Sad time for me

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  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Linda

    I do hope that you are as well as can be expected in the circumstances, I wish to add a few lines to your thread, just in case you call in this evening/in the early hours, as it is so important that you feel you are being supported and have others to lean on, as well as your close family, at this time. I am sure you have, but I just want to let you know that I am thinking of you at this very difficult, unhappy time and fully realise that I too will have to make a similar journey some time in the future with my mum.

    Love
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I am thinking of you, legs, very much indeed.

    The deeper sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain. (Khallil Gibran).


    DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • bertyboy
    bertyboy Member Posts: 1,860
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    caring hugs Linda you are in my thoughts xx
    I know i am a lady ,all life is a journey xx MAY xx
  • julie47
    julie47 Member Posts: 6,041
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Linda

    Just to say I am still thinking of you

    Sending (((((((())))))

    Love Juliepf x
  • lalla
    lalla Member Posts: 138
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    ((((((linda))))))) thinking of you and your family Take care Linda
  • liesa
    liesa Member Posts: 821
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    sending much love and warm gentle hugs, poor love, very sad time for you all xxx love him like crazy whilst you still have him, wish i couldve told my mum i loved her whilst she was still alive... just wasnt that type of mum.... tell my kids i love them all the time xx
    love and hugs
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  • oneday
    oneday Member Posts: 1,434
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    so sorry to hear this Linda, take care x
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thinking of you all, Legs.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • vonski
    vonski Member Posts: 1,292
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Legs
    I'm re-iterating Cris' post. I wonder if your dad would benefit from the use of a rollator the four wheel ones have a seat so he can sit for a rest, he can even sit and be pushed/pulled.
    I hope you are managing to rest, you need all your strength, both physical and mental right now.
    Love and ((((()))))
    Vonski x
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Still thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • lindalegs
    lindalegs Member Posts: 5,398
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello everyone,

    Dad is very poorly now, on morphine and sleeps a lot.

    Unfortunately it seems all this emotion is taking a toll on my health. I've been laid up with a runny tummy, headache and sickness. As I've now had a runny tummy for nearly a fortnight I'm undergoing tests at the doctors. It may be IBS, which would make sense, but I can't get it under control. I've even tried starving myself for 36 hours which does stop the runs, stomach ache and gut soreness but leaves me with little energy.

    I haven't been able to get to see my Dad the last few days as it's a car journey away and I can't trust my bowels not to let me down.

    This making me feel really low, as you can imagine, and I'm angry at my body going into self-destruct mode right now when I need to be able to get out and about.

    On top of all this the family have been falling out though I'm trying my hardest to keep them together. Emotions are running so high at the moment and tempers flare so easily.

    What a tarrydiddle it all is! :roll:

    Thank you for not forgetting me and sending your messages of support and if any of you have any Tena Lady's going spare please send them my way. :wink:

    Love
    Love, Legs x
    'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'
  • lindalegs
    lindalegs Member Posts: 5,398
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    vonski wrote:
    Hi Legs
    I'm re-iterating Cris' .................you need all your strength, both physical and mental right now.
    Love and ((((()))))
    Vonski x

    Thanks for the suggestion Vonsk but my poor Dad doesn't have the energy to push a rollator now as he can barely cross a room without falling.

    My brother took him out for a drive in the car the other day and he does push him in a wheelchair to give him a change of scenery. The last couple of days though he's been too poorly even for this.

    I can't believe that less than two months ago he was going to the gym regularly.

    Take care of yourself.

    Love
    Love, Legs x
    'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh my lovely legs, I am so sorry to read this. The tension of this situation can cause people to react in a wide variety of ways, with anger, uncertainty, snappishness and churlishness often resulting. I hope the morphine is helping your dad as much as is possible, when my dad was in his last days I closed down so much that I cannot even now remember if he was on morphine or not. :oops: This is a very difficult time, but looking after you is not at all selfish: your family may well need the 'best as possible' Linda that you can manage. Take care. (((((())))) and a smidge of love. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • theresa4
    theresa4 Member Posts: 696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    thinking of you legs xx
    Theresa
    There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those. --Michael Nolan



    Theresa xxx
  • kathbee
    kathbee Member Posts: 934
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    So sorry to hear your latest news Linda.

    Hope you feel better soon as well, as you
    need strength right now.

    Thinking of you
    Love Kath
  • vonski
    vonski Member Posts: 1,292
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Legs

    Thinking of you at this sad time. I'm so sorry that your dad has got worse so quickly but I think he would want you to get yourself better and not get worse.

    Love and (((((())))))
    Vonski x
  • fayrose
    fayrose Member Posts: 241
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thinking of you Legs xx
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I’m so sorry, Legs. Just when you needed your body to be on top condition it lets you down. Mine did too when my Dad was hospitalised following a stroke. He lasted 48 hours and I couldn’t have handled another day, every joint was screaming for mercy.

    It’s also a sad fact that, with everyone’s nerves frayed, families do tend to fall apart just when they need to hold together.

    You are a very strong person. You will have done all you possibly can to whip your body into shape. If it’s not having it you’ll just have to do whatever it dictates. I really feel for you. Look after yourself.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Linda

    I am so sorry to hear the latest. If your dear dad is on morphine and sleeping a lot of the time at least he is not in pain, when in this state. I am sorry to hear of family tiffs, at a difficult time it is not made any easier by this, is it?

    As you for you, my dear Linda, although it will not cure you, why not start taking lopermide or equivalent bought over the counter, so that at least you can eat and keep your strength up without worrying about loos and so on. You will get weak if you are not eating and weak if the food is not staying with you long. You know that I have had the same problem for months and was diagnosed with IBSD - the gastro put me on amitriptyline and when the dose was made a little higher (25mg) it worked wonders for me and I can eat what I like and very rarely get the "runs" - may only feel a little uncomfortable, sometimes, but I am a bit greedy at times as I love my food. :oops: Gastro told me amitriptyline did not work for everyone.

    You are most defnitely, not forgotten,

    Love and fluffy hugs. as you definitely do need them right now,

    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • cloud9
    cloud9 Member Posts: 385
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Still thinking of you legs. So sorry. (((((((((()))))))))))
    Sue (Cloud9)
  • bertyboy
    bertyboy Member Posts: 1,860
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    sending caring hugs and tummy calming thoughts Linda , xx
    I know i am a lady ,all life is a journey xx MAY xx
  • Ankyspond
    Ankyspond Member Posts: 626
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Linda,

    So sorry to hear the awful disease is moving so fast, please take care of yourself as well. You can only do your best I know your dad would understand that. There is nothing anyone can say to make this horrible time any easier but am thinking of you. Xxx
    AS Sufferer
    Live, love and enjoy life, live each day as though it's your last!
  • traluvie
    traluvie Member Posts: 2,579
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Linda... You are doing an amazing job luvie..
    I'm so sorry you are going through all this..
    Thinking of you and sending you love and hugs ((((((((((X))))))))))
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  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Linda,

    I am sorry your health has taken a nose dive at a time when you want to be strong. But don't feel bad about it as your health is important too and you want to be as well as possible when visiting your dad.I know how you feel worrying about loos and things especially over long journeys. Hopefully lopermide will help as Elna has suggested and when you feel confident to travel the journey you can get over to see your Dad.

    Much love and hugs at this difficult time,
    Elizabeth xx
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • kellerman
    kellerman Member Posts: 741
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Linda, You have had some good advise here.
    It's terrible that when you need to be strong all this has hit you.
    You need to look after yourself.You can't change anything.
    Your Dad will be pain free,there is nothing more you can do so please get your problems sorted
    I'm thinking of you.
    Love May

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