Just Saying .....

dreamdaisy

Firstly, congratulations on the not lighting up - given the stress you are under that is no mean feat and I hope you feel strengthened by the fact that you have not lit a cigarette.

Secondly, (and here comes candour ) this has to be a stressful time for your marriage but hopefully your marriage history will be enough to get you through this crisis to the calmer waters on the other side. I think I am right in saying that your man has his health troubles - he may be feeling upset in that he cannot be as supportive as he might want to be due to his limitations. That is tough for him and you.

Thirdly, it is very hard to lose a parent. I've been there and done that and there's no Ladybird Guide to Grief. It hurts but death, and its aftermath, is a natural process.

I am thinking of you. DD

dibdab

Hi Debbie, just been catching up with your posts after my holiday. So so sad to hear about dad - there is really nothing anyone can do to make it better is there. I remember sitting with dad and just wanting his struggles to be done, not wishing his life away but not wanting him to endure any more, and somehow it felt disloyal, but I had all sorts of lovely conversations with him about him being ready to say goodbye, so hard when you have them but so comforting in the fullness of time.

I really hope that dad has dignity and peace as things progress. Do try to make some time for yourself if possible, and let folks help where they can- often the practical things make them feel better and take the strain off us just a little.

Well done on the non-smoking front- you are facing the toughest times with dignity and courage.

Every blessing

Deb x

DebbieT

Such beautiful, kind & personal words ... Thank you all (((( hugs ))))

My Dad was returned home via ambulance yesterday This is exactly wot he wanted for his final days!!

His army & civvy street friends are arriving over the week end to say their good byes. He's in really good spirits, being home is just wot he needed. He's seeing all of the Great Grandchildren today, well he saw Mason, my Grandson, yesterday.

I'm pleased the hospital visits are at an end, selfishly :?
Hubby & I are fine. We've been together since we were 15 & 17 so 28 years. We've gone thru an awful lot in that time but it just makes us stronger in the long run!! We argue rarely but I shout a lot I don't know why but we work

I truly can't thank you all enough!!xxxx

stickywicket

I'm glad your Dad can spend his last days as he wishes, Debbie. Don't dare feel it's selfish to be glad you're free of 'the hospital run'. You must be exhausted. As for you and your husband, you will have already overcome so many difficulties together that you will be a very strong couple. That's good. Thanks for the update.

Toots

Thank you for taking the time to update us Debbie, so glad your Dad is home and happy to be there.

Hugs never enough, but sending them to you in abundance xxx

DebbieT

Thank you all.

He's gone.

xxx

Boomer13

I am sorry Debbie.

((((((Debbie)))))))
xxAnna

lily

Debbie

im so very sorry for your loss, been through this with my mum and I know what your going through. My thoughts are with you

Take care of yourself
Lily x

Megrose489

So sorry, Debbie. Comfort yourself in knowing that you made his last days happy and contented. It will mean a lot in the weeks to come.

Look after yourself. ((()))

Meg

dreamdaisy

I send my condolences. The deeper sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain. DD

lulubell69

So sorry Debbie, my thoughts are with you.
Les

stickywicket

I'm so sorry, Debbie. The fact that it was expected and in a place of his choosing will, eventually, be of some consolation but I guess, right now, it's all too raw.

barbara12

Dear Debbie I send my deepest condolences...no other words just these (((())))xx

Toots

So heart sorry to hear this Debbie. Thinking of you and your family x

kentishlady

So sorry to hear your news Debbie. Sending lots of ((((())))) to help just a little. Take care of yourself. Beryl. xx

phoenixoxo

I'm so sorry, (((Debbie)))

Best wishes,
Phee

dreamdaisy

I am thinking of you. DD

barbara12

Still thinking of you Debbie...xx

DebbieT

Thank you all so very much!!!

The funeral is next Friday, 4th Oct.

I really wish I could just cry so I could start to let all of the tension & emotion, that's built over the past month, finally go!! I can't seem to tho. I welled up wen I found him but then the practical head took over again!!

I'm heartbroken but I'm also SO glad he didn't suffer.

Thank you all again.

((((hugs)))) xxx

Toots

The fact that your Dad didn't suffer too long and was at home will be a peace of mind, I know. Don't be too hard on yourself, you'll grieve when you're ready and in your own way, you're just getting yourself through this right now. Huge hugs Debbie x

stickywicket

I can only echo what Toots has said. I don't do tears. It doesn't mean to say you don't feel things. I hope the funeral goes as well as possible.

dibdab

So sorry to hear your sad news Debbie, but what a blessing for your dad that he is now free of suffering. How proud he must have been of you, a strong lady who has been courageous, faithful, caring and dignified as you journeyed with him.

You know part of dad will live on in the person that you are, he sowed in you the seeds of the adult you became, and no doubt you will pass on all those positive traits and values to the next generation.

What a blessing that he was able to come home and end the journey surrounded with love, you clearly gave him so much without asking for anything in return.

Now is the time to be gentle with yourself, and as the hours and days pass you will grieve in your own way. Often the funeral is cathartic and a chance to express our sorrows and say our goodbyes.

I will be holding you in my prayers.

Deb x

Toots

Hi Deb, just stopped by to send more hugs, thinking of you xxx

stickywicket

Me too (but thanks for the reminder, Toots )

kentishlady

I am also thinking about you. Take care of yourself. Beryl. ((((())))) xx