Chest Infection

Numptydumpty

Good morning DD.
I'm sorry you had such a rough night. Things never seem quite so bad if you get a decent night's sleep.
I hope today is a better day for you, and for your mum.
I also hope the love returns to your marriage
Take care of you,
(((())))
Numpty

mig

Hi DD,Sorry life is such a pain at the moment,pack him a bag and send him here,I won't be I'm on my way to yours,couldn't live with two of them.
Hope the news is not too bad about your mum and good your cousin is helping out.(((((((()))))))) Mig

nearlybionic

Hi DD
Sorry to hear that your night was so rubbish, but I thought it might be thanks to the lovely chest infection. I hope you manage to get some rest today, and a bit of shut eye maybe?
Your Mum is in the right place and being cared for, and it`s a good thing too really. You are not in a fit state to care for her, and you would make both yourself and her worse if you were to try! I hope the hospital have a discharge meeting for your Mum in plenty of time before they decide she is ready to go home, so that a full plan can be put in place , especially if you say she is not able to care for herself anymore.(maybe this should be mentioned quietly by your cousin as soon as she can to start the ball rolling)
As for Mr DD, he should think himself very lucky that you have lost your voice, or I am sure he would be hearing some very colourful descriptions of himself .
Take care x
NB

hileena111

Oh DD I'm so sorry....you are really suffering at the minute and theyn to find out about your mum. At least your cousin went round and found her I suppose it could have been work.
You take care of yourself ...there's not much more I can say....that you don't know
Sending loads of ((((((())))))
Love
Hileena

MUM1

Hope your chest infection clears up son DD (((((((((HUGS))))))))) X

dreamdaisy

My voice has gone. As a result Mr Grumpy is having to do the ringing round to find out what's going on and to pass on any news. For the first time in twenty five year my love for him is dwindling somewhat which is proof of just how rough I am feeling.

When he rang the hospital at just after 2pm we discovered that she has had a good breakfast, has been able to sit out in a chair and was then being seen by a team of OTs so that they could see first-hand how she copes with various challenges. The thinking is that she will stay in for at least another night (I really hope so for the simply selfish reason I won't have to worry about her). I can guarantee that anything they suggest to help her at home will be dismissed out of hand. She knows what she wants - sensible equipment and outsiders coming in to help isn't it.

Sometimes we don't have a choice about what we want, we just have to adapt and make the best of what we have. She won't. Simples. DD

dibdab

Just dropping by to send some positive vibes in your direction. Sorry to hear that you're struggling so much just now, I sometimes think our OH's panic when we aren't well and it comes out as grump :? . Here's hoping that your mum will be kept in till she's able to care more adequately for herself- I wonder if your cousin is one step removed and could be more insistent about her getting the right care package to keep mum safe at home?

Take care of yourself and keep looking for the light at the end of this particular tunnel.

Deb x

constable

Firstly DD, you are in no way being selfish in thinking that. It is perfectly understandable. You are not well at all and need to rest and recover somewhat. I know what you mean about your hubby though. They can be so so selfish cant they. But they get so used to us looking after them, they would be lost without us.

Hope those anti's start kicking in very soon for you. You do deserve a break from all that is going on.

daffy2

DD So sorry to hear of the latest in the saga of grottiness that is your life at present - talk abut hitting a girl when she's already down....
Would your mother cooperate with a few days respite care if the hospital can't or won't keep her in? We had a similar situation with my mother when she couldn't go straight back home but didn't need to be in hospital - we 3 daughters lived 100's of miles away(in another country in one case) so limited as to what we could do - but a couple of weeks respite care gave much needed breathing space to sort things out.
As for Mr DD I seem to remember reading somewhere that men are not very good at dealing with the 'one thing after another' of the kind that the DD household has had visited upon it - they manage much better with the crisis scenario - see problem, sort problem, bask in post testosterone glow, get on with life.Unfortunately for MrDD your difficulties don't lend themselves to that approach....
Wish I could do something more tangible, but failing that, all my thoughts are with you, hoping that if things can't improve they at least don't get worse.

dreamdaisy

Thank you everyone, you are all so kind and thoughtful. Daffy,I think you make a very valid point there, it has indeed been one damn thing after another and yes, I can understand that he's weary of it. So am I.

I am saddened to report that things have worsened, the toe nail on my left little toe has fallen off. I was filing it because it had split vertically (as has the nail on my right big toe) and I wanted to avoid any further damage but both halves came away with no effort at all. :roll: I have a naked nail bed. :shock: It hurts but in an interesting way from all the other hurts. I have been noticing that some of my toenails have been changing (thanks to my PsA no doubt) but this was unexpected. Hey-ho. Things can only get better - but only after they've got a damned sight worse first! DD

PS My ma and 'co-operation' go together like oil and water.

mig

Blinking heck DD what next.Massive hugs .(((()))) Careful in bed with toe ,cover it up.Mig

frogmella

Hi DD. Things do seem to be getting worse for you at the moment. I just hope that it means that when they get better they get loads better. I am sorry that there isn't more I can do but offer my "virtual" support. But it is there anyway. Sending positive thoughts through the ether. ((()))

Numptydumpty

I hope you had a better night last night, and the anti-bios are kicking in.

My toe nail fell off last year, after splitting vertically, :shock: Luckily it grew back again, I hope that yours does too.

Take care, (((())))
Numpty

villier

Oh dear DD hope things have been a bit better today as I don't think they can get any worse, hope Mr grumpy is in a better mood today, MEN, I think it's our own fault as we spoil them too much, well I did mine and did it too well as I had to get rid of him joking aside hope things are better in the DD household today and your Ma is relenting and letting people help her, it would be such a weight off your mind..............tc............Marie xx

kentishlady

Hello DD. Do hope u are feeling just a little bit better today. Sorry that yr OH is not being very helpful or sympathetic. That's all you need when you are feeling so rotten. Do hope your Mum gets sorted and improves soon. There is no way you should even think about going to visjt her until you are feeling better yourself and this b....y weather improves! We've had blizzards this morning but it's not settling. I'm staying indoors and hibernating. Take care of yourself. Beryl ((()))

dachshund

Hello DD
you are having so much bad luck lately. i hope you get some good luck soon.
((((((((DD))))))))
joan xx

barbara12

Hi DD
Gosh you are suffering....but with Mr DD on hand at the very least you will be fed and watered...now your mum....my Father was like this..don't need anyone coming in I have my daughter... :roll: I wish someone would offer me help....
Now you take care of yourself....and don't infect Mr DD....he is needed xx

dreamdaisy

Once again my thanks to you all.

After a bad day yesterday and ghastly night I went back to the GP at 9am and from there was duly transferred to the hospital. I came home at 5.30pm with pred ( :roll: ) at a hefty 40mgs per day for five days. I am to stop the anti-biotics because I have a viral infection of the upper respiratory tract and increase my inhalers because my asthma is back with a vengeance.

I spoke to my mum briefly - it seems that she had a mild heart attack on Tuesday morning hence the fall. She will be in hospital for another couple of days I think. I feel I should go and see her (hell, on 40mgs of pred I could flaming well Clatterate the 130 miles or so) but seeing as how I am bugged I guess that wouldn't be a good idea. Has anyone seen my rose-coloured spectacles? I appear to have mislaid the blighters. DD

dibdab

Seems to me that you are really struggling (like you I have asthma and ended up in A & E for several hours at Christmas- it's a horrible feeling and really debilitating) perhaps it would be wise to take a couple of quiet days whilst the asthma settles, which will give your system time to fight the virus- mum is safe and being well cared for, and sometimes you need to put DD first on the list!!!!!!!

What ever you decide, take care of yourself.
Deb x

Numptydumpty

Well it may be a strange thing to say, but I'm pleased you went to the hospital. Hopefully, the pred will do its stuff, and you never know, it may help in other ways as well.
You can't possibly go to see your mum just yet, for both your sakes. Just concentrate on getting yourself better.
Take care of you, ((((()))))
Numpty

ritwren

We've had a death in the family so I've not been on.
DD hope the pred does the trick and you are soon breathing easier and feeling stronger. Hospital is the best place for your Mum at the moment, hope she will now accept some help for when she gets home.
Take good care of yourself and hang in there.
big hugs. r

dreamdaisy

Ritwren, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Please accept my condolences; apologies for not looking in are entirely un-necessary.

Going to the hospital was probably the right thing to do but I do feel a little like the girl who cried 'Wolf!' :? The odd thing is that what I was experiencing yesterday was nothing like the asthma I used to have (mind you that was in the pre-inhaler days) so I completely failed to make the connection between the infection and the asthma. It was also my first nebuliser experience ever - I remember waking up in hospital in O2 tents having passed out due to lack of air, this was far more civilised! Mind you my peak flow rose from 200 to 350 two hours post-steroid so I guess that's a good thing (and it's still at that level). My saturation levels didn't drop below 96% either - I guess the old breathing techniques kicked in without my realising.

Basically I feel a fraud. I wasted a deal of people's time yesterday, mine and his included. I know it was the right thing to do (and after years of this malarkey I don't panic un-necessarily) but hey-ho, it coulda been worse and I should be thankful it isn't. I've taken my steroids like a good girl but my voice is still croaky and rasping, and a glorious bout of coughing rendered me vomiting at about 3.30am. Wot larks Pip. :roll: DD

dibdab

Hi DD,

Here comes a stern talking to!!
:shock: Firstly, you didn't waste any one's time- you are unwell and needed treatment otherwise they wouldn't have given you steroids and a nebuliser, secondly- hospitals would far rather treat you whilst something like a nebuliser will do the job than have you wait till it gets to the oxygen tent stage!(or so my doctor son tells me when I apologise for wasting A & E time), and finally- you're special and important and well worth the time and attention you needed

Seriously though, I'm glad to hear that the steroids are doing their job, keep taking care of yourself-just about every one on this site benefits from your wisdom and compassion and we thank you for it.

Deb x

frogmella

Hmm. You are so hard on yourself DD. I agree with everything dibdab said. Please give yourself a break! It's about time you did as you say to all of us! Consider yourself told .

Seriously, you didn't waste anyone's time. And we all think the world of you. xx

dreamdaisy

Oh gaawd, I am sooooo embarrassed. :oops: :oops: :oops: Please don't think the world of me 'cos I'm not anything special. Far from it.

I am currently hopped up on steroids which is not helpful. I have a mantra for the day which is 'fake better, fake better, fake better' and I am repeating that ad nauseum. On the plus side my arthritis roller-coaster is currently on the ascendancy but I am aware that next week may bring on a monstrous plunge when I stop mother's little helper.

To paraphrase one of the twentieth century's greatest comedic heroes, Homer Simpson, I give you the following toast: 'Steroids, the cause of (and answer to) many of life's problems.' DD