The hospital rang.

dreamdaisy

Hello again, I'm sorry I haven't looked in for a couple of days but my mind has been on other things. Once again I send my heartfelt thanks for all your kind messages - what a lovely, special bunch of people you are.

We have a date and time, 22 April at 10am, to be followed by a gathering for brunch at a pub not too far from the crem. We sorted the flowers and I will be taking them home with me after the service, rather than leaving them 130 miles away where I can't see them. We also went to the grounds where we scattered Daddy in 2002, we found his spot and Ma will join him there in due course. The headache which began on Wednesday is still with me, as is the chest infection malarkey. The joints are protesting mightily (which is no surprise) but no matter. We are returning to Ipswich tomorrow, then back here come next Friday night for another three nights.

Ye gods. What a surreal and unsettling week. I wish you all well. DD

daffy2

We will be with you in spirit if not in body on the 22nd, wishing your mother a peaceful final journey and thanking her with all our hearts for having produced the wonderful person who is her daughter.

mig

Hear hear Daffy couldn't have put it better. Mig

Catie

DD, so sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts will be with you on the 22nd.

Catie x

frogmorton

Sounds ideally sorted out. I am sure your Ma's ashes where your Daddy's are is exactly what she would have wanted.

You are doing well.

I am still thinking of you

Love

Toni xxx

hileena111

Hi DD
Seems as if things are sorted......You'll be glad to get home and get back to normal {whatever that is }
You've been through a really hard time.
Thinking about you pet
Love
Hileena

kentishlady

Hello DD. Just to let you know am thinking of you and will be with u on 22nd. Take care of yourself and hope the chest infection will clear soon as that might help you just a little. Beryl ((()))

constable

DD, I don't think your headache will go until after the funeral now. Sorry that's sounds awful, but, with all the illness and all the stress and sadness, it is no wonder.

My heart will be with you and your family on the 22nd too. And my heart goes out to you all now. I remember how it felt and know you all need support now. Keep going DD, you can do it.

applerose

Thinking of you DD and will be on 22nd. Hope you are managing to rest and take care of yourself. (((hugs)))

dreamdaisy

Thank you one and all. We came home today, I'm not doing too well on all fronts but wanted to acknowledge your kindnesses. I'm comfortably settled in front of the telly for the golf, 'im indoors is cheffing, and life should be normal but it ain't. Hey-ho. I'm about half way through the eulogy (I can guarantee a sympathetic audience as most will be family, but as an old family friend said this evening 'She sure gave us stuff to talk about!' )

So, let's end on a joke. On Wednesday evening (after my world had changed forever) my beloved tuned in to BBC4's 'Old Jews Telling Jokes' and yup, it helped. Four Jewish ladies are having lunch, their waiter approaches and says 'Ladies, is anything alright?' That made me laugh ( my Dad would appreciate why) and I hope that you too can smile. DD

PS Mods? Be thankful I didn't tell the one about the vase.

PPS. If you think you would like the one about the vase then PM me.

applerose

No DD, life is not normal for you at the moment and I don't think it will start to feel normal until after the 22nd but I'm glad you are still able to enjoy a joke. Take care.

daffy2

Seems to me that the jewish ladies' joke rather sums up your situation at the moment DD.

dreamdaisy

Morning all. The joints have suddenly remembered what they are supposed to be doing so they're doing it and making up for lost time. Innit great? :roll: Hey-ho, no matter. This time next week I'll be preparing for her funeral and I hope that the weather will be doing what it is now viz sunny and warm. I'm off to clean the house, shower then do my humira. Wow. Life in all its wondrous glory is being lived here. DD

kentishlady

Hello DD. Am glad to hear your joints are behaving a little better today. At least the sun is shining. You are doing really well in the face of all you have had to contend with recently. Keep going. You are an inspiration to us all. Have got washing on whilst I have my breakfast. Will be able to put it in garden today and 'christen' my new clothes airer! Have done away with rotary airer as too much of a struggle, apart from being too painful for back, to put up and then peg clothes on it. Think it's called adapting!!

Take care of yourself. Beryl ((()))

dreamdaisy

I meant that I can barely move, not that they are better than they have been. I've sat and looked at the vacuum and shoved the humira to the back of the fridge. I've decided to be a total sloth today in the hope that come tomorrow I will feel a little better. The housework can wait - anyhoo what with 'im indoors being a bloke he won't notice.

I was going to write a eulogy but I've realised that all those who will be there next week all knew mum so don't need the full biography. I'll stand up and improvise on the day, I think that will work better. I do not want a minister who never met my mother telling us about her, far better that it comes from me (and anyone else if they wish to comment - knowing my chatty family I think they will). This time next week it will all be done.

I am so tired. DD

mike26

hi dream daisy

sorry to hear of your loss
ill say a little prayer for her.
RIP god bless.
take care
mike26.

kentishlady

Oh DD, sorry I thght you meant you were having a slightly better day. Am not surprised that you are so tired. You have been through so much recently and now have the sadness of losing your Mum to contend with. Do try and get as much rest as you can this week. Have you got a garden you can sit out in? I found the garden to be a great comfort and relaxation after I lost my dear Mum and at other times of stress too. Is your chest infection any better?

Take care of yourself.

Beryl

dachshund

Hello DD
do not work too hard your body needs to rest it's been through a lot i'm only saying because i care.
((((((((DD))))))))
joan xx

dibdab

Hi DD,

Glad you put the housework on hold- just for now it's time to get by and not worry about the non-essential stuff! I think it's lovely that you're going to talk about your mum at the funeral, it will take great courage but you will be surrounded by folks who know and love you and knew and loved her. I'll be thinking about you on the day.

Hope the joints start to behave a bit better very soon. Take care of yourself.

Deb x

dreamdaisy

Thank you once again, you are all so kind. I spoke to my allocated vicar today and he sounds like a right drip (I will bet money with my beloved that his handshake will not only be weak but also damp) . We will meet at 5pm on Saturday when he will tell me what's what and how things will be done. (I hope I won't lapse into the Arthritic's Prayer rather than the Lord's - methinks I'd better start practising.) Earlier I couldn't reverse Daisy back on to the drive thanks to a very creaky neck so she's still sat on the road, she's already been keyed when left out there before but I hope no-one will be about tonight to add more damage. Ah, the sweet joys of urban living. DD

diamond

Sending my deepest sympathy to you both.x

villier

Sorry haven't been around for a few days have been at my sisters.

Forget the housework does it matter at this time if it's done or not and as you pointed out OH being a bloke will never notice, get as much rest as you can, you will find the strength to get through it, I know I did when my dear mum passed, you will get there when you have all the family round you and of course all the support from here, take care DD thinking of you ((((())))) xx

Numptydumpty

Well done with the Humira pushing, oops sorry, :shock: shoving! and the hoover staring. That's quite enough exertion for one day
I know what you mean about having someone who has never met your mum, talking about her. At my dad's funeral, the minister referred to him as Donald, his name was Dennis! Dad would have found that amusing, but mum didn't!
Take care, (((())))
love Numpty

dachshund

Hello DD
thinking of you at this sad time. take care
((((((((DD))))))))
joan xx

villier

Morning DD sending you some ((((())))) and to let you know I'm thinking about you.................Marie xx