Another death in the family

stickywicket · 18. Jul 2013, 18:23

Dreamdaisy has asked me to let you all know that she will be unable to be on the forum as much as usual. She heard this evening that her cousin had died suddenly and unexpectedly. He had played the organ for her mother's recent funeral and had seemed in good health so this will be another tough blow for all the family.

LignumVitae · 18. Jul 2013, 19:02

Thank you for letting us know SW.

Oh DD I am so so sorry to hear this news. You have had to deal with far too many tribulations of late. I send you my deepest sympathies and much love.
(((((((()))))))) LV xx

lily · 18. Jul 2013, 21:05

DD

Thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time

Lily x

Susiesoo · 19. Jul 2013, 02:49

Thank you, Stickywicket.

Dreamdaisy, I am so terribly sorry to hear this sad news. I send deepest condolences to you and your family. I know you will find the strength to deal with this, hard though it will be. I will be thinking of you.

Susie

mig · 19. Jul 2013, 03:08

Thanks for letting us know Sticky,this is going to be a major set back and blow for DD.
DD our thoughts are with you .(((())))

Megrose489 · 19. Jul 2013, 03:27

So sorry to hear your sad news, DD.

Thinking about you.

Meg

salamander · 19. Jul 2013, 03:49

Sorry to hear your sad news DD.
xx

kentishlady · 19. Jul 2013, 04:18

Am so very sorry to hear your sad news DD. My thoughts are with you. Beryl

ouchpotato · 19. Jul 2013, 05:01

DD, I am so sorry to hear that. No words to say but my thoughts are with you

x

villier · 19. Jul 2013, 05:02

Thanks Sticky

DD I am so sorry to hear this sad news, you haven't had it very easy this last year. I am so glad that you have a lovely OH to help you get through and you have all of us here as well, my condolences to you and your family ((((())))) and lots of love.......................Marie xx

jillyb1 · 19. Jul 2013, 05:23

So sad to hear this , DD , wish I could support you through it .
Jillyb

dachshund · 19. Jul 2013, 06:38

Thank you Sticky
hello DD i'm so sorry about your sad news. take care
((((((((DD))))))))
joan xx

maria09 · 19. Jul 2013, 06:45

Thank you SW
Oh DD I'm so sorry to hear your sad news
Will be thinking of you
(((( ))))
Maria

dreamdaisy · 19. Jul 2013, 07:17

Thank you everyone, and thank you Sticky for posting on my behalf.. The entire family is in utter shock. His body is with the Coroner, the PM will be done next Monday or Tuesday. His son, who is in his mid-thirties, has disappeared - he hasn't contacted anyone but did post a message on FB asking for help (this was how the family found out that his father had died). My cousin had Aspergers and his son has some similarities to his late father - we are worried about him.

I'm back doing that whole floating round the house thing, stopping and staring at nothing in particular. I keep crying. DD

mig · 19. Jul 2013, 07:20

(((((()))))) Mig

villier · 19. Jul 2013, 07:27

Me too ((((()))))xx

Megrose489 · 19. Jul 2013, 08:33

Oh DD. And from me ((((()))))

Meg

tkachev · 19. Jul 2013, 09:16

Sorry to hear you have lost your Cousin so soon after losing your Dear Mum. I do hope his Son has someone to help him through this too poor lad,

Elizabeth

fowls48 · 19. Jul 2013, 09:45

DD Sorry For your loss .

Will be thinking of you .

xxxx((()))) Fowls

DebbieT · 19. Jul 2013, 10:01

My deepest sympathies DD. I hope you'll be ok. I think that floaty thing is a defence mechanism that occurs wen we're in shock!! You can talk or rant about the injustice of life & loss to us at anytime if it will help in any way.
I hope your 2nd cousin is located safe & well. It's all such a worry. I'm so sorry.
((((DD)))) xxx

kentishlady · 19. Jul 2013, 12:00

Am thinking of you DD. Do hope you have news of your second cousin soon. Life does get rather hard at times, doesn't it. Take care of yourself. Beryl. (((())))

phoenixoxo · 19. Jul 2013, 13:39

I'm so sorry, (((DD)))

Best wishes,
Phee

constable · 19. Jul 2013, 14:31

Thanks for letting us know Stickey. And oh dear DD. I am so sorry. You are having it really tough over the last so many months. My heart goes out to you and your family. Sending some big hugs. (((())))

suzygirl · 19. Jul 2013, 17:13

DD, I am so very sorry. You and your family have been through so much lately. I really hope that your cousins son is ok.

Take care and (((hugs)))

applerose · 19. Jul 2013, 17:35

Oh DD, I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin. What a shock. I'm not surprised you feel as you do. I really do hope someone finds your cousin's son and he can be helped through this. Love to you and your family. (((hugs)))

dreamdaisy · 20. Jul 2013, 03:43

Once again, my thanks to you all for your kind messages of support, they are deeeply appreciated.

His son got in touch late yesterday with someone in the family but that is all I know. I rang my cousin's friend Wendy (the person who found him) and she was relieved to hear from someone; my cousin compartmentalised his life to a ferocious degree, maybe a coping mechanism? He had a brain the size of a planet but could not deal easily with the mundane practicalities of life. Wendy, his friend, was a wonderful support to him (and he to her) but she was never introduced to other family members, apart from one, my mum. I met her once when he brought her over (at her insistence) to see Mum after her big fall last year, he didn't know I was there and couldn't bundle Wendy fast enough out of the door. She dealt with him beautifully - he went and sat in his car whilst she talked to me and Ma. As I said, he was an odd old stick but but he was OUR odd old stick. She and I have swapped numbers and she has said she will ring if she needs and I will keep her up-to-date with developments as I get them.

The shock has subsided but the sheer disbelief is still there, as is the drifting and staring. I will be going to the Plump Feline later, with 'im doors, for a reflective pint. Chris loved his beer, He would sup one pint most evenings at his local across the road from his flat. Cheers, coz. DD

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