More trauma to deal with and in so much pain

Boomer13

Hi ouchpotato;

Just wanted to send you my well-wishes too. I don't have any words of wisdom; I'm an ostrich with head-in-sand when it comes to conflict with family. Always difficult and heart-wrenching, as you are aware.

Many hugs, and hoping you get to have some time for yourself soon.

xxanna

ouchpotato

Anna, I was up until very recently, suffering from ostrich syndrome too! But I very slowly realised the impact it was having on my health and well being. I nursed my mum through her recent bout of ill health; whilst being ill myself and whilst dealing with the ex...it had an impact on my own health for sure. BUT now that she is well, if she asks how I am and I tell her (always via text) she doesn't reply, there is no concern. It's like she has to pay lip service to my health but doesn't *actually* want to know how I am. So now I don't tell her, that way I don't feel rejected. I have the people who truly care here with me...my 3 children; they know how bad or how good I feel on any given day and they care...that's enough for me!

Thistle, I will indulge myself in bubble baths as prescribed by you

I'm off to the library now to immerse myself in all things writing.

Take care all

maria09

Hi Ouch
I'm just catching up on posts been too bogged down with my Atos tribunal cr*p
You mum just seems a very very selfish woman how does not care about you, your sister or your children
I think its time to take care of you and both you and your sister need some quality time together without your mum and without feeling any guilt
It's your mum that should feel guilty
You have gone through so much its time to be kind to yourself and do what you want to do and not worry if your mum approves or not! You have great kids and remember that's your doing and no matter what choices have been made in the past you must be proud of yourself how well your children have turned out
Right I'm stoping now as getting emotional here
Take good care of yourself
Maria

applerose

Glad to see you are feeling more positive. As the others have said, time to take care of yourself and your children and enjoy being together and cut out, or at least ignore, the negative influences in your life.