Feeling really upset by comments!

nearlybionic

Hi
I am still getting used to my decreased mobility, using a stick and my Blue Badge. So I am probably a bit oversensitive at the moment. Today when I went to collect my son from school, I parked in a place where I can using my badge . By doing so I do not have far to walk to school. Imagine my horror when a woman opened my car door and said ,"I know you are...well...you know, but can you move your car so I can pull out of side road. " Her large car is obviously difficult to manouevre and I am not parking too close to a junction. In normal circumstances I would have stood up for myself but feeling low as I am, I just put my head down and rolled the car forward. Then when she had gone I burst into tears!
I feel awful needing to use my badge etc.. but I need them . She couldn`t even say `disabled` or `have a blue badge` like its a dirty word!! :roll:
Sorry to go on but I needed to vent!

mouseymousey

Hello Nearly - oh what an awful thing to happen......some people really are the pits. Lots of comebacks, but it doesn't matter at the moment. For the time being be a bit nice to yourself this evening...Mxx

oneday

womans an idiot!.......loads of em about...........just got you at bad moment.......dont waste your tears..........park there every day,get there early and get out of your car then she cant ask you to move it........go really slow back to car too!!!!!!!!!!!

nearlybionic

Thanks for your replies,
I have been thinking and I must admit I was tempted to move my car back and totally block the side road!!! But its not worth a fine is it?!!
You`re right though, just happened at the wrong time. I am not sleeping well so have a tendency to get a bit emotional. This is another thing I find hard about all this, that I am usually quite a strong person. I now feel like hiding away, to avoid people`s silly comments and stares. I will have to find my backbone (if its not too sore) and stand up to them!!!

purvesrosie

Its eaiser said that done but try to ignore these comments. I had my first bad experience yesterday when going to hospital for x rays. The only space left was one disabled bay i pulled in as i have blue badge and an old man stopped his car behind me and said " excuse me young lady thats a disabled bay!" I just said " I know" and walked off in shock. Why people make these hurtful and judgemental comments i have no idea.
Take care
Rosie x

eckstardeluxe

Lol, I'd have loved them to say that to me, I'd have caused a scene like you wouldn't believe! I'm still reeling from last week's fat comment! Got a letter from the Complaints team Saturday, it's going high up. Woohoo! Scuse my language though, what a bloody cheek! My Mum would have said to rise above it but I wouldn't have been able to contain myself, I'd have had to say something. No wonder you're upset.

eckstardeluxe

purvesrosie wrote:

" excuse me young lady thats a disabled bay!" I just said " I know" and walked off in shock. Why people make these hurtful and judgemental comments i have no idea.
Take care
Rosie x

Good for you Rosie, people should mind their own business.

nearlybionic

I think I was so shocked that she opened my car door and just said it.It is one of those situations where you think of all the good things you should have said after the moment has passed!!
The thing is I will see her every day at the school gate. :roll:

eckstardeluxe

I know how that is, my friends tell me all the time they wish they could be a bit more mouthy like me and they spend ages thinking of all the things they could have said. If it's any comfort, I can say the things I want most of the time but then I spend ages regretting them! Well if you see her everyday you've got plenty time to think up a nice witty retort for her, she certainly deserves it. xxx

mandy_b1967

oneday wrote:

womans an idiot!.......loads of em about...........just got you at bad moment.......dont waste your tears..........park there every day,get there early and get out of your car then she cant ask you to move it........go really slow back to car too!!!!!!!!!!!

Good one I would do this and then smile at her when you see her.
Mandy

nearlybionic

mandy_b1967 wrote:

oneday wrote:

womans an idiot!.......loads of em about...........just got you at bad moment.......dont waste your tears..........park there every day,get there early and get out of your car then she cant ask you to move it........go really slow back to car too!!!!!!!!!!!

Good one I would do this and then smile at her when you see her.
Mandy

Ooooh you lot are evil!! But its giving me ideas!!!!

livinglegend

The Blue Badge gives disabled people parking conscessions and can be withdrawn if abused. The above comments about blocking junctions give all disabled people a bad name. You never know who is reading this.

Near here all the roads have now got No Loading signs and lines to stop obstruction to junctions and access. Also, following complaints, patrols by Community Support Officers to enforce it.

Whether we like it or not, in the current PC climate, people are going to be unsure how to approach us. (Handicapped or Disabled or Whatevernext). Would you have preferred her to drive up to within a few inches of your car and start blasting on the horn until you moved?

As you see her at the school gates, you could always say, 'Sorry I blocked you in the other day when you pulled out of the junction'. Nothing hurts like being forgiven.
It is just another blip on the rich tapestry of life.

Joseph 8)

nearlybionic

livinglegend wrote:

The Blue Badge gives disabled people parking conscessions and can be withdrawn if abused. The above comments about blocking junctions give all disabled people a bad name. You never know who is reading this.

Near here all the roads have now got No Loading signs and lines to stop obstruction to junctions and access. Also, following complaints, patrols by Community Support Officers to enforce it.

Whether we like it or not, in the current PC climate, people are going to be unsure how to approach us. (Handicapped or Disabled or Whatevernext). Would you have preferred her to drive up to within a few inches of your car and start blasting on the horn until you moved?

As you see her at the school gates, you could always say, 'Sorry I blocked you in the other day when you pulled out of the junction'. Nothing hurts like being forgiven.
It is just another blip on the rich tapestry of life.

Joseph 8)

Joseph,
Please do not misunderstand me or what I say. I have never or would I in the future Park illegally or causing obstruction. If people take things out of context I cannot help that. My Blue Badge is a godsend for me. I was shocked at her comments but more so that she just opened my car door, invading my personal space. She could have knocked on thne window and asked me to wind down my window.
Nearlybionic

livinglegend

You never said you would. Its just a reminder to people that you never know who is looking and willing to take comments out of context.

Just for you.

Joseph 8)

jennywren

I would not tolerate that and it is so eay for those without blue badge not to understand our feelings and invasion of privacy and then condemn our frustrating action. I would block her car in with mine and flash my blue badge at her and failing an apology let her tyres down??????after all if someone parked in front of our car say in our drives what would we do smile and say that is OK????

oneday

eckstardeluxe wrote:

Lol, I'd have loved them to say that to me, I'd have caused a scene like you wouldn't believe! I'm still reeling from last week's fat comment! Got a letter from the Complaints team Saturday, it's going high up. Woohoo! Scuse my language though, what a bloody cheek! My Mum would have said to rise above it but I wouldn't have been able to contain myself, I'd have had to say something. No wonder you're upset.

what fat comment?..is that on antoher thread?

oneday

nearlybionic wrote:

Thanks for your replies,
I have been thinking and I must admit I was tempted to move my car back and totally block the side road!!! But its not worth a fine is it?!!
You`re right though, just happened at the wrong time. I am not sleeping well so have a tendency to get a bit emotional. This is another thing I find hard about all this, that I am usually quite a strong person. I now feel like hiding away, to avoid people`s silly comments and stares. I will have to find my backbone (if its not too sore) and stand up to them!!!

stares.........out stare them.............i do, if i have my stick!!!!!!!!!they dont say a thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

nearlybionic

Hi Oneday,
The`fat` comment was on another thread about Drs and consultants etc..
I Will try to out stare them in future, or as you say theres always my stick!lol

oneday

whoops..............post not clear!!!!!!!!
i meant (assumed everyone was psychic or something) if i have my stick and get stared at i then out stare them.......phew........i do not advocate hitting with stick .........hands are for eating....mustnt damage them hitting with sticks

jaybar

nearlybionic wrote:

I think I was so shocked that she opened my car door and just said it.It is one of those situations where you think of all the good things you should have said after the moment has passed!!
The thing is I will see her every day at the school gate. :roll:

so sorry this unthinking lady upset you . thats just what she was , i,m sure she felt a real idiot not being able to get out of a side road without asking you to move , and then when she realised your mobility was impaired she felt even dafter . Next time you see her in the playground just smile sweetly and engage her in conversation , and with any luck she will be very remorseful and ask you if she can help you at all
jane

nearlybionic

Hi oneday
I only meant wave stick to show I don`t care if they look!
I can`t hide it, it`s bright pink!!!

nearlybionic

Hi Jane
I saw her this afternoon but didn`t manage to catch her eye. Oh well theres always tomorrow!! I`m feeling a bit better about it today. Thanks to peoples support on here etc.. I have enough to worry about ( upcoming op) without looking for things to worry about! :shock:
Thanks for taking time to reply everyone! You`re all great.

oneday

of course we are great.........heres the plan....assuming your car has blacked out windows.........we all pile in your car with our sticks and stampede out when woman arrives........hee hee.

nearlybionic

Ok but it`ll have to be a slow stampede!!

noeltone

Hi oneday it sounds like the A team with blacked out windows what about taking the camels along to stampede out with us with the sticks i like it when a plan comes together hee hee.

Wonkylegs

count me in wth the slow stanpede!!

Littlelegs says she'll come and do her best impression of my avatar :shock: (instead of the sweet little thing that she really is ) if you bring along a doggy bribe or three! (she's not choosey about what she eats - sadly! :roll: )