Where to start!!!!!

hileena111

Hi May
Great to hear from you.......I knew John didn't need to read music but it never occurred to me about the pressure...sorry
It is going to be daunting for you because he was your carer...cook bottle washer etc a bit like Peter is for me.
I'm glad you're searching the net for things {you always do } If you can do your shopping online......why not????
Or what about meals being delivered to you that you can microwave.....I know you might not think that's ideal but certainly to get you both over the first hurdle.
A cleaner??? {either one you pay or poss you could get one on benefit ...if you know what I mean}
You have to think of all possible things to make life easy for you both....it would be hard if you were in good health but I think most of us can imagine what it would be like trying to look after someone else.
You take care of yourself.
How's the family by the way?
Love
Hileena

stickywicket

kellerman wrote:

If you see this pathetic woman standing at the side of the motorway on your way to Scotland please at least offer to buy her a coffee...preferably laced with a drop or two of whisky.

No chance, May. We'll bundle you into the car and take you with us. And there's always plenty of whisky where we're going

Seriously, it will be so tough for both of you that I can't think of any suggestions to improve matters so I just send more of these instead. ((((()))))

applerose

Sorry I can't really offer much help as I've never been in this situation but you seem to be working things out wonderfully well. I'll send you some more (((hugs))). We'll all be here for you if you need us.

kellerman

Well ....some ideas to think about there. Not too sure about meals on wheels type of thing.
One hour before I get him so moving anything he can bump into has taken up some of this morning. Then the fun starts.
We don't get any benifits...not sure if we are entitled to any but I'll certainly look into that.
Sister will help with housework. Youngest daughter would have been ideal but she has baby and eldest daughter is going on holiday tomorrow booked before her dad was ill.
I'm really feeling the stress now. I know....stress isn't ideal for me.
I've been looking into getting grocery shopping delivered. Tesco seems ok.
Can't get rid of a permanent headache but again this is probably stress although my neck is cracking a treat.
Right peaceful cuppa and more pain killers with a sandwich
I'll let you know how its going providing I don't throw the computer at him
Many many thanks your thoughts are much appreciated. Love May xx

dreamdaisy

We're with you every step of the way, May. He may get on better than anticipated simply because he will be back at home, there's nothing like your own home when the world is agin one. You are both in my thoughts. DD

hileena111

Hi May
I didn't mean the meals on wheels ...I would hate that as well.....You can get frozen food delivered and you cook it when you feel like it....That was meant just to tide you over. If you can do it online so much the better.
You sound as if you have a lot organised.
Your headache is bound to be stress.
As DD says there is nowhere like home to recover so things might be much better than you imagine.
I know he's bound to be frustrated at limitations placed on him
You take care of your self as well

Love
Hileena

barbara12

May we are so glad to help in out own little way...you now need a social worker to come round and go through everything with you including benefits and any help required sorry if you have already done this...will be here for you...(((((()))))xx

maria09

Hi May
I'm in your pocket with everyone else
I know we are not supposed to advertise but my dad tried Wiltshire farm foods online
Delivered frozen and can either be microwaved or oven cooked he said mum liked them and it gave him a little more time
He doesn't use them often but it does help time wise and if you are suffering with your damn it could save you pain wise
I do know what you will be going through as I've been there with my mum and dad
I know you might have trouble getting on here
Just remember we are all here for you good and bad times
PM me if you like
((((( ))))
Maria

Megrose489

Just to agree with Maria that those meals you can microwave were a godsend to my sister-in-law when her husband was ill. It just meant that there was something less for her to worry about.

Lots of good advice already been given, so I'd just like you to know that I'm thinking about you. Look after yourself.

Meg

hileena111

Thanks Maria
That's what I was try to think about although couldn't remember the name and it came over to May as meals on wheels

Love
Hileena

mig

Hi May,Just sending hugs .(((((())))))Mig

phoenixoxo

Hello again, May,

Hope you're feeling a bit better after your nice cup of tea, sandwiches, medication...

I'm in your pocket too – and like the others, I recommend Wiltshire Farm Foods. I've used them twice following hospital stays, and I've found the food good and the service excellent. (You can place your order by phone or online.)

With online supermarket shopping, it was a bit of a bother finding everything for my first order, but most sites save previous orders, so for the next trips it's a lot quicker. You can make a list too, then select whatever you need each time.

Best wishes,
Phee

Susiesoo

Hello May. I do hope all is going as well as it can. I am thinking of you both.

Susie

applerose

You sound as if you are very well organised May. Just wanted to say I am thinking of you. Don't worry about keeping us up to date as you will probably be quite busy till things settle down a bit.

dreamdaisy

Hello, I hope yesterday went as smoothly as possible, there will be hiccups of course but things will settle, and hopefully John will too now he's in his own surroundings. DD

stickywicket

I'll echo that. I do hope your poor hands are coping with all this, not to mention all the other bits. I'm thinking of you very much.

dachshund

Hello May
I hope everything went well yesterday. try and rest when you can.
take care
joan xx

kellerman

Well I'm ever so slightly going mad. He has had every pair of old glasses out to see if he can see better through them...of course he can't.
He pulled loads of paperwork out which was all neatly put away to look for his bank book which he can't see anyway but it does need to be brought up to date as his private pension goes in there.
Every time I sit down I'm having to follow him about as we have had a few near misses.
I'm getting help with shower on a morning and I have an OT coming out tomorrow to see how we are getting on and to see what other help we may need.
I've had a look at those meals. They all look good enough to eat!!!!!!!
Its definately an idea and I'm seriously considering it. If I put an order in tomorrow I could have a delivery on Monday which is the day they deliver here. John is asleep at the moment so I've got my feet up with a cup of tea.
I have a phone no for a social worker......another person to contact.Not sure about benefits yet. I have spoken to the DWP and they are sending out a claim form for AA. Will need help to fill it in...CAB maybe?
I thank you all for your continued support and hope you are as well as can be. Bless you Mayxx

hileena111

Hi May
It's great to hear from you.
The first few days are bound to be frustrating for both of you.
The CAB will fill in forms for you and possibly the social worker and OT together will come up with some more ideas
Take care pet
Love
Hileena

applerose

Glad you've managed to sit down with a cuppa May. It must be very frustrating for John and he's bound to try anything to be able to see better. I'm sure he'll settle down soon. Glad you are getting some help. You could order the meals for a while then stop them if you feel you can manage the cooking yourself later. Take care.

kentishlady

Hello May. Am glad to hear that you seem to be managing ok, although I am sure it must be very difficult for you both. Think you will need great patience. Can remember after my Mum had a severe stroke many years ago and had to rely on my Dad (who up until then she had waited on hand and foot). My Dad was not a patient person and found it extremely difficult to cope. Think women may have a little more patience then men.

Do hope you are managing to rest as much as you are able to. Take care. Beryl. (((()))) xx

stickywicket

Oh May, it sounds like an absolute nightmare of frustration for both of you and exhaustion for you. I do hope the OT can help. (((())))

dreamdaisy

I am thinking of you both very much. DD

stickywicket

((((()))))

dachshund

Hello May
i'm thinking about both of you. you have both been through such a lot.
take care ((((((((may))))))))
joan xx