Tony's Dad.

mig

Hi Tony,Hope its warmer in Skeg than nottm,hope you and Janet have some quiet time.(((())))Mig

applerose

Glad you've managed to get some sleep now and able to have a laugh at the photos. It'll do you good to have friends around.

dreamdaisy

Hello mate, I've been thinking of you all day and I hope that things are somewhat easier now for your mum, you and Janet too. DD

bubbles

Take things one day at a time, it is all surreal, like living in treacle, but having people around will help. It is SO long since I have been to Skeggy, used to love going, many many blue moons ago.
Take lots of care and try and rest up when you can. Hugs to all XX Bubbles

Petitesse

Hi Tony,

I am glad the funeral went well and hopefully you will be able to get some needed rest now.
I have been reading this post many times, but never posted anything because I don't know you. I have still been thinking of you though.

I wanted to post to you one of my favourite poems, I don't know if you have read it before. I have also lost people close to me and I like to think they are still right here with us, still part of nature, still part of life, and always in our hearts and thoughts:

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star-shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

Hugs from Pia

tjt6768

pia, that is lovely hun. And a huge thank you for posting. We don't need top know one and other to care eh? I appreciate the post.

Mig, it's miserable here this morning, the sun is meant to burn through later though. I do hope so.

Matron, you would see such a change if you came over. I've watched the place change year by year.. I've been coming here every year since I was born. In fact Mum has been coming since she was a teenager. A true family place.. Lots of great memories.

DD, bless you mi hunni.. You're a lovely pal

Christimay

Hello tony there are about 9 hours between us at moment, this I know as skeggy is where we holiday at, we stay at primrose valley and go in to sk every day, there is a take away and restaurant near the end beside the fun fair we visit all the time such a lovely place and so very busy.we first started 19 years ago so I have seen the changes, my bairns loved the outside pool.i can't believe it took so long for your dads funeral, here it is only a matter of days this must have been so stressful for you all, I'm sure you have much happy memories in skeggy that photos you were looking at, are now your pieces of gold, the pain does ease tony I promise you that but it does take time, I just feel that to have had a dad like how yours was and mine was was one of life's blessings, but tony you do need to rest as this will help you move forward

7worlds

Hi Tony. So glad that you got through the funeral ok. The only thing i remember about my mums funeral when she died was that it passed in a blur, but all my childhood memories remain as clear as the day they happened. The day will come when you will think of your Dad and a smile will follow the sadness. Take care.

7worlds

tjt6768

Hi Cristi.. Thank you for the message hun.
Are you sure that you mean Skeggy? Primrose Valley is a fair distance away.. Is it Skipsea perhaps?
I love Skeggy but it will never be the same again. I miss Dad terribly. I'm having a pretty tough day today to be honest.. In a lot of pain still (did hurt myself on the day) plus emotionally I'm rubbish right now. I'm so tired but couldn't sleep..
7worlds, thank you too.. We have so many good memories. At the minute every time I try to sleep all I picture is him in pain as he was that morning.. I wish that memory would fade fast.

I have the rheumy appointment on monday.. I hope I can keep it together, I've not been too great at that these past few days.. The steroids have certainly helped, the elbows are no longer screaming at me and the knees are not swollen anymore. My back has been hurting since the funeral, I was hoping that the nerves I had burnt off a while ago would not notice what I was doing.. Knees are agony with the OA and the hands are constantly on fire, think it's the carpal tunnel.. It's like being slapped across the palm several times with a ruler, takes me back to my school days..

I'm assuming they'll stop the steroids and maybe start the methotrexate..
Who knows.
I'm sorry for waffling on folks.. I do that when I'm tired.

Gonna try sleep again. Thanks for reading and being so supportive..

bubbles

you are not waffling, not a bit of it. You are just going over things in your head and realising that damned arthur is ever present and playing catch up.

It is a year today since my Dads funeral, I was saying to OH today, that I cannot remember a thing from the service, no matter how hard I try. I did read through the order of service tonight. I vaguely remember thanking people for coming, after the service, but, before, not a thing. Strange how our minds go all to pot sometimes.

Take care, as ever Matron is sending hugs and anti arthur vibes. XX Bubbles

valval

not sure if to say morning or evening but hi will have to do i wish i could wrap you in bubble wrap till all the pain has gone but it just not possible so rest up and sleep when you can hope rhummy app. goes ok monday ((())) val

joanlawson

Hi Tony, I'm so glad that you managed to carry your Dad's coffin as I know that meant so much to you. I'm very sorry that you are in so much pain and feeling exhausted. Hopefully, the rheumy will be able to help you on Monday.
You are in my thoughts, and I hope that things will become a bit easier for you in the coming months.

Joanxx

dreamdaisy

I am thinking of you. DD

Susiesoo

I, too, am thinking of you Tony. Susie

mig

Hope your appointment goes well.(((((())))))Mig

tjt6768

I'm sat in the waiting room for my rheumy appointment..
Will let you know how it goes.
Thanks everyone

fowls48

good luck Tony

Hope all goes well .


fowls xx

barbara12

morning Tony
I may have missed you, but I do hope it has gone well for you...(((((())))xx

joanlawson

I've been thinking about you this morning, Tony, and I hope your appointment was helpful.

I'm coming up near you tomorrow on a trip ( Salt's Mill, near Bradford ) I'll have to tell them to drop me off in Leeds to say hello to you

tjt6768

another time eh Joan. Lol
Hope you enjoyed the trip out..
Xx