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Another worry

ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
edited 9. Jan 2014, 09:28 in Community Chit-chat archive
Hi all

As you all know there have been some major problems recently in my family; my sister having to rush home to Oz because her son's brain tumour had grown for instance, and troubles I have had with my mum...she was ill and I had to take her to A&E, and then her being difficult over Christmas? Well my brother had an xray last week for a persistent cough, and yesterday I found out that they found a shadow on his lung. He has to go in and see the specialist on Monday for further tests but it's looking likely that he has lung cancer. I am devastated, and my mum is beside herself. So lots of positive thoughts needed. I had hoped that this new year would bring good things, but it's gotten off to the worst start possible...it seems this is going to be just as hard a year as the last!
If you could keep him in your thoughts I would be grateful.

x
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  • bubbadogbubbadog Posts: 5,852
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Wow ouch, you really have had a bad start to the year, your family and your self will be in my thoughts. take care sending you a (())
  • villiervillier Posts: 4,426
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Sorry to hear this Ouch you need this like a hole in the head, keeping fingers crossed for the positive some of these to keep you going (((()))) .............Marie xx
    Smile a while and while you smile
    smile another smile and soon there
    will be miles and miles of smiles
    just because you smiled I wish your
    day is full of Smiles
  • ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thankyou, this site is a lifesaver sometimes...it really helps to be able to get it all out. I have to be strong and cheerful for my mum, and tell her it could be this or that (and it still could be) but with the long standing cough he has, and his 40 a day smoking it's not looking good. But I can't tell her that.
    In the meantime I am suffering; most of my pain has been confined to my right side SI joint, buttock hip and thigh but lately it has spread to my left too, so I'm guessing it has progressed (suspected AS). It's now also an all day all night pain rather than easing off for most of the day. But in light of what my brother is going through I don't feel like I should be complaining.

    *Sigh*

    x
  • bubbadogbubbadog Posts: 5,852
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    You are suffering as well so you have every right to complain about feeling bad. I can understand how hard it must be having to be the positive rock for your mother when she is worried and scared for your Dad. You need to speak to your Rhummey Nurse or make an appt to see your consultant or G.P soon. Remember you need to feel strong physically as well as mentally. Your no good to anyone if your suffering constantly.
  • dachshunddachshund Posts: 7,710
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Ouchpotato
    i'm so sorry to read your news ((((((((ouchpotato and family ))))))))
    thinking of you
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • appleroseapplerose Posts: 3,621
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh Ouch, it's just one thing after another. As has been said, please look after yourself too. It is so easy to forget to do that when we are caring and worrying about others. As for complaining, this is where we all come to do just that. We're hear to listen and support. (((hugs)))
    Christine
  • ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi everyone, and thanks for your thoughts. It's my brother's apt tomorrow morning at 8.45, so I guess a sleepless night for him, my mum and me. Hopefully he will get some answers then. As for me I am really suffering today, with horrible pain in my ribs, you know the kind of pain that makes you want to be sick?

    Oh well, once dinner is over it will be hot water bottle and feet up and try and ease it a bit.

    Hope you're all doing well.

    x
  • hileena111hileena111 Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Ouch......will be thinking about you all


    Love
    Hileena
  • NumptydumptyNumptydumpty Posts: 6,494
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    So sorry to hear this Ouch.
    You and your brother are in my thoughts.
    Wishing you well, Numpty
  • ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thanks once again. I found out tonight that he found out on 23rd Dec but didn't tell any of us so he didn't spoil our Christmas. He is hitting the bottle hard - a big blow out before his life changes tomorrow he said - if it's bad news there will be big changes, and if it's not bad news then he has to make some drastic changes to his lifestyle...he drinks and smokes heavily, and has a sedentary job. I've made a pact with him that we both go on a diet together and have a weekly weigh in :D

    Keep those positive thoughts coming everyone.

    x
  • hileena111hileena111 Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Still thinking about you Ouch.....please keep us up to date
    Thanks
    Love
    Hileena
  • SusiesooSusiesoo Posts: 358
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh ouch. Sorry to hear this. Positive thoughts coming your way. Stay strong.

    Susie
  • bubbadogbubbadog Posts: 5,852
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Ouch, hope your brothers appt went OK this morning, so it's just a waiting till the results come in. Hope it's not a long wait for your brother and you & the family. Positive (())'s sent.
  • fortunafortuna Posts: 149
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Fingers crossed for a good outcome.
    fortuna
  • ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi everyone

    Well, mixed news really. The consultant said that yes...there is something there, it is 8mm but doesn't jump out at him as anything serious BUT he cannot commit himself to that until my brother has a scan. In fact he said he would probably have missed it himself (which is a bit worrying!). He said it could be scarring from a previous chest infection.

    He is having a scan tomorrow morning, and will hopefully get the results tomorrow evening (his wife knows the consultant as she works in the hospital).

    So...not the bad news we were expecting but not (yet) the good news we were hoping for.

    x
  • stickywicketstickywicket Posts: 25,977 ✭✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Fingers crossed, ouch. I'm sorry I missed this thread previously.
    “There is always a well-known solution to every human problem - neat, plausible, and wrong.” H.L. Mencken
  • appleroseapplerose Posts: 3,621
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Not as good as you'd hoped but not altogether bad news. Hope it goes well for your brother tomorrow.
    Christine
  • daffy2daffy2 Posts: 1,713
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I do hope it will be good news from the scan.
  • bubbadogbubbadog Posts: 5,852
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Will be keeping my fingers crossed for your brothers scan today, hope the news is it's scar tissue.
  • ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thanks everyone. Still waiting for the results. He had his CT scan this morning, freaked out apparently as he is claustrophobic, and now it's just a case of waiting by the phone.

    Fingers crossed.

    x
  • ouchpotatoouchpotato Posts: 453
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Well...thankyou all so much, it seems your positive thoughts worked and he got the all clear!!! We are all over the moon.
    I will sleep better tonight :mrgreen:

    Thankyou again

    x
  • appleroseapplerose Posts: 3,621
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    That's wonderful news. What a relief for you all.
    Christine
  • hileena111hileena111 Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    That's fantastic news

    Love
    Hileena
  • stickywicketstickywicket Posts: 25,977 ✭✭✭
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Excelllent. I'm so pleased for you both.
    “There is always a well-known solution to every human problem - neat, plausible, and wrong.” H.L. Mencken
  • villiervillier Posts: 4,426
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Great news Ouch so pleased for you all..................Marie x
    Smile a while and while you smile
    smile another smile and soon there
    will be miles and miles of smiles
    just because you smiled I wish your
    day is full of Smiles
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