I'm home after having my hip op and i feel yuck

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  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure

    I hope you are feeling ok today. We are all here for you, you know that though, well I hope you do. :) I shall whisper so that DD does not hear but I had a lovely surgeon who kept on telling me what invasive surgery I had just had on my knee, to take it slowly and it would be at least one year before I would be able to forget about it all and he was right, of course. :) Not all medics are the same, without heart or feeling, but I am sorry that you were in so much pain afterwards which must have been unbearable for you. It was bad enough for me, with the morphine and then other stronger meds that you unfortunately are unable to tolerate. Anyway, now think forward, you will be alright and in a week or so, you will look back and see just how much progress you have made.

    Love
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    You didn't whisper quietly enough, my lovely elna! I know that all surgeons are not the same but I didn't have any warnings about the aftermath - and I would cheerfully suggest that not many people do. I genuinely think they do forget sometimes about the human element of it all - to them we are just sets of bones and cartilage and flesh to be fiddled about with and repaired, but we are not human meccano! Surgery wrecked my left knee - it had been left for far too long while orthopaedics and rheumatology argued about whose pigeon I was and the same op had to be repeated 16 months later. Your guy sounds lovely - hang on to him tho I sincerely hope you never have to see him again! DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    dreamdaisy wrote:
    You didn't whisper quietly enough, my lovely elna! I know that all surgeons are not the same but I didn't have any warnings about the aftermath - and I would cheerfully suggest that not many people do. I genuinely think they do forget sometimes about the human element of it all - to them we are just sets of bones and cartilage and flesh to be fiddled about with and repaired, but we are not human meccano! Surgery wrecked my left knee - it had been left for far too long while orthopaedics and rheumatology argued about whose pigeon I was and the same op had to be repeated 16 months later. Your guy sounds lovely - hang on to him tho I sincerely hope you never have to see him again! DD

    Aw, I am sorry about your experiences with your knee, DD. It is luck of the draw on many occasions and on many accounts. I sincerely hope I do not have to see him again even though he was excellent. :)

    My mum did not fare so well with either of her knees replacements. Both pretty horrenduous experiences for her and those close to her. The 2nd knee op, we nearly lost her, a few times. With the first one, the "hospital" managed to break her femur and that knee/leg is now very weak, a few years on.

    We have to keep on keeping on, though, don't we? :)

    Love
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure,

    I do hope your feeling a bit better today and that the pain has eased a bit, it will soon and I still don' know how you have coped with out the morphine or pethidine. I really think you deserve a medal for that one! hell with my back they floated me for 8 days! As it wore off the pain was the worst I have ever experienced so well done you!

    It is invasive! I spent a week in theaters seeing ops and its maga invasive. They don't dwell on it I think as well you need it done and in my case I went down to theaters expecting a simple 2 disc laminectomy, I woke in intensive care having ha a full decompression, I know it needed doing :roll: :lol::lol:

    Its this 'you will be out of bed with in so many days' and it makes you feel you will be up and running... but of course your not. Its going to get better an the pain will ease the longer after the op you get.

    I haven't had my hips done so can't help with the practical side but I do know about the (in my case) frustration side. Leaving you a ((( ))) and a hope for a better day. Cris x
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    How the hell did they do that? Grounds to sue, I would have thought. Despite the fact that some people's bones crumble like chalk they are rather tough things! Your poor mum, what a dreadful thing to happen. Ghastly.

    My bones are beautiful, I have Xrays to prove it. it's the over-production of synovial fluid that did for me. By the time he got around to operating on it the accumulated (and solidified) gunk of nearly five years had distorted my knee to astonishing levels (pictures of my surgery are in medical textbooks - revolting - surgeon ecstatic, weird man) and the damage that caused is the root of my weakness now. The humira has stopped that for the time being but the damage to my knees is done. Hence the crutches, can't walk without them (plus the fact that ankles and toes have now joined the party.) Sorry effleure, I've just realised - we've hijacked your thread! DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure,
    Just calling in to see how you are today, I do hope you manage some rest, and that the pain is under control.
    You take things easy, and give it time.
    Lots of love and gentle hugs ((((((()))))))
    Barbara xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • tillytop
    tillytop Member Posts: 3,460
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure,

    Just to say that I am still thinking of you.

    Love Tilly x
  • kathbee
    kathbee Member Posts: 934
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Me too efleure.

    Hope you are just a tidgy bit better
    or even a lot, now that would be good,
    but try to be patient.

    Love Kath
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, Like everyone else....its early days yet.....my THR was done beginning of Feb and my 2nd one is due in 2 months time...I had a spinal block. Anaemia does make you feel dreadful....I was only in hospital from Fri {day of op} until the Mon but had to have 2 transfusions in that time.....the 6 weeks on you back is dreadful...I know.....even my v shaped pillow didnt work for me but try everything....we're all different. See your GP and talk to him/her and keep on top iof the pain....dont play catch up with it.....thats no good..doesnt work LOL as I found out
    Love
    Hileena
  • marion1952
    marion1952 Member Posts: 963
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure

    One more thing I forgot to mention - the crutches absolutely 'murder' your hands when you do a lot of walking...

    so - send the girls out to b and q to get some grey foam pipe lagging (the larger size). It costs about 62p per strip. Cut a piece of foam roughly the size of the 'hand section' of the crutch. Cut the piece of foam lengthways, to open it out. Wrap the foam round the 'hand section' of the crutch and keep it in place with either a strong elastic band or, better still, one of those thin plastic strips that fasten at the end.

    It really saves your hands a lot of pain and is cheap too!!

    Marion
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello again you lovely lot. Thanks again for the support. Unbelievable how it helps mentally to have your support. Didn't realise how depressed and hopeless this op would make me feel. I know i have circumstances that don't help, but still...DD..I so identify with what you have written. My surgeon is one of the most highly acclaimed in his field, apparently, but god, what a plonker of a human being he is...well to me...he only spoke to me for a minute before the surgery, which despite me trying to say how scared I was, he kept repeating his success rate, and then once after, when i was lying there begging for pain relief, where he said it went well, but that i had bloody hard bones...i hated him. And he definitely gave the impression that i was just a carcass to add to his success( hopefully..) rate. Sorry to hear your experience DD was so traumatic. I think it makes such a difference to our recovery rate , how we are treated when in that vulnerable state. It instills a fear that never leaves you, and it makes you feel pathetic, rather than brave in going ahead with the surgery and trying to get over it. I slept better last night and feel sure it was because of all your replies and support. I'm just trying to accept that i feel horrible and i will for a while. It just helps to know so many of you , for various reasons, have been through this, and worse, and you all say it gets better. I have explained to my younger kids how bad i feel, and they are trying their best to cope, but can't help but feel it must be awful for them..but anyhow, can't do anything about that now...thanks to you all again, and i hope you are all feeling better than me tonight!
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    tillytop wrote:
    Hi Efleure,

    Just to say that I am still thinking of you.

    Love Tilly x




    Aw, thanks Tilly. x
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    skezier wrote:
    Hi Efleure,

    I do hope your feeling a bit better today and that the pain has eased a bit, it will soon and I still don' know how you have coped with out the morphine or pethidine. I really think you deserve a medal for that one! hell with my back they floated me for 8 days! As it wore off the pain was the worst I have ever experienced so well done you!

    It is invasive! I spent a week in theaters seeing ops and its maga invasive. They don't dwell on it I think as well you need it done and in my case I went down to theaters expecting a simple 2 disc laminectomy, I woke in intensive care having ha a full decompression, I know it needed doing :roll: :lol::lol:

    Its this 'you will be out of bed with in so many days' and it makes you feel you will be up and running... but of course your not. Its going to get better an the pain will ease the longer after the op you get.

    I haven't had my hips done so can't help with the practical side but I do know about the (in my case) frustration side. Leaving you a ((( ))) and a hope for a better day. Cris x


    Thanks Cris, and sorry to hear about your dreadful experience.....
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    dreamdaisy wrote:
    How the hell did they do that? Grounds to sue, I would have thought. Despite the fact that some people's bones crumble like chalk they are rather tough things! Your poor mum, what a dreadful thing to happen. Ghastly.

    My bones are beautiful, I have Xrays to prove it. it's the over-production of synovial fluid that did for me. By the time he got around to operating on it the accumulated (and solidified) gunk of nearly five years had distorted my knee to astonishing levels (pictures of my surgery are in medical textbooks - revolting - surgeon ecstatic, weird man) and the damage that caused is the root of my weakness now. The humira has stopped that for the time being but the damage to my knees is done. Hence the crutches, can't walk without them (plus the fact that ankles and toes have now joined the party.) Sorry effleure, I've just realised - we've hijacked your thread! DD

    Ah DD,please feel free...bored with my self anyhow. lol
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    barbara12 wrote:
    Hi Efleure,
    Just calling in to see how you are today, I do hope you manage some rest, and that the pain is under control.
    You take things easy, and give it time.
    Lots of love and gentle hugs ((((((()))))))
    Barbara xx


    Thanks Barbara...much appreciated...x
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    kathbee wrote:
    Me too efleure.

    Hope you are just a tidgy bit better
    or even a lot, now that would be good,
    but try to be patient.

    Love Kath

    I'm trying Kath..honest...thanks x
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hileena111 wrote:
    Hi, Like everyone else....its early days yet.....my THR was done beginning of Feb and my 2nd one is due in 2 months time...I had a spinal block. Anaemia does make you feel dreadful....I was only in hospital from Fri {day of op} until the Mon but had to have 2 transfusions in that time.....the 6 weeks on you back is dreadful...I know.....even my v shaped pillow didnt work for me but try everything....we're all different. See your GP and talk to him/her and keep on top iof the pain....dont play catch up with it.....thats no good..doesnt work LOL as I found out
    Love
    Hileena

    Good advice ...thanks hileena..x
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    marion1952 wrote:
    Hi Efleure

    One more thing I forgot to mention - the crutches absolutely 'murder' your hands when you do a lot of walking...

    so - send the girls out to b and q to get some grey foam pipe lagging (the larger size). It costs about 62p per strip. Cut a piece of foam roughly the size of the 'hand section' of the crutch. Cut the piece of foam lengthways, to open it out. Wrap the foam round the 'hand section' of the crutch and keep it in place with either a strong elastic band or, better still, one of those thin plastic strips that fasten at the end.

    It really saves your hands a lot of pain and is cheap too!!

    Marion


    Thanks Marion....good advice...got blisters already...will sent oldest daughter out tomorrow...thanks..x
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,822
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efflure

    So very pleased to see you sounding a good bit dare I say it 'better' in the sense that you had a better night and you dont feel so alone :)

    Beleive you are not and things will fet better a ,little every day and soon you will look back a week and say - Iwas in AGONY all the time then - NOw it's only some of the time and so on till it does fade to a distant memory.

    Then you will be glad you had it done.

    Sleep well tonight

    Love

    Toni xx
  • cheztish
    cheztish Member Posts: 1
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure. Really hope things are gradually beginning to feel better for you. This is my first ever post on a forum so I hope its useful! My sister had a hip replacement a month ago. She had low blood pressure and anaemia afterwards. And like the other poster, she had transfusions which made her feel a great deal better. I do hope you've got something now which is helping with the pain. when I was with my sister we worked out a schedule for her each day. It was a balance of eating little and often (helps with the meds) drinking plenty of water(helps with everything) changing position regularly (sitting, walking, exercises resting) and then doing enough walking so that you can get back easily to where you started. She also took vitamin c every day just to make sure she didnt get an infection. And now she's doing really great. I do hope it works out for you in time. Maybe your girls could help you keep to your schedule by reminding you things. They're probbly more comfortable with a role. Wow what a long message. Sorry, but good luck!
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    My main complaint after my THR was the amount of people that told be about their friend/sister etc that had a THR and was perfect immediately....anyone else come across that???? Maikes you feel so inadequate {sp??}....No pain...walking perfectly etc etc etc....made me want to scream LOL
    Love
    Hileena
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    frogmorton wrote:
    Hi Efflure

    So very pleased to see you sounding a good bit dare I say it 'better' in the sense that you had a better night and you dont feel so alone :)

    Beleive you are not and things will fet better a ,little every day and soon you will look back a week and say - Iwas in AGONY all the time then - NOw it's only some of the time and so on till it does fade to a distant memory.

    Then you will be glad you had it done.

    Sleep well tonight

    Love

    Toni xx


    Thanks very much Toni....x
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    cheztish wrote:
    Hi Efleure. Really hope things are gradually beginning to feel better for you. This is my first ever post on a forum so I hope its useful! My sister had a hip replacement a month ago. She had low blood pressure and anaemia afterwards. And like the other poster, she had transfusions which made her feel a great deal better. I do hope you've got something now which is helping with the pain. when I was with my sister we worked out a schedule for her each day. It was a balance of eating little and often (helps with the meds) drinking plenty of water(helps with everything) changing position regularly (sitting, walking, exercises resting) and then doing enough walking so that you can get back easily to where you started. She also took vitamin c every day just to make sure she didnt get an infection. And now she's doing really great. I do hope it works out for you in time. Maybe your girls could help you keep to your schedule by reminding you things. They're probbly more comfortable with a role. Wow what a long message. Sorry, but good luck!

    Thanks so much and very honoured to be part of your first post...i think you're right about some sort of schedule...i'm a bit all over the place at the mo with my meds and stuff..keep forgetting what and when, and taking the codeine with the iron tablets is causing havoc with the toilet situation...have just started to try and move about in different ways...have got sciatica and lower back pain so if i sit too long that is horrid so need to be braver about just getting up and flexing a bit. I'm glad to hear your sister is doing so well, and that inspires me...thanks very much for your post.
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hileena111 wrote:
    My main complaint after my THR was the amount of people that told be about their friend/sister etc that had a THR and was perfect immediately....anyone else come across that???? Maikes you feel so inadequate {sp??}....No pain...walking perfectly etc etc etc....made me want to scream LOL
    Love
    Hileena
    YES!!!! Exactly Hileena....everyone I spoke to , apart from on here obviously, said that same thing...that their neighbour/neighbour's friend/cat/neighbour had a thr, and were running about without pain/crutches etc almost immediately..my mum drove me mad as she's neighbours with the secretary of a surgeon in the hospital i went to, and she kept telling my mum that I'd be fine within a few days, and it was very routine, etc so i have had to almost convince my mum that i'm not trying it on, and there's nothing wrong with me, i'm normal in my suffering....everyone's got an opinion third hand...wish they'd shut up unless they've been through it!!!
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Efleure, Glad you are back home but sorry things were so rough for you. I cannot help much as I am RA but I have noticed with even a minor op the anaesthetic can make you feel sick and dizzy for a good week or more.
    So glad you posted.

    I do hope things get better soon for you.

    Lv, Ix