Poppyg1rl could use a few positive thoughts please

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  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Good luck with the op Poppygirl. Lets hope that it sorts out the problem.

    Rest up and try to get some much needed sleep,
    Elizabeth x
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It's in the diary, and when you wake up I will be sitting on the end of your bed fiddling with stuff I shouldn't be touching (I get easily bored). I think the general rule around here is a week off the immuno-suppressants, sometimes they say two, but yes, you need to know and I hope they get back to you soon with an answer. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • roses1
    roses1 Member Posts: 1,850
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Good luck from me too!
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Poppy,

    I am all behind here but am glad you got your date through. Its not too long to the 19th. Will be with you flower and lurk in the shadow.

    As sticky said you are t alone, you have all this lot and leaving you a ((((( ))))) and a hope with love and a bucket of light. Cris xxx
  • tillytop
    tillytop Member Posts: 3,460
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thinking of you Poppy and really hoping that the shoulder op does the trick.

    Love and ((()))s

    Tillyxxx
  • Poppyg1rl
    Poppyg1rl Member Posts: 1,245
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all,
    I'm all over the place with my sleep patterns being so topsey turvey :sad: yesterday was bad, I managed to go with hubby to look at getting a new car as our is 8 yrs old and wouldn't fit a wheelchair or mobility scooter in it, we were only out 2 hours, but I swear it was the longest 2 hours of my life :roll: I came home and went straight to bed and slept solidly through till midday today :eek: I didn't feel any better for it though...so frustrating, I've a million and one things to be done, my poor lads aren't seeing much of me and when I am up I'm in so much discomfort they tell me to go back to bed :!: I'm so sorry, I'm being weak and whingeing :| tomorrow will be a better day...I tell myself that in the hope that it will be :grin: love to all. Xxx
    'grá agus solas'
    'Love and Light' translated from Irish. X
  • julie47
    julie47 Member Posts: 6,041
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    aw poppy you are not weak or whinging just in lots of pain and it hurts.

    sorry I haven't popped in your thread for a few days :oops: It is goodd news that you now have a date for your opp. I hope it makes a massive difference to you and that you have a speedy recovery.

    Take care and rest if you need to.
    Thinking of you
    Juliepf x
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Poppy, as Julie says, you are NOT being 'weak and whinging'. You are being ILL.

    If you really must be Superwoman, could you just postpone it for a few weeks or even months until you're back on an even keel?

    Things will get done - or not get done - without you. It's a sad fact of life that none of us are indispensible. I discovered that the hard way after my first long hospital stay when I came home to find my 3 fellows (Aged 9, 12 & 40 approx) had a brilliant rota system of jobs pinned up on the wall. (They soon took it down again.) Most things, in the long run, can be avoided, postponed or delegated. The only irreplaceable is you. Look after you. The other stuff can wait.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Poppy,
    I am sorry that you are struggling so much, it is so frustrating for you.
    Fingers crossed that you will turn a corner soon. As others have said just concentrate on yourself at the moment.

    Will be there on the 19th and in the mean time sending some positive vibes your way,
    Lv, I x
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Poppy,

    Your not, as the other say, being weak and whinging!

    I am sorry its all so difficult just now and the pain is so bad. Leaving love, light and hope as well as a ton of get better vibes. Cris xx
  • suzygirl
    suzygirl Member Posts: 2,005
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Poppygirl, I am thinking of you. Your body must have needed that sleep for you to zonk out like that. It is going to take some time for you to feel better and get back into the day to day grind.

    Maybe you could schedule 15 mins to chat to each child per day? Or read with them, play a bord game or just watch tv together. I know how hard it is being ill with children. As the others have said they do adapt, and it doesn't hurt them to do a little more for a while. Just spend a short time each day touching base with them, and you and they will feel better for it.

    You have to concentrate on getting yourself fit for now, everything else has to slide. Try not to worry too much, just focus on the important stuff.

    Hope my ramblings make sense, but I have been where you are now, and know how torn you are as a mom. Honestly it gets better, and children love their moms.

    (((hugs)))
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Still thinking of you, Poppy. It can't be easy but I know you will cope. Every day is one day nearer to the op &, hopefully, some relief for your poor shoulder then back to the meds which will hopefully work better. Take it easy. You could never be a whinging wimp.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,026
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh my dear dear Poppy l can see those lads know you feel rough and they have been brought up well and are more bothered about you than themselves.

    Maybe you can treat them to a takeaway or something as a treat?

    and reassure them you are ok and that the opp will help.

    Love and ((((())))) Toni xxx
  • roses1
    roses1 Member Posts: 1,850
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Poppy ,

    I agree with Toni !

    (((( hugs )))))

    Rose x
  • Poppyg1rl
    Poppyg1rl Member Posts: 1,245
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all,
    Ive just spent the afternoon/early evening watching my eldest son playing rugby for his school.
    I know it doesn't sound like much but, it's the first time I've been out of the house in well over a week and the first time I've used my wheelchair in public.
    I was determined to ignore the pain (shoulder still) and do this for my son, and I'm so glad I did. I was dreading anyone seeing me and getting asked the inevitable questions but, hubby fielded most of them and I was even asked by Jack's teacher if we'd like to pop in for a cuppa after the match, we did and it was lovely.
    I know compared to most of the courageous lovely people on this forum this wasn't much of an ordeal, but I can't tell you how much my stomach was in knots being wheeled into the grounds for the first time today, I almost turned back, it will get easier and it wasn't so bad.
    Love and hugs to all X
    'grá agus solas'
    'Love and Light' translated from Irish. X
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Poppy, I know exactly how you felt. It's a really, really difficult thing to do, taking to a wheelchair for the first time. I really adnire you for having the guts to go to your son's rugby match where you would be known. I made my first ever wheelchair trip in a strange town where I wouldn't see anyone who knew me. It shouldn't matter but it does. Your son is a lucky lad. I hope they won.

    It will get easier, especially as you find the wheelchair opening up all sorts of possibilities that...well....haven't been possible for some time. Enjoyment without a huge amount of pain is a big incentive.

    Well done you! I'm proud of you.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • roses1
    roses1 Member Posts: 1,850
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Well Done!!!! You have done a brave thing ! I know how you felt too, was the same being out on crutches, in a wheelchair, supermarket scooter,So good on ya! You get out and about and enjoy it , I bet your son was pleased to have his mom there !

    Rose x
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    bless ya popster. And well done.. I know that can't have been easy for you. I took many a stubborn yr just to give in to using a stick, probably did more harm than good.. We can be too proud for our own good sometimes....

    I'll be reporting for pocket duties for the upcoming op mi dear. I'm hoping my dear friend DD will give me a nudge nearer the time as I'm useless, lol...

    Take care.. :grin:
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  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello. Firstly, apologies for my silence, I am battling a bout of pharynigits and haven't been tip-top. Secondly, compared to what you have been facing that is appallingly remiss of me and I am deeply ashamed. :oops: Thirdly, I am hugely proud of you. How brave to do your first chariot appearance in such a public way, it cannot have been easy but I am sure you handled it with dignity and style. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • Starburst
    Starburst Member Posts: 2,546
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Good afternoon lovely Poppy,

    I'm sorry I haven't got around to posting in here earlier but my thoughts have been with you.

    I'm very glad you managed to get out. Contrary to what you said, it does sound like a lot. It was a huge achievement. Hope you are able to give yourself a pat on the back for that. I certainly am very proud on your behalf. It was a very big ordeal for you and I think we can all appreciate it was a challenge for you. You did it though! Well done for that.

    I'm sorry things have been far from easy but you are a strong, courageous woman and we all are here for you. We believe in you.

    ((((((Poppy))))))
    Please be kind to yourself, you deserve it!

    love Sophie xx

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