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  • bertyboy
    bertyboy Member Posts: 1,860
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    HELP :lol: howdo i find my self :?
    I know i am a lady ,all life is a journey xx MAY xx
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Last week I was very upset by some posters totally ignorng me.It really hurt like I didnt matter.I told Steph about it.....I do hope she is okay as she was very kind to me....

    Hey Steph hope this doesnt put you off...

    Elizabeth xx
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Sorry to see that Elizabeth.

    It does get so busy on some threads, that I guess people can feel left out, but I am sure it's not intentional. When people cross post it can look like you have been ignored but I do hope it doesn't happen too often.
    Steph is ok I think it was just a misunderstanding and all cleared up now if you read this one back.
    take care
    Chris
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    I appreciate that Chris and sometimes it is difficult to keep up to date with some threads. I think I will pm Steph though to check she is okay

    E x
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • trisher
    trisher Member Posts: 9,263
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    moonseed wrote:
    Do you mean to tell me that everything we write is being watched by a moderator!!!!
    Talk about Big Brother.
    It all sounds rather creepy to me and honestly don't think I will continue to take part if that is the case.

    What are they hoping to gain from it anyway?
    Or is it just a case of a smacked wrist if you use upper case. I am 66 years old and left school a long time ago.
    Being treated like this, (if it is so), I find rather insulting.
    Steph

    Hi Steph

    A while ago some peeps were posting nasty things on here. The Mod's saw it and took the Thread off.

    Before that, late one night there was other trouble where someone was going to harm themselve. Some of us tried to keep the person talking on here.

    The Mod's stepped in and helped the person.

    That is why the Mod's are there for. To stop bullying, peeps saying things that are not true about someone.

    I dont find them like Big Brother, they are basically people, who have Arthur. At Christmas we had a nice Christmas Eve with them, they even joined in with us and we all had a nice time..

    Trish xx
  • naseebapnaapna
    naseebapnaapna Member Posts: 201
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    hi al,

    i know i'm new to the forum, adn most forums, as i only started using them start of last september, but i think these boards should be moderated, as explained by jean123.

    it iis easy to misunderstand someone when you are talking ot them face to face, so how easy is it to misunderstand soemting in writing, especially wiht people like me, who make typing errors, on top of spelling errors, on top of forgetfulness...........

    moderators are there as a safety net to all.

    thanks

    sangita
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    I have seen some dreadful comments on some places.The ones my kids play on they are always complaining about the f word being used all the time.I had to report someone for abusive language on their behalf but it was press this button and no feedback.You dont really know if anything is being done.
    Actually some of the gymnastic videos I watch the comments below are extremely aggressive with people calling each other dreadful,insulting names because they disagree about something.

    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,546
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Thanks Jean for that :)

    Elizabeth
    No-one should have ignored you.

    I like you :D

    Love

    Toni xx
  • jean123
    jean123 Member Posts: 642
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Me again,

    It is very easy to think that a post is being ignored, and it looks like it happens a lot, but I haven't seen it done on purpose. When people are holding a "conversation" it is easy to miss a post in between...goodness, I have even seen instances of rehab being ignored on here!!! He simply repeated his post a bit further on, and of course got immediate replies.

    From what I can see, most people on here are able to say, diplomatically, that they have been annoyed, so any posts unreplied to are likely to simply have been missed. If you do feel you are being repeatedly ignored, please let myself or the mods know about it.

    Jean123
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Thanks Jean,
    Somebody posted hello to everyone but not me.The problem was I expected them to ignore me and they did so it was more noticeable to me.Anyway I dont want to cause any hassle as most of us are ill and vacant at times from meds etc so maybe it was that.There are lots of really nice peeps on here and I am a sensitive soul.
    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Would you now? Like a little baby seal.
    No I was upset.3 peeps gave me advice so thanks to them.

    E x
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • page35
    page35 Member Posts: 1,081
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Hi Elizabeth
    i hope it wasnt me, dont think so but i am vacant (thats without the meds :lol: ) so i might not know i done it.

    Hi Jean, i think you mods are all great, thanks for looking after us.

    Better say hi to rehab :lol: or get round his house with a club
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,546
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Yep Jean's right - I think I have missed out people in the cafe when the page has turned and you havent got time to go all the way back through.

    If it happens - to me (which it does) I say HELLO :D Like Rehab I wont be ignored :wink:
    Love
    Toni x
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    Oh Elizabeth I hope it wasn't me.... half the time I don't have enough usable eye site in me to read all the previous posts and cus 90% of the time the spell check doesn't load I take ages to post and well if it was it wouldn't have been meant, ever, at all, never.

    I know I don't see everyone, I know I can't keep up and well I also been overlooked, in fact I often don't get a hi but no-one means it, well I hope they don't anyway :lol::lol::lol:

    When I first joined I got 'overlooked' a lot so I kinda know what made you feel upset but I don't think anyone ever means to...... I know I don't and well just jump up and down and yell at us if we do it to you. ((( ))) Cris x
  • angel1
    angel1 Bots Posts: 1,464
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    jean123 wrote:
    Hi all,

    Thought it might be a good time to come out of the shadows. I think that you can see me when I am on, though you might not be able to see the mods.

    The site is moderated only so that everyone is safe. We check to make sure that you are not being sold expensive but useless arthritis cures..and sellers do try their luck at posting ads, we check to make sure that no one posts those horrible links that turn out to be the "in" for viruses or spam, and we check to make sure that there is no hardcore swearing. Most importantly we check to make sure that no one is getting bullied (which has happened on here some time ago, but the person responsible is now barred from the forums).

    Most importantly, if anyone is in crisis, we make sure that they are pm'd and signposted towards help, to let them know that we do care, and they are not alone. We are so proud of the support that our members give so freely to anyone who is in trouble, 'cos you are the ones who make a real difference.

    We care about all our members, and feel that we get to know the regular posters and, well, we love them all - even the naughtier ones!!lol We are all volunteers living with arthritis, and we do this because we believe the forum is a really good thing.

    I am typing this in my nightie and a comfie cardi as I am a bit sore today, and I hope this has helped to dispel the notion that we are some kind of eavesddroppers (or whatever the spelling is). I know we don't post often, but it is your forum, and we don't want to interfere.

    All the best,

    Jean123 (Forum Supervisor)


    I pretty much knew all of the above Jean - well, not about you being in your nightie! - but wanted to thank you anyway, for both the comprehensive explanation, and for all your hard work. Especially, given your own health issues.

    Because of my own job, I am phobic about a safe environment for vulnerable people, and this forum provides exactly that. Also, as much or as little confidentiality as each member is comfortable with. Thank you so much..... Now go and put the cat out, and go to bed!.........Ange.
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    jean 123 hope your aches a bit better .do not mind people hiding we each r different .but do like to know who out there watching when here on my own bit like being stalked alone at night with people hiding most of the time they post and then you know who they r so then feel much happier . if come on post and not had time to read it all or so many people to remember just say hi to all lol
    val
  • trisher
    trisher Member Posts: 9,263
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    tkachev wrote:
    Thanks Jean,
    Somebody posted hello to everyone but not me.The problem was I expected them to ignore me and they did so it was more noticeable to me.Anyway I dont want to cause any hassle as most of us are ill and vacant at times from meds etc so maybe it was that.There are lots of really nice peeps on here and I am a sensitive soul.
    Elizabeth

    Elizabeth

    I do try and say hello to everyone, sometimes there are many peeps on here and it does get busy that you cannot keep up with it all.

    I do hope it was not me, though if I did, I'm sorry, it was not meant

    Trish x
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    trisher wrote:
    tkachev wrote:
    Thanks Jean,
    Somebody posted hello to everyone but not me.The problem was I expected them to ignore me and they did so it was more noticeable to me.Anyway I dont want to cause any hassle as most of us are ill and vacant at times from meds etc so maybe it was that.There are lots of really nice peeps on here and I am a sensitive soul.
    Elizabeth

    Elizabeth

    I do try and say hello to everyone, sometimes there are many peeps on here and it does get busy that you cannot keep up with it all.

    I do hope it was not me, though if I did, I'm sorry, it was not meant

    Trish x

    it would never be you my friend know how hard you try to make us all feel part of this place. sometimes things get missed if more than one person posts at same time it just one of those things
    val
  • mellman01
    mellman01 Member Posts: 5,306
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    moonseed
    Post subject: Posted: 19 Feb 2010 15:08

    Do you mean to tell me that everything we write is being watched by a moderator!!!!
    Talk about Big Brother.
    It all sounds rather creepy to me and honestly don't think I will continue to take part if that is the case.

    What are they hoping to gain from it anyway?
    Or is it just a case of a smacked wrist if you use upper case. I am 66 years old and left school a long time ago.
    Being treated like this, (if it is so), I find rather insulting.
    Steph

    Argh well Steph it's all done in the interest of health and safety, I mean what is there to stop us forming up an arthritic Islamic Jihadists terrorist cell, without controls on us lot the next thing you know rehab could well be powdering down his pain meds to make some type of fiendishly powerful air breathed super laxative and has brain washed me(not hard I know) to be the mule sent to distribute it on the London transport system.
    Oh yes moderators are the sentinels of democracy and free world values!. Can you stop poking me with that cattle prod, I've done what you told me to do Mr Moderator sir!, OH NO!!!, not my fingers!!!!.
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
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    :lol: behave Mell! or i will prod you !! :wink::lol::lol: ..bet ya still hideing!!! :lol:
    think she needs naughty step if no one on it was rehab there earlyer?????????????????
    val
  • joyful164
    joyful164 Member Posts: 2,401
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
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    I'm afraid I must own up to the fact that I have a very poor memory sometimes. I try to remember who has just posted, say in the cafe, but if I miss anyone, I'm sorry. It's not always easy keeping up with threads and, if you are feeling tired and achy like me at moment. Wrists and hands hurt by the time you have finished, it's hard to concentrate. So please accept an apology in case it was me.

    There are many times when I feel that I have been ignored, but that is because I woffle on too long. Perhaps I bore peeps. So there you go.
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
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    joyful164 wrote:
    I'm afraid I must own up to the fact that I have a very poor memory sometimes. I try to remember who has just posted, say in the cafe, but if I miss anyone, I'm sorry. It's not always easy keeping up with threads and, if you are feeling tired and achy like me at moment. Wrists and hands hurt by the time you have finished, it's hard to concentrate. So please accept an apology in case it was me.

    There are many times when I feel that I have been ignored, but that is because I woffle on too long. Perhaps I bore peeps. So there you go.

    you r not boaring i also can never remember all who have been on but would never miss anyone on purpouse (wish could spell)
    val
  • joyful164
    joyful164 Member Posts: 2,401
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    Thanks Lynn, thanks val
    Val I love your spelling it's interesting.
    I have my moments.
    Goodnight all you secret viewers. Hope you find it interesting enough to join us. We're a great big friendly club.

    Joy
  • mellman01
    mellman01 Member Posts: 5,306
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    :lol: behave Mell! or i will prod you !! :wink::lol::lol: ..bet ya still hideing!!! :lol:


    Sorry to many blue smarties I fink!?.
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
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    joyful164 wrote:
    Thanks Lynn, thanks val
    Val I love your spelling it's interesting.
    I have my moments.
    Goodnight all you secret viewers. Hope you find it interesting enough to join us. We're a great big friendly club.

    Joy

    that a nice way to discribe it never can make sence of the way we spell even when i get it right it looks wrong. lol even get numbers back to front makes life interesting not
    val