PLEASE CAN YOU ALL COME WITH ME TOMORROW

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  • lindalegs
    lindalegs Member Posts: 5,399
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Good luck tomorrow Barbara and well done for coming to that decision ......just imagine you're telling one of us and the words will fly out your mouth.

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    'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Dear Barbara

    I will be thinking of you tomorrow. I shall be waiting for a train at 1.30 pm. Just keep saying THR to yourself. As Toni suggests you could have the injections to ease it now if there is quite a wait for the operation. You have been undecided for a long time and now you know what you must do. I have always said that you will know when the time is right for you. :smile:

    Hugs
    Elna x
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  • Wonkylegs
    Wonkylegs Member Posts: 3,504
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    HI Barbara

    thinking of you and I'll be in your pocket too ...... you know these pocket dwellers aren't half handy at times :wink: I know .... they got me through a few tricky times just lately.

    I'll be looking at the clock and saying THR THR THR THR at the top of my voice at the appointed hour :wink:

    good luck!

    WOnky
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Cor, bloody 'ell Barb, that was one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life ever - and I've had a few, let me tell you (uncomfortable nights that is, not likkle dinkies, well, not yet anyway!)

    I have spent the night in the reception area of your surgeon's suite of rooms, awaiting your arrival, which I guess is scheduled for about 1.15pm. I managed to cobble some sort of bed together using the chairs, and I did meet some interesting people, I have to say. It's amazing how much life goes on in a hospital in the wee small hours. I have been practising what I will say in case you freeze - 'Hello mate, this is my friend Barbara, she's gorgeous and lovely and needs a new hip to make her life better.'

    Oooooh! Someone has switched on the lights! I had better go and make myself look presentable - as if! I am thinking of you, very very much. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    good morning now stand in front of mirror and say i want the operation please put me on the waiting list and keep me in mind incase of cancilation now a little loader that it you are ready girl am ready and waiting good luck. think others are right have injection now so some of the pain will leave you while you wait hugs val
    val
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    My goodness I am truly overwhelmed by your kindness.....please believe me when I say how much you have helped , I have read every post over and over this morning....please forgive me if I miss someone's name...Katie, Ange, Toni, Chris, Coco, Lynn, Cris, Puffin, Lupin, Tony, Poppy, Rose, Legs, Elna, Wonky, DD, Val.
    no I dont have a good memory I right then all down.
    Thank you so much,....Lupin you are not to late my love its today :smile: like some of you say I may just ask think about the injections, but I dont want to aggravate the pain....we will see.
    Val I have been practising :shock: not a pretty site in a morning.. :smile: right I have made room in my pockets...please all shout at once...and I will put it on my forehead with a marker pen....THR
    I cant thank you all enough...I will let you know how its goes...
    Love to you all
    Barbara xxxx
    Love
    Barbara
  • coco67
    coco67 Member Posts: 2,374
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    good luck barbara, i promise to shout loud if needed, you will be fine im sure. coco xxx
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi Barbara,

    Just wishing you good vibes for today.

    I did not want a THR. I was scared. But I knew I had to as the pain was unbearable. Stairs, bed, sleeping, walking and my love life were all so badly effected. I said yes to the op before I knew what it entailed.Then I went on internet to find out the facts. As soon as I came on AC I got good advice so I felt so much happier and in the end it was the best thing I did.

    I think you have reached that point of too much pain. Good luck today.....

    Elizabeth x
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • tillytop
    tillytop Member Posts: 3,460
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Well done Barbara for making such a hard decision and really, really good luck today. I will be thinking of you.

    Love TIlly xxx
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Half an hour or so to go - anyone spotted Barbara yet? DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • julie47
    julie47 Member Posts: 6,041
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Barbara I have only just seen your thread. I wasn't around much yesterday I am sorry.
    Well done you deciding to go for the thr, It is a brave decision. I hope your appointment went well.
    You may well be home now, so, sit down and here a cuppa for you.
    Take care
    juliepf x
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    I hope it all went OK and that you are feeling alright. I am still thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 9,303
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi Barbara.
    you are doing the right thing you dont want more pain
    you've had enough and it could get worse.
    there comes a time and you know when that time is.
    take care you are brave it will be worth it.
    sorry i was late. joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    I think she's having a nice cuppa to steady her nerves.

    Hope it all went okay Barbara.

    E x
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Well Im back....just want to say thankyou to Tilly, Julie ,Joan, and Tinks...who I missed earlyer.
    What a strange appointment, got me nowhere really..... they shouted me, did all the bloods and MRSA test, then she said you rang up to say you wanted to talk about something,I will get sister....so I explained that I really didnt want the injections, not on top of the pain I am in......so she said well what are you doing here :shock: so I explained I wanted to go for the THR, and chat about the injections...so she said you cant go on the list till you have had the them, so I asked how long after the injections will I be able to have my THR....well the list is getting longer and longer...you are probably talking at least 8 months....so I ask can I go on the list now, and not wait for the injections.....you will have to ring appointments and ask for another appointment to see your consultant, :roll:
    So there it is, I didnt sleep last night , all for nothing really, suppose I should have gone on the list earlier...instead of being a wimp :cry: my OH says he thinks the injections are a delaying technique.....
    Sorry If I have confused you all....the upshot is I dont get my THR for a long time which ever route I take.
    Barbara xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hmmmmm, these things don't happen overnight I guess, not any more. As more and more people are affected by this cursed disease, more and more ops are required - tho from the tone of many of the posts on here you get the feeling that not many are being done. Oh heck, barbara12, where are we now then? Back at the beginning? Please try not to lose your resolve, it is the right decision it's just that it will now take longer than we thought. I take it you didn't have the injections either? Pop a few more paindulllers now, and have a rest. Thank you for letting us know, I wish it had a better outcome for you tho. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi DD
    Suppose its my fault for putting off the op, but the pain has changed within weeks, I will just have to wait, I was thinking more 3to4 months.....shows what I know.
    Hopefully he wont take to long to see me, Its a warning to anyone really , get it done while you can.
    Here in the north west, hips and knee ops are being cancelled at some hospitals :shock:
    Sorry if you all had a wasted trip in my pocket
    Love
    Barbara xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • caterina57
    caterina57 Member Posts: 1,424
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Barbara, so sorry it didn't go to plan - but - nothing was wasted, the pockets and the well wishers will just do it all again. Hopefully it wont be long to injections and getting on the waiting list. Time will soon fly by.
    In the mean time you rest up and relax.
    Cath
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Wish it could have gone a bit better for you Barbara... Never mind though hun..
    We will all be there again don't worry..

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  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Don't blame yourself Barbara, I think they were on a mission to be nasty today.When do you see your rheummy team again? I would see them and ask to be put on the list because you are suffering. Or even see your GP and ask to be referred to a surgeon. It doesn't have to take 8 months. Just press the point that your hip had deteriorated rapidly.

    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Barbara

    It was never a wasted trip love, and I am so glad you felt able to ask for support here. You have alot of friends here who will do it all again whenever you need us. I am so so sorry today was *!*!*! ? and can barely speak here, :sad: I have sent you an email for when you next look in but take some time out if you need to.

    love and gentle hugs (((( ))))
    Chris xx
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    sorry you have to wait for them to put you on the list sound like jobs worth but i am sure all will be ok in the end we do not mind coming it makes a change and we all had cake and tea but trisher was wafting that brolly all over the place again val
    val
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Now, you listen to me, young Barbara: no way is any of this your fault. You were not to know that things would worsen so quickly - we are more used to a gradual deterioration, yes? Hindsight is always wonderful stuff and always less than helpful. You made a decision based on what you knew at the time, and at that time that was the right decision for you. Now the world has to catch up with you, and I am sure it will. I hope your surgeon will see you sooner rather than later and you know that we will all be there, cheering you on in between swigging the fizz and eating the strawberries and drinking the tea and moaning about frog's whiffy sandwiches and del's garlic infused soup etc etc etc. I am thinking of you and don't be unkind to yourself, please. You neither need or deserve that. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi Cath, Tony, Elizabeth, and Chris....
    I feel so deflated.....they tell you to wait till the pain is so bad...then when you do have your THR..the results are better...because your pain has diminished
    What they dont say is that the list is getting longer, some hospitals in our are are cancelling hips and knees, so the one I go to are having to take on more....its not there fault but down to the cuts.
    I am ringing them up tomorrow, so I will see what they say....but it is only appointments...so I dont think they will do much.
    I might have confused some of you...I have a degree in that...today was just a pre op for the injections in 3 weeks time.
    I didnt think they did pre ops for that ....but there you go
    Thank you again everyone
    Love
    Barbara xx
    PS thanks Val and DD didnt see you there.
    Love
    Barbara
  • madwestie
    madwestie Member Posts: 383
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Barabara, i am sorry to hear that the appointment didn't go well.
    I agree with DD you made the right decision for you at the time. you could not have known that things would get worse much quicker than expected. try not to be so hard on yourself. I m always ready for pocket duty and it is never a wasted trip we are there to give you support whatever happens.
    Tracey

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