im preg!!!???? on meds!

c4thyg

Hi Kezzo,

I'm adding my vote to the pile and again saying that it is your choice and I will certainly understand your decision which ever way you go. I grew up with a severely autistic brother and know first hand how hard it can be. I would never tell anyone what to do in these situations because what is right for one person isn't for another.

What I would advise though is not to rush into anything until you are sure. As it's early you have time on your side and a week or two to fully discuss things with your partner and Dr so that you know that you have made the right decision for you. And please don't do this alone. Make sure you and your partner have support through this. We are always here as well. I'm thinking of you.

Cathy

kezzo1

well doc gave no advice just to wait for proper test result and he send me to hosp for termination, no one has tried to say why i should keep it very angrey at this! even though we know which way were heading u think nhs preofession would handle situ better!
and consultant hasnt even got back to me and ra nurse said decision has to be ours which i know but no help as in is there any poss baby could be healthy or not??


help help help grrrr xxxxx

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Hi Kezzo
maybe as someone said before there isnt enough research for them to tell you one way or the other, they cant say for sure what will happen as any pregnacy but cos of the drugs your more at risk.
i guess you have to decide weather to take that risk.
but you should get some help in doing that, talking about it with a nurse or someone.
when do you get test results back? what are they testing for, if you dont mind me asking?
best wishes
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c4thyg

Kezzo,

Have you tried phoning the helpline number in the top right hand corner? They might be able to help you find some support near where you live or suggest who you might be able to talk to.

I wish I could be more help to you.

dutchess

Just felt I had to reply and offer my sympathy and support. Its such an awful and painful situation that you've found yourself in. Being on methotrexate there really is no choice, its been taken away from you and I think thats why those in the medical profession have been the way they have with you. I remember when I first went on methotrexate the nurse practitioner at the hospital gave me a big lecture on not getting pregnant and when I asked why the reason she gave was that methotrexate effects cell development therefore a fetus wouldn't be viable if I was to fall pregnant and also mentioned all the defects for example with the heart it causes. I'm also aware that methotrexate is used to induce an abortion. There is no need for anyone on this forum to bring in a debate about the choice to terminate a pregnancy when the health of a the unborn baby is not known as and ethics surrounding this blah de blah. What you need right now is the support of everyone around you. I must admit when I read your message I hoped for a positive outcome, I'm on methotrexate. I did come off it for three months to try to start a family but my disease flared so much I couldn't cope. Big hugs!
Take care
Luv Kelly

kezzo1

i just want to say thank u everyone and thank u dutchess ur post is heart warming, i feel sick to the stomch today thurs is my hops app pre assessment thing counselling and scan and if i decide to terminate or not, cant believe im even talking about getting rid but whats a girl to do im 27 alreeady have a 2 year old, scared of defects i know i couldnt cope emotionally or physically with disabled child and my ra could get bad and im just at a good point with my ra after 2 years of rough. feel like crying every day! hormones dont bleeding help!! my clothes are getting tight, my tits kill, feel like my body is not mine just hope they sort it out soon b4 sickness kicks in couldnt bare that!
well thanks again for ur support :P ill let u know the outcome of app thurs! xxxxxx

lindalegs

Good luck for Thursday Kezza,

The counselling will hopefully help with the emotional side.

Thinking of you.

Luv Legs XX

kezzo1

i have just emailed nras too for any advice they might have xx

debbierose

love, thoughts and understanding of your decision Hun,
you do what ever feels right for you.
Can't be easy. I'll be thinking of you on Thursday
lol
Debbie.

kezzo1

thanks debbie just hope the day comes quick even if my app in at 5pm!!!! :roll:
its been 2 weeks now since did preg test thats a hell of a time to wait and the longer the more agonising.
hope ur ok hows ur ra doing? xx

kezzo1

that nras site was very helpful they emailed me and found out there is a 10/40 chance of defects that are mainly to do with limbs and that but what i dont know is this high or not to me it seems it??

scorpiojackie

kezzo1 wrote:

that nras site was very helpful they emailed me and found out there is a 10/40 chance of defects that are mainly to do with limbs and that but what i dont know is this high or not to me it seems it??

Hello,

Yes, they are very high. I am so sorry that you are in this position kezzo. You appear to be 'searching' for those answers you want to hear but I think whatever you read will be the same.
As others have already mentioned, only you can decide this. What we can do is support you in your decision.

Jackie

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HI Kezzo
i hope tomorrow goes and good as these things can go.
am thinking of you
take care of yourself
page x

debbierose

hi Kezzo
dont think I'll be able to access the internet tomorrow but want you to know I am thinking of you and hope it all goes well.
chin up Hun.
lots of love
Debbie and Dexter Doodle.

Wonkylegs

HI kezzo
hopeyou get to read this before the site is down. thinking of you and wishing you the strength to make your choice, whatever that is.

skezier

Hi Kezzo,

I am thinking of you both as well. Take care Cris x

vonski

Hi Kezzo

I'm so sorry you have this decision to make but you have to do what is right for you and your hubby. Thinking of you both, look after each other.

Love
Vonski xx

elnafinn

Dear Kezzo

You are both in my thoughts on this fragile day.

I am sending you love and strength,
Elna x

dutchess

Hi Kezzo
Just to let you know I'm thinking of you.
Take care
Luv Kelly

kezzo1

hi, well all went as would expect at app, im 6 weeks preg and im booked in for a suction termination on sat 7th ill be knocked out so wont feel as though ive gone through it as such best way other way was tablets but then u miss carry with first stage labour pains i couldnt go though that be horriffic. im 80% sure im doing right thing what with the high risk in defects but nervous to say the least. the thing only takes 10 mins and its done then just bleeding for 3 weeks after cant believe im doing this but???.

atleast when we do try again and plan prop for our baby no 2 ill be off mtx completley and will be in a better situation of having a healthy baby hopefully xx

wallysatt

Hi,

I don't write on here very often but I thought I should reply to your post. I'm also 27 and can't imagine what you must be going through. I have often thought what I might do if it happened to me and have spoken to my boyfriend about it, he completely knows the score.

I'm on rituximab, leflunamide, etodolac, paracetamol, tramadol and diazepam and cannot do without any of them. So for me I think there are many reasons why I wouldn’t be able to go through with a pregnancy, not only the effect of the medication on the foetus but the effect it may have on me NOT being able to take the medication and then actually carrying a baby and giving birth.

As someone has already said no one can judge you on a decision like this when the health of an unborn baby is in question and there are lots of ethical questions surrounding this sort of thing. Only you can know what it right for you, your partner and your 2 year old.

I’ll be thinking of you.

Sally.

jenzie06

Just wanted to send you my best wishes. It must be an incredibly difficult decision for both of you. I'm 27 in January and I'm 15weeks pregnant at the moment.
I'll be thinking of you both on the 7th.

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Hi Kezzo
it must be a very difficult time for you and husband
i too will be thinking of you on the 7.
best wishes
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Wonkylegs

HI Kezzo,

I'll be thinking of you on Saturday ..... so sorry that you have had to make such a difficult decision.

If it helps to know, I had the op you describe when I had my miscarriage, and whilst it was not particularly pleasant, the physical pain was fairly soon a distant memory.

Just be kind to yourself and do allow yourself to grieve properly.
If they are like the hospital here, they will offer you help and someone to talk to (if they haven't already?). I would strongly advise you to take them up on the offer - I didn't and it made things harder for me to cope with.

sending hugs your way ((((((((((())))))))))))))))

suzster

hi kezzo,
i to have been through this but was not offered any support, so i would say for sure that any support they offer you will really help, i still wish i'd been offered some.
take care and try to rest.
you know we are all here for you if you need us.
sue