(

Fluffy is not doing at all well.......disinterested in everything.........even his stupid games on his laptop..hasnt touched them for days now!
He's refusing to go back to the hospital to see his Dad now........and i am stuck in limbo as i cant risk going to visit and potentially picking up an infection before my Op in 9 days time :-(

Sleep.........wherefore art thou? :-(

stickywicket

'Try not to worry' is one of the easiest things to say but it's one of the hardest things to put into practice.

Is your OH talking at least? If he could just articulate why he feels as he does it might help. Of course no-one wants to see their parents in such a state but he might regret it later if he doesn't.

I do feel for you, having to deal with all this and still trying to keep calm for your own hospital stay. (())

elainebadknee

Julia

I can understand your OH not eating, drinking, touching games on laptop...Its quite a lot to take in with the stroke paralysing your FIL and if he's not able to eat and drink must be very distressing for you both...
However he is going to have to go and see him, visit, its going to have to be sooner rather than later too if youre in hospital in 9 days time.....I guess he is shell shocked and simply doesnt know what to do or think even but if its as grave as it sounds, he may regret not going to see FIL....But its going to have to be his decision, after all if you visited who knows it may lift your FIL even for a wee while....

Its not a nice situation to be in and I send sympathies with you all..

Elainex

Folara

I'm sorry Julia, I've only just seen this request.

I only have a teaspoon spare at the mo as I'm having a bit of a hard time on the pain front but a teaspoon is not to be sneezed at. I do however have a nice big hug you can have so I'm sending that wth the teaspoon.

Fols xxx

duvarayi

Julia
I'm sorry you're all going through this and hope things improve for your FIL. I hope you will be able to have your operation and understand your worries about going to hospital and risk catching something.

I hope you succeed in convincing Fluffy to go see his father. I agree with Elaine that a visit may lift FIL's spirits.

I hope everything improves for your family.

I'm sending you big ((((()))))

Babs xxx

pinkbritishstars

Sending you some spoons Julia.

Also sending you a pile of hugs.

xxx

duvarayi

Julia

Just wondering how FIL is doing and if you've managed to convince Fluffy go visit him.

Thinking of you and hoping you will still be able to go for your operation.

Babs xxx

JuliaHod12

Hi Babs

FIL is stable, had another stroke on Saturday.
Theyve removed his fluids drip as that was causing him agitation............they started feeding him yesterday throuhg a naso gastric tube.........he is still extremely sleepy and only wakes when really shouted at!

OH still refusing to go see him, but is beginning to get back to normality..........i think he was afraid his dad would pass away quickly..........but he wont talk about it!

thanks for asking xx

[Deleted User]

Hello Julia,
Just wanted to say that I am thinking of you. I hope you FIL will recover soon. I have an idea abot how horrible strokes are.
I wish your family all the best.
Love,