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I have just read this ~ bin away with cornish faries so no hope for me .....................is there a right or wrong way in our decisions ~:?: we can only do what we think is right for ourselves :!: right now my view is that i need to leave my OH of 22years as i cant cope with his lack of support or williness to 'learn' how to support me
sorry ~ i seem to have gone on here :!:
anyway ~ take care everyone ~ new to here or anyone i know :!: cotton wool hugs to everyone :!:
I am not one for coming on here very often ~ i feel i should be able to sort things as i have before ~ this is a failing in my part
What a great way of looking at acceptance of this, I unfortunately am not there yet :oops:. I do find it encouraging that a lot of you have accepted "Arthur", I have not and have a daily fight with him in every thing I do. I know I should know better, I know it's very negative and I know the energy I am wasting is pointless but can't help it.
Oh well very interesting and encouraging reading your posts, I just wait for the day, thing, person, tip, object that help me to reach the stage of acceptance!
:P :P :P
you all seem so strong and have it together where I am in pieces most days and emotional.
stickywicket & lindalegs ~ thank you for your kind words. Ringing the help line has been sugested before but I dont know why I dont ring them. Everyone on here who has rung them has had positive remarks. I must think about this very strongly.
My OH is not willing to talk ~ this is the biggest problem. He says he dosnt understand but wont sit down and listen to what I need to tell him. I have pleaded with him to come to the hospital next month so he can hear what the consultant has to say. the consultant is brill ~ same one as Cris goes to ~ he listens and asks sensible questions. But OH refused to go ~ so what do I do :?: I feel like I am hitting a brick wall.
He makes me feel that he is embarressd to walk with me and my walking stick ~ he always walks in front ~ sometimes leaving me behind. Or he says "do you really need your stick?" Yes I do ~ I woudnt use it if i didnt.
Yes I think he is worried but I am at my wits end on how to get out of this hole.
Anyway ~ thank you again. Loads cotton wool hugs coming your way ~ and over to anyone who wants them.